what would you think?

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  • scasey1656
    scasey1656 Posts: 89 Member
    This very thing happens to me all the time but in random places... grocery store, getting coffee at Starbucks, church, its a little awkward and it makes my wife uncomfortable so guys... please stop :laugh:

    Well, you kinda bring that on yourself. You do have a beard. Just sayin'.
  • Capt_Apollo
    Capt_Apollo Posts: 9,026 Member
    Im quite shocked i was just informed its classed as a sexual assault in this country??? wtf? I think someones pulling my leg... thats it romance really is dead :devil:






    Being grabbed and kissed by a stranger is "romance"?? HELL NO!! It's an offense!


    I didnt say grabbed and kissed by a stranger is romance.. but i dont think someone asking if they can kiss you is natural or romantic. Im sure the guy isnt talking about forcing himself on anyone.

    Asking someone if you can kiss them isn't the same as not speaking to them all night, trying to read their body language, and then grabbing them at 11:59pm and kissing them without so much as an introduction.
  • BeardedYoung
    BeardedYoung Posts: 229 Member
    This very thing happens to me all the time but in random places... grocery store, getting coffee at Starbucks, church, its a little awkward and it makes my wife uncomfortable so guys... please stop :laugh:

    Well, you kinda bring that on yourself. You do have a beard. Just sayin'.

    I know... I know.... curse this irresistible appeal this beard brings...
  • jennifer_417
    jennifer_417 Posts: 12,344 Member
    97% chance you'll end up with a knee in your nuts.
  • yopeeps025
    yopeeps025 Posts: 8,680 Member
    97% chance you'll end up with a knee in your nuts.

    That be keeping it light for consequences.
  • lizzybathory
    lizzybathory Posts: 229
    Just because she's "available" (clue: not "taken" doesn't mean she's available to you) and just because in this scenario you feel you're more attractive doesn't make this okay. This is basically assault. I can see how it'd make a cute romcom movie plot twist or something, but in real life, you're planning to assault a strange woman who has absolutely no say in it.

    People have so many different preferences. Even if she was open to the idea of being kissed randomly by a stranger, and even if you think you're pretty attractive, you have no idea what she would like in a man. Maybe you're losing a lot of weight and putting on some muscle, but who knows? Maybe she prefers scrawnier guys with hipster beards; you don't know. Even if you are really proud of the progress you've made and the way you look, it doesn't mean some random woman is guaranteed to be attracted to you.

    Even if I was single, which I don't think you could really know for sure, I would absolutely view this as 100% inappropriate and really, really not okay. I would do everything I could to report you to the police. Even if you were actually visually attractive to me, that kind of entitlement over my body is one of the most disgusting traits a strange man could have. Honestly, I'd go home and cry about that violation.
  • lizzybathory
    lizzybathory Posts: 229
    I've actually done this before. Many many years ago. Wound up in a long term relationship with her. I just wondered what women of today might think. Plus, I'm attracted to a very specific type of woman. No offense to anyone, but the most negative responses came from women that wouldn't have been the one I choose anyway. It's not all looks. You can tell the ebb and flow of a woman by her body lamguage. Her demeanor. How she carries herself. It won't be some random "assault" like I rushed her and tackled her like a linebacker.
    Thank you for your responses and your honesty.

    1. Guy asks women's opinions
    2. Women say "hell no"
    3. Guy calls them ugly and claims to be the master of interpreting the female psyche
  • 1991Louise
    1991Louise Posts: 5 Member
    I want to look good on new years, pick the hottest chick in the room, and just walk up and kiss her at midnight. Not a word spoken before or after. Just kiss and walk away. And her memory NOT be of that fat creep that did that. Instead, "OMG WHO was that? IDK but he was HOT!"

    So, ladies....if this happened to you, what would your reaction be? I'm so gonna do this, but I kinda want to hear how it could be received.

    Haven't read other comments but that ^^^ is sexual harrassment. Sorry, it's great you're feeling so confident and everything but engage in conversation with her first and get your flirt on. Or if you wanted the spontaneity try asking first "do you mind if I start my year by kissing the most beautiful girl in the room?" if you get a yes then get your kiss on.
  • lizzybathory
    lizzybathory Posts: 229
    I'm attracted to a very specific type of woman. No offense to anyone, but the most negative responses came from women that wouldn't have been the one I choose anyway.
    So you think you can determine how a woman will feel about certain things based on a profile picture? No way, dude. The women you tend to be physically attracted to don't all magically share a common opinion about strangers putting their mouths on them without permission.
    It won't be some random "assault" like I rushed her and tackled her like a linebacker.
    You know it's still assault even if she doesn't suffer physical injury, right? You don't need to knock her down for it to be gross and rapey.

    Please. You asked for women's opinions, because I think (hope) you're not so sure about your plan. You got them. Now listen to them.
  • kimothy38
    kimothy38 Posts: 840 Member
    I would probably try pretty damn hard to report him to the police. Not cool. It's rapey.
    I disagree. You can kiss someone without creepy hands and tongue etc. I think it's awesome. Really depends if the girl has a sense of humour.
  • lizzybathory
    lizzybathory Posts: 229
    I would probably try pretty damn hard to report him to the police. Not cool. It's rapey.
    I disagree. You can kiss someone without creepy hands and tongue etc. I think it's awesome. Really depends if the girl has a sense of humour.
    I assure you; my sense of humor is just fine despite my preference that strangers don't put their mouths on me. Being cool with people feeling entitled to your body isn't the ultimate sign that you're a cool girl with a great sense of humor.

    Point is, some girls might be cool with this. But many, many won't - according to this thread. He has no way of knowing if he's going to pleasantly surprise someone (seems like a slim chance, honestly) or if he's going to leave some poor girl feeling violated.
  • Alluminati
    Alluminati Posts: 6,208 Member
    I would probably try pretty damn hard to report him to the police. Not cool. It's rapey.
    I disagree. You can kiss someone without creepy hands and tongue etc. I think it's awesome. Really depends if the girl has a sense of humour.
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    So all the females that disagree with you, don't have a sense of humor?
  • InevitableButterfly
    InevitableButterfly Posts: 340 Member
    I would probably try pretty damn hard to report him to the police. Not cool. It's rapey.
    I disagree. You can kiss someone without creepy hands and tongue etc. I think it's awesome. Really depends if the girl has a sense of humour.

    Not sorry, but unwanted/uninvited sexual contact of any kind, even kissing, is never funny. Implying that we don't have a sense of humour simply because we don't want to have someone force their mouth on us is wrong and also not funny. Ask for a kiss, get consent, and then kiss. No consent = assault, sexual assault, harassment, or whatever else you could get charged with.
  • lizzybathory
    lizzybathory Posts: 229
    Ask for a kiss, get consent, and then kiss. No consent = assault, sexual assault, harassment, or whatever else you could get charged with.
    I feel like this fantasy could be just as exciting, and a lot more respectful of fantasy-dream-girl's wishes, if he went up to his chosen stranger and said "Can I kiss you?" If she's into it, get on with the kissing. It'd still be so unexpected, MAYBE he'll get to do it, and fantasy-dream-girl has a say in it. If she's not into it, she'll just laugh at him later with her friends for being a creeper, but at least he won't violate her.

    But he'd rather assault somebody than face possible rejection, so there's that.
  • MelsAuntie
    MelsAuntie Posts: 2,833 Member
    And since we're being so honest here, from the viewpoint of a woman who, in her younger days, was quite often the best looking woman in the room: Personally, a gentle, glasses-wearing, intellectual, nerdy kind of guy would probably be given a yes if he asked me first, and a muscular beefcake with big arms, which I didn't then and don't now consider "hot" AT ALL, grabbing me without a word said, would trigger a " threatening attacker, defend myself by any means I can" response.
  • yopeeps025
    yopeeps025 Posts: 8,680 Member
    I wonder if all the girls would say "hey the celeb I fantasize over walked up to me a kiss me and now I will call the police on him or her."

    No need to answer I already know it.
  • SheGlows
    SheGlows Posts: 520 Member
    I wonder if all the girls would say "hey the celeb I fantasize over walked up to me a kiss me and now I will call the police on him or her."

    No need to answer I already know it.

    Being a celebrity does not give you the option to feel entitled to my body.
  • LadyRN76
    LadyRN76 Posts: 4,275 Member
    I wonder if all the girls would say "hey the celeb I fantasize over walked up to me a kiss me and now I will call the police on him or her."

    No need to answer I already know it.

    Being a celebrity does not give you the option to feel entitled to my body.

    +1
  • paperpudding
    paperpudding Posts: 9,278 Member
    I wonder if all the girls would say "hey the celeb I fantasize over walked up to me a kiss me and now I will call the police on him or her."

    No need to answer I already know it.

    But that is largely irelevant. If the person wanted the celeb to do this, then it isnt unwanted contact.

    I would still think it a very foolish celeb who did this without asking- as he/she wouldn't know if the recipient wants it or not ( just like OP wouldn't) and so are leaving themselves open to accusations of assault.

    however, I think most people know that fantasies like this about celebs are just that - fantasies.
    Enjoyable but not reality.

    If OP enjoys fantasising about such a scenario, that's fine - but it's not reality.
  • Fitdoge
    Fitdoge Posts: 52 Member
    I have pepper spray, and my SO won't be able to be here on new years.
    I think that covers it.
  • Miss_1999
    Miss_1999 Posts: 747 Member
    I know I'm in the absolute minority, and was probably a slut before I was married, but what the hell, it wouldn't have bothered me. It's New Year's Eve. Chances are, I would've been **** faced drunk, and you know, if I could make someone happy, then hey, I aim to please. What's a kiss? They aren't taking me to the hotel.

    Now, beware, times, they have changed. There probably aren't a lot who think like I do these days. Yeah, we're still out there, the free-spirits, who just anything kinda goes, but we're few and far between. So, it might or might not go over well. Just be prepared.
  • randomtai
    randomtai Posts: 9,003 Member
    I know I'm in the absolute minority, and was probably a slut before I was married, but what the hell, it wouldn't have bothered me. It's New Year's Eve. Chances are, I would've been **** faced drunk, and you know, if I could make someone happy, then hey, I aim to please. What's a kiss? They aren't taking me to the hotel.

    Now, beware, times, they have changed. There probably aren't a lot who think like I do these days. Yeah, we're still out there, the free-spirits, who just anything kinda goes, but we're few and far between. So, it might or might not go over well. Just be prepared.

    :noway: :noway: :noway:
  • headofphat
    headofphat Posts: 1,597 Member
    Don't listen to any of these girls and just go for it. Oh and have a buddy record it, I love to see a good train wreck.
  • lillyrose2020
    lillyrose2020 Posts: 178 Member
    Please don't. This is such a cave man approach. Nobody wants to be forced/manhandled. Rapey vibes for sure! Also it is like something from a lame movie.
    I don't think it is too much to ask to introduce yourself, have some kind of conversation and be a normal human being. Remember that Christmas/NYE is such a romantic time of year, so many people will be on the look out for a midnight smooch, make the most of it and make it with someone that you know will kiss you back and not slap your face.
    You also don't know if she is single, or if she is straight or she might have some weird mouth disease, you don't wanna get involved with that!
  • lillyrose2020
    lillyrose2020 Posts: 178 Member
    I've actually done this before. Many many years ago. Wound up in a long term relationship with her. I just wondered what women of today might think. Plus, I'm attracted to a very specific type of woman. No offense to anyone, but the most negative responses came from women that wouldn't have been the one I choose anyway. It's not all looks. You can tell the ebb and flow of a woman by her body lamguage. Her demeanor. How she carries herself. It won't be some random "assault" like I rushed her and tackled her like a linebacker.
    Thank you for your responses and your honesty.

    1. Guy asks women's opinions
    2. Women say "hell no"
    3. Guy calls them ugly and claims to be the master of interpreting the female psyche

    Totally nailed it!
  • SLLeask
    SLLeask Posts: 489 Member
    I don't care how good looking you are, if you come up to me without so much as a word and attempt to kiss me, you are going to be singing soprano for several weeks!
  • MusclenMascara
    MusclenMascara Posts: 50 Member
    This is only going to end in tears. Probably yours!
  • JT_Taylor99
    JT_Taylor99 Posts: 148
    OP you should wear a GOPRO so we can get a first person view of the reaction you get! I am sure it will be EPIC and not in a good way for you!
  • Return_of_the_Big_Mac
    Return_of_the_Big_Mac Posts: 474 Member
    I wonder if all the girls would say "hey the celeb I fantasize over walked up to me a kiss me and now I will call the police on him or her."

    No need to answer I already know it.

    Being a celebrity does not give you the option to feel entitled to my body.

    Yeah it does. Its part of the perks. Get with it, you prude
  • yopeeps025
    yopeeps025 Posts: 8,680 Member
    I've actually done this before. Many many years ago. Wound up in a long term relationship with her. I just wondered what women of today might think. Plus, I'm attracted to a very specific type of woman. No offense to anyone, but the most negative responses came from women that wouldn't have been the one I choose anyway. It's not all looks. You can tell the ebb and flow of a woman by her body lamguage. Her demeanor. How she carries herself. It won't be some random "assault" like I rushed her and tackled her like a linebacker.
    Thank you for your responses and your honesty.

    1. Guy asks women's opinions
    2. Women say "hell no"
    3. Guy calls them ugly and claims to be the master of interpreting the female psyche

    Totally nailed it!

    He is trying to justify that this type of person who would be down for unwelcome contact which is sexual harassment. LOL well bro no one can stop you so do what you want. BTW hottest girl in the room single on new years eve. Is that a oxymoron?

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