Are you losing weight to feel more attractive?

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  • snowflake930
    snowflake930 Posts: 2,188 Member
    No. The best thing about losing the weight for me, is being able to blend in and not being looked at just because I was obese. Being anonymous in a crowd is liberating for me and I like not being looked at for that reason alone.
  • WreckaRed
    WreckaRed Posts: 116 Member
    Yes.. I want people to see me and think "she lost a lot of weight and looks great". Plus, when I feel confident about how I look I am in a MUCH better state of mind, which helps my marriage, my friendships and being a good mom. Happy chick=Happy household.
  • highcarbveganzombie
    highcarbveganzombie Posts: 68 Member
    It's about 90% just to get healthy for me. I've been heavy since I was a kid. That other 10% is vanity. I want to look good for myself, not for a man, not for anyone else but me. I want to feel confident and take pride in myself. :)
  • asdfthax
    asdfthax Posts: 12
    I just want to be a healthy weight. I don't associate weight with attractiveness. Intelligence and personality are long-lasting.
  • I_Will_End_You
    I_Will_End_You Posts: 4,397 Member
    Yep.
  • nvpixie
    nvpixie Posts: 483 Member
    Oh yeah. For sure. I want to be healthy as well, but my main drive is that sex is so much better when I feel good about how my body looks. In turn, my husband is happier and so am I.
  • Terraforcejenny
    Terraforcejenny Posts: 47 Member
    It's very frustrating how taboo this is; as a short and petite type person, I get a lot of "nooo, you look so goooood! Why would you be trying to lose weight? Girl, you do you and you'll be beautiful!" But in all honesty, it's not that I think I look awful, but I want to feel sexy! It's hard to feel that way when you've gained weight you KNOW you shouldn't have.

    Obviously it's fine to want to improve your appearance for appearance sake, as long as you aren't bringing yourself down too much while you do it.

    I'd say it's 80% for wanting to look good, for myself, and 20% for health reasons. Maybe even more on the vanity side; health is nice and all, but the benefits aren't as tangible and I have to push myself more than if I'm honest with myself and admit I want to look sexy in my own skin, without hiding the cush.
  • matt_evans
    matt_evans Posts: 22 Member
    Did I start losing weight because I wanted to look more attractive to women? No not really I just felt crap about myself and was fed up of wearing enormous shirts to try and hide how I looked!

    That said the truth is since I have lost some weight all of a sudden I get the odd admiring glance from women and for a single guy like me it’s certainly a motivator to keep going!

    I’m confident enough in myself to talk to a complete stranger and maybe even flirt a bit! I certainly don’t feel embarrassed anymore, which is where I would have been this time last year.

    Will I keep going to feel sexier, more attractive and more confident? That’s a no brainer. :wink:
  • lanajanewoolf
    lanajanewoolf Posts: 9 Member
    Yes I am! I am losing weight to feel more attractive. I am one of these weird people who is actually quite fit even over weight. No matter how much exercise I did, I didn't lose weight. (and I have been active for pretty much my whole life). My weight gain only really became an issue over the last 7 or so years (since I hit 30) I kept putting on weight. One of the main motivators for losing weight is being more comfortable to pursue romantic / intimate connections. (to be blunt, I hardly have sex any more, i hardly date and I want more of this knowing that it is likely more to do with my self esteem / body image than anything else).
  • icetopaz
    icetopaz Posts: 28 Member
    I used to want to lose weight to feel more attractive, but it didn't work. Now I want to lose weight to be healthy.
  • N2Couture
    N2Couture Posts: 2,762 Member
    For my health and well being for and foremost but
    looking better would be a bonus!
  • marinabreeze
    marinabreeze Posts: 141 Member
    For me, it's mostly health. Vanity has historically been a demotivator for me. When I was a kid I was bullied a lot for my weight. I also faced a lot of romantic rejection as a teen and young adult for my size. I always felt that losing weight for vanity's sake would mean that those who couldn't accept me as I was were right and I deserved to be harassed and overlooked. I was later able to gain a measure of confidence and saw my love life change without having to drop pounds to do it.

    Now, several years later - I'm married and my DH is crazy about me. My vitals are still good - no diabetes, HBP or high cholesterol. But I'm at the point where I want to maintain my health - I want to feel better and lighter and I want to lessen the chances of future health problems like the kind my father dealt with that led to his death at 57. Right now, I also don't feel comfortable with the way I look, and want to slim down. The key for me being *I* don't like it, not that others don't like it. In a nutshell, 90% health, 10% vanity.
  • cincysweetheart
    cincysweetheart Posts: 892 Member
    I wouldn't say vanity was the primary reason I started… but it was more of a factor than my health. I've been very lucky with good genetics, so I haven't had any weight-related health problems. So, vanity definitely played the bigger part. However… even though I haven't had health problems, there was always the lingering fear in the back of my mind that it would catch up to me… so, I admit… I really like losing that nagging feeling in the back of my mind. I'm still way overweight… but at least it's going the right direction this time!
  • loribethrice
    loribethrice Posts: 620 Member
    I'm in the more attractive category. I mean, the health stuff is good too but I was at the point where I hated how I looked so much that it was ruining my self-esteem and my mental health.
  • GatorDeb1
    GatorDeb1 Posts: 245 Member
    I like to do triathlons, so I mainly lose weight to be lighter :) And starting at 119 lbs and below I "look like a runner" (in my opinion, like I would look at myself, and think, she looks like a runner) so it's also for looks but to look like I look like a runner :)
  • jennifer_417
    jennifer_417 Posts: 12,344 Member
    Came for vanity, stayed for health :)
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    This exactly. (though still in for vanity...also gainz)
  • Velum_cado
    Velum_cado Posts: 1,608 Member
    No. I've always felt attractive, and I especially liked appealing to the demographic that prefers bigger girls, because they REALLLLLY prefer bigger girls. There were times I felt absolutely worshipped when I was larger. My husband is one of these men, and he's my target audience, so I never felt unattractive. He loves me for me, of course, but now that I'm smaller I feel I'm a really boring, average size. Yawn. :/
  • Missjulesdid
    Missjulesdid Posts: 1,444 Member
    No. I've always felt attractive, and I especially liked appealing to the demographic that prefers bigger girls, because they REALLLLLY prefer bigger girls. There were times I felt absolutely worshipped when I was larger. My husband is one of these men, and he's my target audience, so I never felt unattractive. He loves me for me, of course, but now that I'm smaller I feel I'm a really boring, average size. Yawn. :/

    I was also very popular with the chubby chaser crowd. I had a very well proportioned fat body that almost looked like a cartoon picture of a fat woman. Curvy and plump from toes to nose. I looked at least 10 years younger than my age.. I was also still very active right up until about a year before I started losing weight when my joint pain went into overdrive and I couldn't really hike or exercise like I used to.

    It was the pain that was my wake up call and made me want to start losing weight and made me realize that I couldn't keep doing what I was doing to my body. I guess that's why I didn't really have much success with previous weight loss attempts... Because I really DID feel comfortable in my fat skin. It took health concerns to light a fire under me.

    I met my husband as I was losing weight. He prefers a fatter woman but he supports me in losing weight. He loves to grab my stomach and tell it how much he's going to miss it though.
  • llUndecidedll
    llUndecidedll Posts: 724 Member
    Yes and No. I don't have an attractive body shape/look for a female, so I've accepted the fact that I'll never be that woman [even the average woman]. I have a very masculine build. Even at my lowest weight of 150 lbs, my shape stayed the same. This has caused me to be depressed for years and years. The best 'compliment' I've ever received on my looks was "cute but manly" or "handsome woman". This is why I can't take most women seriously who complain about their problems that can easily be fixed by diet and exercise. You have a woman's body, but you want to lose 50 lbs, so lose it. I will never have "a woman's body" and it's depressing. But, I am learning /have learned to get over it. I am learning/ have learned to accept my 'manjaw', broad shoulders, big hands/feet, narrow hips, huge calves, flat bum, and all. Right now, I'm just trying to work on something positive. My body is starting to go downhill, so it's time to get healthier. Hopefully, I will meet my goals. I have another goal that ties in with my weight loss goal, but I may wait until I'm half way there to 'reveal' that one.
  • TheSheepFollower
    TheSheepFollower Posts: 64 Member
    Yessssssss.........I miss the old thin me!
  • pixelatedsun
    pixelatedsun Posts: 165 Member
    Mostly. I mean, I want to be healthy as well but it's all side-effects of the same thing: going from obese to overweight to average. With that forward momentum comes not just health, but vanity. I don't remember what it's like to look 'average,' or even 'overweight' - I've just been "fat" as long as I can remember. I want to change that. Looking cute while doing it? Bonus points.
  • climbing_trees
    climbing_trees Posts: 726 Member
    ...duh.
    Is there really any other reason to lose weight?

    (I mean vanity pounds, I suppose. Once you're in the healthy range, the only reason to keep losing is to get more attractive.)

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