Age is nothing but a number

I find that everyone who says age is nothing but a number is trying too hard to justify their relationship or their standards.

Age is a number, yes, but if a 21 year old male tried to date my 14 year old daughter, he's gonna have a bad time.

What about when she is 21 and he is 28?

Its not so much the age as it is one is an adult and one is a child. For adults, age does not matter. IMHO.

I find that everyone who says age is nothing but a number is trying too hard to justify their relationship or their standards.

Age is a number, yes, but if a 21 year old male tried to date my 14 year old daughter, he's gonna have a bad time.

What about when she is 21 and he is 28?

Its not so much the age as it is one is an adult and one is a child. For adults, age does not matter. IMHO.

Apples to oranges. If she's 21 and he's 28, fine. They're both consenting adults.

I understand that OP. I see you're getting some negative responses which I find a bit surprising honestly. I've always been similar.

Especially when I was young (like early 20's) I was intimidated a bit by older guys who were even just 4-5 years older. I dated some but found they usually made a big deal about the age difference and spoke to me in a condescending way so that I always felt the need to kind of compete/prove myself to them. I didn't like that at all. Then again I've met guys my own age who did that too.

The vast majority of guys I have dated and had relationships with were within 2-3 years of my own age (older or younger). I've been married twice. My ex husband was about 3 years younger, and my husband now is 5 years younger than I am. There are absolutely no issues with the age difference.

The last time I was single, at 35, for dating sites I believe that I chose an age range of 25-45. For the most part though, I didn't click with any guys over 37 and just found fun activities and friendship with the guys under 30. So for me a small age range seems best.

I understand that OP. I see you're getting some negative responses which I find a bit surprising honestly. I've always been similar.

Especially when I was young (like early 20's) I was intimidated a bit by older guys who were even just 4-5 years older. I dated some but found they usually made a big deal about the age difference and spoke to me in a condescending way so that I always felt the need to kind of compete/prove myself to them. I didn't like that at all. Then again I've met guys my own age who did that too.

The vast majority of guys I have dated and had relationships with were within 2-3 years of my own age (older or younger). I've been married twice. My ex husband was about 3 years younger, and my husband now is 5 years younger than I am. There are absolutely no issues with the age difference.

The last time I was single, at 35, for dating sites I believe that I chose an age range of 25-45. For the most part though, I didn't click with any guys over 37 and just found fun activities and friendship with the guys under 30. So for me a small age range seems best.

You. I like you. This is why we're friends. Your logic is impeccable.

What are we talking about. dating? having fun? marriage?

For having fun the range can be well umm high like 50s LOL. It amazes me sometimes the women I find attractive and just cannot believe how much older they are than me. :ohwell: It don't matter to me. Once you go cougar you never go cub.
Dating and marriage the age gets lower.
Age is just a number but if you cannot legally drink in the US then you are too young for me.

I think it can depend on a lot of things. I was the youngest in my family, so I spent a lot of time hanging out with my older brothers and their friends. One is 4 years older than me and one is 6 years older than me. My first husband was 6 years older than me and my current husband is 7 years older than me. I was 18 and my ex was 24 when we got married. I was 23 and my current husband was 30 when we started dating (25 & 32 when we got married). I have never been interested in men who are younger than me and I didn't date much in high school, the guys I did date were either older than me in high school or were in college.

It's a non-issue for me. It doesn't matter if you're 35 or 65. If I find you attractive, you're mature and we have a lot in common then that's all that matters.

Well when you are 58 years old, you come back here and tell us if age is still important to you. If you have kept the idea that you can only date a range of men, who at that time will be 56 to 64 years old. Or if you suddenly find it okay to date younger men...

Seriously, IMO, the fact that age does matter to you is telling of your current maturity level. But that just my opinion.

I am not quite sure how you can tell my maturity level due to the "usual" age range I tend to stick to... but you will feel how you will feel... I am not saying I am AGAINST dating Older or younger than the range I stated - I simply said that I just haven't ever found anyone outside that range that I felt comfortable with talking to in more of a serious/romantic manner.

Well... part of my conclusion is most likely biased based on my previous experiences with you in the forums. Preference is preference. But beyond physical attraction, I can't imagine what hindrance you would find with dating older men.

Life experience can shape and mold a person, but at the core, most people's personalities remain the same throughout their lifetime. Life experience might change one's views and beliefs. But if they are charming, intelligent, friendly, and humorous (just using these as examples, I have no idea what personality traits you find attractive) in their youth, they tend to exhibit these traits throughout their lives.