Open Relationships

Personally, and this is my personal opinion...I feel that open relationships and polyamorous ones are code for 'I don't want to grow up or be in a committed relationship because I'm chicken'....

Again, this is my personal opinion and I mean no offense by it.

Ahhh, the One Penis Policy. Because sex isn't real sex if there is no penis involved, and therefore it's not a real relationship. It's just misogyny.

This doesn't always follow this gender norm; Despite wanting to be open-minded enough to think I'd be ok with polyamory, I always end up reverting to the one vagina policy with my husband.

Interesting! I've never heard of it being this way around before.

I have a hard time understanding this situation in general. If you want to be with other people why be in a committed relationship to begin with? I see it as wanting your cake & eat it to.

Who the hell wants cake they can't eat??

Especially with whipped cream ome top...

I just want the icing. I'll eat the icing, you can have the cake.

Do you like it straight from the container or applied?

Hmmmm.....it depends.


What flavor is it?

Not sure ..rumor is it is a little salty

Is there a separate forum for disgusting and desperate online sex chats perchance?

desperate and disgusting are opinions..some might day taking on multiple partners is disgusting but i am sorry you are offended

Personally, and this is my personal opinion...I feel that open relationships and polyamorous ones are code for 'I don't want to grow up or be in a committed relationship because I'm chicken'....

Again, this is my personal opinion and I mean no offense by it.

It always makes me laugh to hear this opinion, because when you are in more than one romantic relationship at once and you care about the people you're with, you're on a very intensive crash-course of emotional learning. Lots of poly people I know (including me) are often told we are very emotionally mature for this reason. The ability to commit to more than one person is rarely taken lightly - and that's what polyamory is, a willingness to be in a committed romantic relationship with more than one person. It's hardly commitmentphobia - more like commitmentphilia!

People can do and explore what they want sexually. It's best when everyone is safe physically and emotionally, and when everyone is informed and in agreement (without deception or manipulation). That's my opinion. And it's personal, not really anyone's business.

Personally, and this is my personal opinion...I feel that open relationships and polyamorous ones are code for 'I don't want to grow up or be in a committed relationship because I'm chicken'....

Again, this is my personal opinion and I mean no offense by it.

Actually, wouldn't being in two+ committed relationships (polyamory) describe a person who -very much- enjoys commitment?

And wouldn't taking care of two+ significant others imply that you are grown up? As you would have to double up on many adult situations such as bills and emotions and potentially children.

I'm not saying that everyone has to do it or be okay with it, or that your opinion is invalid, I am just making an argument for the fact that maybe you just don't care to have that type of relationship and it's not a reflection of the maturity level of the people involved in that type of relationship. I don't assume that people in monogamous relationships are jealous and insecure, they just like being monogamous, and that's that.

All of my relationships were open when I was younger and I was adament about never getting married, ever, because I do have very strong opionions about marriage (for me). I didn't want to be tied down or "belong" to one particular person or have to share my stuff.... and then i met my husband. I can't fathom having another man touch me, or another woman touch him.

As far as friends and family, I would much rather stay home and do" nothing" with my husband than go out and do anything else with anyone else. There is a different bond with him then there is with anyone else, he is by far (along with our children) the most important thing in my life. And it's not just a sexual bond, If I'm happy about something, it's not the same if I can't share it with him, If I'm upset about something, he does what he can to fix that, and yes, he is the only one that can do that so completely. He can fix an unfixable situation. He's deployed right now and I feel like part of me is missing... because it is.

I'm not judging, because I've been there, and I get it, to each their own and I'm happy for anyone that finds happiness, doesn't matter where you find it as long as it's not in a pipe or a bottle. But I did want to defend those of us that do think that one person can satisfy us completely for the rest of our lives.

if you're in a relationship and you aren't happy, the get out or make it work. wrong is wrong even if both agree to do it. :P

Who says someone in an open/polyamorous/or other lifestyle relationship isn't happy? You, because you don't understand it and therefore one must be unhappy in their relationship to seek sex -- that was mutually agreed upon -- elsewhere in a safe environment?

If agreeing to have relations with other people is someone's way of "making it work" then who's to judge? How can you sit there and say it's wrong if it helps a marriage? Like I said I have a lot of friends in the swinger lifestyle and there are quite a few whose marriages were saved because of it.

Depends... I'm sure there are some folks who use it as a slimball excuse to sleep around but as many have said, there are also plenty of folks in swinger/open/polyamorous relationsips that make it work and are perfectly secure and happy in their situation.

I'm a pretty open minded person when it comes to sex/relationships but I also know my limits and there is no way I could do it...