Would you even acknowledge me?
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Flirting online is not something one should take too seriously because until you meet that person you don't know who you are really flirting with.
Would you be ignored in real life because of your size, possibly, but a lot would depend on your personality. If you are confident and outgoing that can be very attractive no matter what size someone is.0 -
I look at and talk to everyone. I guess i am a flirt that way, or i'm just used to it because people are always coming up to me asking about my tattooes so it's a natural thing now to talk with everyone. plus i kind of like shocking people and showing them that the amazon tattoo lady is nice and not a monster like you all thought. this was a real problem 16 years ago when women didn't really get full body tattooes, now it's not so bad and people don't stare as much or hide their children behind them with a look of horror on their faces, now they just keep them close. lol. funny how people judge, but i am happy with me so i don't really care what others think. it took a long time for me to come to this place and age helps. i am 42. i feel that working out and eating right helps me to be positive and motivated also and that positivity and motivation spills over into other parts of my life. plus it helps me feel good. i battle epilepsy daily and i can certainly tell when i don't eat right or am dehydrated. but i don't let the small stuff stop me from my goals. i began training for a bikini competition march 2013, i was 12 weeks out from that competition when my daughter and i joined a roller derby team. she fell and broke her leg and i fell and broke my tailbone. i had to move in with her and help take care of her and the grand kids. i put on over 30lbs, but now that i am healed, i am right back at it. i just began training again and i am hoping to make it to a competition by may 2015 when i am 43. i will be in the best shape of my life for my birthday, the best gift a girl can give herself!0
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Flirting online is not something one should take too seriously because until you meet that person you don't know who you are really flirting with.
Would you be ignored in real life because of your size, possibly, but a lot would depend on your personality. If you are confident and outgoing that can be very attractive no matter what size someone is.
I've never been one to take online flirting very seriously. My husband gets flirted with here quite a bit, as do I. We often share stories. Sometimes it's quite flattering. Other times, it crosses a line. Online, you come across all types. Some people could become lifelong friends, but others can be disappointing or even toxic, and the more you interact, the easier it is to tell the difference. But that's part of interacting online.
OP, for the same reason that I would probably smile at you in real life, I'd advise you to also enjoy your interactions online. You never know what sort of friends you might make. I've made real friends on MFP who I have had the honor of meeting in the real world, and I'm a better person for it.0 -
What does this even mean?
Sometimes I just can't with you, MFP. I just can't.0 -
I don't know I come back to this thread. Maybe in the hope the OP would come back and elaborate a little bit about him/herself.
This reminds me of the proverbial woman bemoaning that all her friends are dating, engaged or married and wonders why Mr Right has come knocking on her door. Nevermind the fact that she doesn't go out with friends, encourage friendships, participate in activities, i.e. get out there.
OP, how can I participate with harmless, fun flirtation with you if you are closed off? How can I acknowledge you if you stay to yourself?0 -
If I met you in rl life I may or may not notice you, if I found you to be attractive then yes I will notice you or if you have nice tattoos or something. For the most part I would not notice you unless you said something or we interacted in some way.0
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Lol, my goodness, so many opinions.. to elaborate...it was just a simple question I don't believe that I had any underlying motive here.
Yeah in "real" life I exude confidence, I'm happy, positive, funny, not overly loud, I enjoy life. I'm pretty sure I do the same on here as well. Why be two different people?
When out and about, I do my best to acknowledge others, smile instead of walking past, ask how people are etc...
Sure I have some work to do on the body confidence but that will come in time.
What else can I say? Ask anything and you shall receive...an answer
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Yeah in "real" life I exude confidence, I'm happy, positive, funny, not overly loud, I enjoy life. I'm pretty sure I do the same on here as well. Why be two different people?
When out and about, I do my best to acknowledge others, smile instead of walking past, ask how people are etc...
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I do this too.
Maybe we'll smile and nod as we walk past each other one day. And if you have fabulous shoes or something about you is compelling enough to comment on, I might stop you and share the compliment.0 -
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Honestly, the first thing I notice is a girls smile and eyes.....some of the most beautiful women I have ever seen were/are overweight. My wife was overweight when we first met but her smile and positive attitude attracted me to her, it was love at first sight and that was 22 years ago. I think it has a lot more to do with attitude than anything......some of the ugliest women I know are actually what society would hold up as being beautiful....I find them repulsive because their attitudes are horrible.0
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I wouldn't notice you or anyone else, as an engineer, I am required to look at the ground 18-inches in front of my feet while walking to prevent crack-trip-ups and such other embarrassing things
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Attraction come in all shapes and sizes, nationalities, genders, personality style not just one thing makes someone attractive.0
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I walk past people every day without acknowledging a single one unless I absolutely have to.
So yeah, I'd probably walk right past you without a second glance.
basically , I barely notice other people
unless they are right in my field of vision and 100% a drop dead babe then i might notice them for a min
I'm the exact opposite. I smile and say "hello" to almost everybody I walk by. The only exception is if I'm in a large crowd of people because that would make my face hurt.0 -
I don't like people.
I would walk right past you because I don't know you. So unless you have something interesting to bring to the table, I would walk right past you. That has nothing to do with weight/attractiveness/anything else.
Gotta get your self some confidence though, if you want to be noticed.
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If your IRL persona is like your MFP persona (generic avatar, closed/private profile, no identifying info, including age or sex), yeah, I would walk right past you, because you would be wearing a big cardboard box that puts off the "I don't want you to know me" vibe.
This. You won't be more confident if you hide who you are.
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If your IRL persona is like your MFP persona (generic avatar, closed/private profile, no identifying info, including age or sex), yeah, I would walk right past you, because you would be wearing a big cardboard box that puts off the "I don't want you to know me" vibe.
This. You won't be more confident if you hide who you are.
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If you posted things that were intelligent, insightful, or asking for feedback that would make a difference to you in some way, I would talk to you. In real life? Maybe. Depends on whether you seemed friendly/receptive. (And no, I'm not saying you DON'T, even in this thread.......) When you already have an idea of what is in someone's head, or proof that they are willing to share that with you, it's easier to respond positively. In real life, we don't just walk up and start opening up randomly, based on looks or not. That's too much social with a side of boundary issues.
Do I care what people look like IRL that I meet on MFP? Nope. Neither do I care when I come face-to-face with them. The inside is the good stuff.....the outside is just the wrapping. Can you tell when someone doesn't bother to treat themselves well, based on how they look? Sure. But that doesn't rule them in or out.....just gives you an idea what you MIGHT be seeing. It takes getting to know them to know for sure.
As for before & afters, they are usually posted to celebrate progress, or motivate yourself/others. No one HAS to post them.......but I will thank you in advance if you do and share, because I find the visual proof of success for ANYONE helpful.
There! You've been acknowledged! And I agree.......slow progress is better than no progress! :drinker:0 -
caring to much about what others think about you will get you hurt.0
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I think.... its about confidence I don't get hit on in person but i think its because i seem cut of and unapproachable I'm typical middle class british so I'm stuffy anyway and i have autism so can't read people and get uncomfortable at making eye contact as soon as some one looks at me i look away
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I'm the type of person, that it depends upon what kind of mood I'm in. I would absolutely, NEVER intentionally just "walk on past" someone, based upon weight, looks, ect. The only way I'm *really* going to walk on by someone, and I will do so in a hurry is is they have horrible body odor. I am being serious. I have an extremely sensitive nose, and I can't handle it. Otherwise, there are days, I have a million things on my mind, and despite being out and about in a crowd, I'm not *really* there. I don't *see* anyone. I see all of the things that are going on in my head.
The majority of the time, I fight with everything in me not to have that kind of a day. I do my best to smile at people and be friendly. I'm an extremely social creature by nature, and I like to be around people. I like making friends, and I like making people feel good, so I'm not likely to just ignore someone if I saw them out and about.0
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