compliment or insult?

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  • itsbasschick
    itsbasschick Posts: 1,584 Member
    hopefully meant as a compliment by someone with a complete and utter lack of social skills.

    but unless you ask - and i wouldn't bother - you'll never know.

    i liked aethre's way of looking at it:
    Take it as a compliment!

    If she meant it as a compliment, and you take it as an insult, you'll feel hurt for no reason.

    If she meant it as an insult, and you take it as a compliment, then her attempt to bring you down has been FOILED! :wink:

    Keep smiling & working hard
  • jenilla1
    jenilla1 Posts: 11,118 Member
    Some ladies at the gym told me they were amazed that I could lift such heavy weights, that you'd never know it from looking at me. I was lifting almost 3 times the weight that they were. I'm sure it was meant in the spirit of a compliment, but just for an instant it kinda makes you think, "Wow, I must look really weak and wimpy." I smiled and took it as the compliment that it was.

    Even though it was really poorly expressed, I think OP should take it as the compliment is was surely meant to be. Some people (and I can be guilty of this too) mean well but just lack eloquence. :flowerforyou:
  • benefiting
    benefiting Posts: 795 Member
    A compliment. It's rude that they said you were an overweight person but nether the less it's a compliment.
  • zoeysasha37
    zoeysasha37 Posts: 7,088 Member
    I think it was probably meant as a compliment . Sometimes people have Trouble putting their feelings into words, so it comes out sounding rude, even though it wasn't meant to be.
    Either way, don't give up and Keep at it!!
  • sloth3toes
    sloth3toes Posts: 2,212 Member
    Tact is not something everyone has. Sounds like they were trying to compliment you, but people have a hard time not defining us by our physical being "blonde", "fat", "the chick with the boobs."

    Rest assured I think you're that AWESOME person at the gym, nice work.

    Better than being known as 'the guy with the boobs.'

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  • MyaPapaya75
    MyaPapaya75 Posts: 3,143 Member
    I would say its an insult just by their statement that they are in a gym and "never" saw an overweight person before in the whoooooooole place working out so hard trying to better themselves ...its a gym of course they have seen an overweight person there before doing just that. I personally would have said "Wow you should open your eyes everyone here is trying to improve not just us "fatties" try looking harder....but Im sarcastic LOL
  • Scythe5
    Scythe5 Posts: 12 Member
    Yeah, I'd take it as a compliment, but clearly this person is just a tactless *kitten*.

    If this individual has never seen an overweight person in the gym they must not go that often. I don't suppose the gym has Stick boy Saturdays and Fat *kitten* Fridays does it? Of course not.

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