I think my mother is trying to stop me from losing weight

It sounds like she's pretty good at her sick little game. You need to be coy and outsmart her. Your best strategy could be to lose weight covertly. Don't talk about weight, food, fitness, exercise, etc. Just go about your business. If anyone comments on your food choices, appearance, or exercise habits, play dumb or say "I like salad" or "Oh really?"

Seriously? The 25 year old 5'10" male who weighs 150lbs needs to lose weight?

I only read the first post, not the entire thread.

For those insisting he should move out - maybe stop to consider it might be beyond him due to circumstances, finances, etc. Sadly, in this big bad world of ours, things go wrong in life and you need to rely on others for a while. Don't be so judgmental, unless you want people to look down at your whenever you require anyone's help.

Going back to the original question, you don't have to eat what people buy you - sorry, but that excuse about politeness/obligation/etc isn't going to wash. Either turn it down or as someone else has suggested, accept it and bin it. I appreciate that when something is placed in front of you it can be a challenge to your will power. Because it's supposed to be, nice stuff is always tempting. You just have to ask yourself what do you want more, to lose weight or to eat the sickly, nice things.

I completely understand about wanting to losing weight, even when you're at a weight others think you should be happy with. I've gotten as low as 9:9 lbs and felt like I'm too heavy, when you know - you just know. You just have to go steady with weight loss and you'll know when you've reached the right number. I'm going to avoid patronising you about eating disorders and credit you with enough intelligence to know what will be a good, healthy weight for you to be going off the mirror, scales and measurements. All the best.

You just have to go steady with weight loss and you'll know when you've reached the right number. I'm going to avoid patronising you about eating disorders and credit you with enough intelligence to know what will be a good, healthy weight for you to be going off the mirror, scales and measurements.

> implying that anyone who ever suffers from an eating disorder lacks intelligence? Nice.

Time to start building that muscle~! ( Which will make you look leaner overall, ( If that's what you're going for, it can also be used to bulk up and gain muscle definition, ooh baby lol ), but give you the strength for daily activities / emergency situations. )

http://www.reddit.com/r/ketogains

Also, I'd like to point out that saying "man up" is an engendered response, and not entirely pc.
My gay brother in law is also very skinny, and would like to put on some muscle so that he looks more fit, and telling a person to man-up is just an easy way to answer without actually putting any thought into the situation while simultaneously putting the human you are responding to into your own little box. Plus, rude yo'.

Hang in there OP~! According to your BMI ( which is very accurate except for the malnourished or extreme bodybuilders, yay science! ), you are smack dab in the middle of the healthy range. So you're off to a great start already~!

Again, it's a range, so there's nothing wrong with wanting to reach the lower end of that range.
But of course I've given you the link to Keto Gains because losing weight may make the scale drop, but gaining muscle will make you LOOK thinner, even though the numbers on the scale will rise a little.

It's all up to you and what you want to do.

As for your Mom, I've found that the best way to deal with passive aggressive people is to be very forthcoming with them.
Have a brief but serious conversation with her, and tell her that "while you appreciate that she loves you enough the way that you are, you are currently unhappy and would like to change some things about your body", also that "you would really appreciate her support" and that "you need her to know that even if she buys junk food for you because she knows you like them, that you are going to have to stop eating those things for a little while to achieve the goals you want", and that it's "not forever, so don't worry."


Also, go into that conversation with a game plan. Hopefully this will ease her mind, and she won't think that you're on some kind of crash diet or aiming for an eating disorder.
Know how long it might take you, what you need to do and eat to get there, and find a support group on Facebook that has real-time posts from users who share the same goals as you do.

You can do it, OP.
Your age doesn't matter. What matters is strengthening and repairing the type of relationship you have with your mom, opening the lines of communication, and knowing when to say "no thank you" when you really need to.
Good luck~!

You just have to go steady with weight loss and you'll know when you've reached the right number. I'm going to avoid patronising you about eating disorders and credit you with enough intelligence to know what will be a good, healthy weight for you to be going off the mirror, scales and measurements.

> implying that anyone who ever suffers from an eating disorder lacks intelligence? Nice.

No, not at all - but if that's how you read that I'd probably be wasting my time explaining it to you. And I just don't care enough to want to.

I agree with everyone else that you don't have to eat it. It's your choice what you eat. If it just sits there not being eaten, she will stop buying so much of it.

Another option (the one we use with the goodies my MIL pushes on us when we visit) is to wrap up individual servings and freeze them. So its, "Thanks MIL for the chocolate cake. It was thoughtful of you!". Then we bring it home, slice it up, wrap the slices in saran wrap, and pop them into the freezer. The fact that you need to defrost it before you eat it means you can't just mindlessly munch. I will have some cake sometimes. But its when I have the calories for it and I plan for it by defrosting the cake.

Whenever I start watching what I'm eating my mother always ends up buying tons of junk food for me. Things like Cake, Doughnuts, Tons of chocolate etc. She says she buys them because I like them, but I find it suspicious that she does it whenever I want to start losing weight. When I tell her to stop, she tells me to stop being ridiculous, and that I don't need to lose weight

I know that I can refuse what she buys, but then I'd feel bad for not eating any of it because she went to the trouble to buy it for me.

In another thread you say you are 5' 10" and 150lbs. Why are you trying to lose weight?

Cause I'm not happy at this weight.

OMG, then I know why she is doing what she is doing. My dad is 5' 8" and he got down to 150 at one point before the doctor said that was to much. He was way to skinny. At 5' 10", my height, nope, not gonna happen :noway:

I'm 5' 10" and weigh 155. You gotta eat, homey. Lift, run, whatever, and eat more.

Agreed. I'm a recovered bulimic and this kind of hurts to read...people suffer in different ways, maybe not something you agree with but doesn't mean it's not hard on the other person or makes them "less intelligent" than people who don't suffer that way.