Looking for Reward Ideas for my Husband

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  • Cranquistador
    Cranquistador Posts: 39,744 Member
    I have a crazy idea.

    Ask him what he'd like.
    ^
  • Capt_Apollo
    Capt_Apollo Posts: 9,026 Member
    man, you ladies think we're such simple creatures, don't you??
  • JoyeII
    JoyeII Posts: 240 Member
    I vote BJ.
  • Galatea_Stone
    Galatea_Stone Posts: 2,037 Member
    I know what works with my kids is making a big poster and putting little gold stars on it when they do what I want. For the husband, how about get a little hand clicker and when he does things right, you can click it and tell him how awesome he is. If he's into competition, enter him into an agility contest or a frisbee catch. Or, if he's really stubborn, you can shame him by rubbing his nose into the grease on the plate after he eats the cheeseburger.
  • meganmiedema
    meganmiedema Posts: 10 Member
    I say go for some sexual type of rewards, guys are always up for that! lol

    This, it's that simple ladies.
    no it's not.

    Exactly. Not saying that the OP isn't into sex with her husband but why should she have to use her body as the bait to get him to achieve his goals? Sounds a little icky to me. Sex shouldn't be a bargaining chip. I would say offer to cook his favorite meal or go to his favorite restaurant for a nice splurge. Then maybe you both can go home and celebrate each achieving your goals be sexin' all night!
  • northbanu
    northbanu Posts: 366 Member
    Sex only works for motivation if he/she isn't getting much. Good sex isn't a reward, it's a way of life.
  • longtimeterp
    longtimeterp Posts: 614 Member
    man, you ladies think we're such simple creatures, don't you??

    WE ARE!!!
  • MKEgal
    MKEgal Posts: 3,250 Member
    Seriously, though, they're his rewards.
    He needs to decide what motivates him.
    You might suggest things, but he has to accept & work toward them.

    Sex, hobby support, night with the guys, afternoon of no-nagging hogging the TV for sports...
  • asdowe13
    asdowe13 Posts: 1,951 Member
    Sorry but if the "reward" is a blow job I'm out.
    Blow jobs should be a regular occurence not just incentive to do something.


    He's got to have an interest in something or a hobby that you can base his rewards off of.
  • baba_helly
    baba_helly Posts: 810 Member
    I'd get a dog I can reward for good behavior.

    Or just ask him what he wants.
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  • skullshank
    skullshank Posts: 4,323 Member
    I have a crazy idea.

    Ask him what he'd like.

    shhhhhh stop it.

    wouldnt it make more sense for her to ask total strangers on the internet?


    OP, get your husband a parakeet as a reward. he will LOVE it!
  • Commander_Keen
    Commander_Keen Posts: 1,179 Member
    My hubs and I are both eternally trying to lose weight, eat healthier, etc. and it's easier for me because I actually like being active and working out. Husband does better if there's some kind of tangible reward or goal that he's working towards because he doesn't get the same high from exercising, or the same kind of satisfaction from eating healthy (I think this latter one has something to do with me preparing 99% of our meals so I get the lion's share of the satisfaction from seeing us both eat healthy).

    We started a rewards system: plan your exercise for the week, and if you do all your workouts/activities you get Reward 1 for one week, Reward 2 for two weeks, etc. Problem is, he's the guy who has everything, so little rewards like the ones I like (new fun socks, new music downloads, etc) don't carry the same motivation for him. He does well with competition, but our goals are so different that I can't really offer him any kind of good competitiveness. So far we've come up with Reward 1 (a day at the shooting range), but that's not something we can do every week, schedule-wise, and we can't use it for EVERY reward.

    So: how would YOU motivate and reward a stubborn, willful guy who has everything, but still has hazy ideas about getting in shape and losing weight?

    Thanks in advance for your help!

    Clean his pipes..
    If my wife clean my pipes I would work out everyday.
  • 3laine75
    3laine75 Posts: 3,069 Member
    Steak and/or a BJ?


    :laugh: this
  • George_Baileys_Ghost
    George_Baileys_Ghost Posts: 1,524 Member
    Look, there's really only 2 things that motivate men....













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  • 257_Lag
    257_Lag Posts: 1,249 Member
    BJ. Always works.

    ALWAYS!
  • devil_in_a_blue_dress
    devil_in_a_blue_dress Posts: 5,214 Member
    Sex is not a bartering tool. It shouldn't be viewed as a "reward" or a duty or an obligation. If you don't women using sex as a source of power in a relationship, STAP making these suggestion.

    Yeah, yeah --- it's all fun and games, you say. " Would you feel the same if OP was like "I am going to withhold tell my husband falls in line."? Or refused her husband if his goal wasn't met?

    OP, your husband has to want to do it. The end prize of feeling better, being more fit, being healthier so he can have a higher quality of life, maybe a longer life has to be enough. And yeah I get it, celebrating victories and small goals with a reward is important. Let him set those goals though -- so they are personal to him and his journey (god did I just use that word, FML). You can't do it for him.
  • refuseresist
    refuseresist Posts: 934 Member
    Besides, blow job every day would make her over her calories?
  • 100andOnward
    100andOnward Posts: 145 Member
    I say go for some sexual type of rewards, guys are always up for that! lol

    This, it's that simple ladies.
    no it's not.

    Exactly. Not saying that the OP isn't into sex with her husband but why should she have to use her body as the bait to get him to achieve his goals? Sounds a little icky to me. Sex shouldn't be a bargaining chip. I would say offer to cook his favorite meal or go to his favorite restaurant for a nice splurge. Then maybe you both can go home and celebrate each achieving your goals be sexin' all night!

    This. Also, the assumption that he's only motivated by sex is as much a disservice to him than to her. My wife and I often work out together and find rewards together that enrich us in other ways both as a couple and individuals. (Trying a new parkour class, playing a new sport or game, hiking on a new route, making a good meal together, trading massage...)
  • likitisplit
    likitisplit Posts: 9,420 Member
    I would focus on things that you can control (logging, time at the gym) rather than things you can't.

    If you're having trouble coming up with weekly rewards, maybe some sort of star chart or money jar, where you add $20 for each week accomplished.

    And then a list of fun activities - snorkeling, white water rafting, sky diving, zip lines, trail hikes, things like that - that will be more fun as you get fitter. When he "earns" enough, he can pick an activity.
  • PRMinx
    PRMinx Posts: 4,585 Member
    BJs only as a reward? I wonder what everyone would be saying if we turned the tables and told her hubs to please her only if she meets her weight loss goals....:noway:
  • bajoyba
    bajoyba Posts: 1,153 Member
    So: how would YOU motivate and reward a stubborn, willful guy who has everything, but still has hazy ideas about getting in shape and losing weight?

    I wouldn't. If he's not willing to do it himself, he's not ready and no one will make him ready.

    ^I agree. If he's not really committed to doing it for himself, then it's probably not going to happen.

    If he is committed and the two of you want to do rewards for fun, then I agree that you should just ask him what he wants. Maybe my husband is more complex than a normal man, but sex wouldn't be a great reward for him. He'd probably rather have something like an entire day to do nothing but play video games, a new gadget to play with or a mini shopping spree at Best Buy, a dinner and a movie of his choice, a brand new suit, or a professional shave and a haircut.

    Or you could plan fun things to do together, like a weekend getaway or a fun activity (like horseback riding, hiking, rock climbing, apple-picking, or even touring a local winery/brewery) that will allow you to spend some quality time with each other.
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  • yopeeps025
    yopeeps025 Posts: 8,680 Member
    So: how would YOU motivate and reward a stubborn, willful guy who has everything, but still has hazy ideas about getting in shape and losing weight?

    I wouldn't. If he's not willing to do it himself, he's not ready and no one will make him ready.

    This right here.

    You're not his mother.

    + 2
  • PRMinx
    PRMinx Posts: 4,585 Member
    BJs only as a reward? I wonder what everyone would be saying if we turned the tables and told her hubs to please her only if she meets her weight loss goals....:noway:

    We could follow it up by saying, "Women are simple." Wonder how that would go over?

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  • Original_Sinner
    Original_Sinner Posts: 180 Member
    I say go for some sexual type of rewards, guys are always up for that! lol

    why only the guys?
  • JoelleAnn78
    JoelleAnn78 Posts: 1,492 Member
    If I reserved my sexual advances as rewards for good behavior I would no longer have a husband to give them to. Treat your husband to unsolicited rewards if you think it would be helpful... and treat him like a man not a toddler.

    If he is unconcerned with his rewards - concern yourself with only yours. Adults need to take responsibility for their own lives.
  • SunofaBeach14
    SunofaBeach14 Posts: 4,899 Member
    These threads always go so very well.
  • JoelleAnn78
    JoelleAnn78 Posts: 1,492 Member
    Sorry but if the "reward" is a blow job I'm out.
    Blow jobs should be a regular occurence not just incentive to do something.


    He's got to have an interest in something or a hobby that you can base his rewards off of.

    ^^ My point eactly ...
  • SunofaBeach14
    SunofaBeach14 Posts: 4,899 Member
    I say go for some sexual type of rewards, guys are always up for that! lol

    why only the guys?

    Cause the hubs is a dude? It's either that or cause womenz hates the sex

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