Looking for Reward Ideas for my Husband

Sex games (for mutual fun)

This doesn't mean it's a chore, or that you don't already do this. I just think it's fun, so why not incorporate it. Just focusing on sex creatively (not as a reward) can motivate your fitness, happiness, enjoyment, feeling alive. For men and women. You can make fitness activities more fun. This can't be the only motivation, just one aspect. It wouldn't be enough to keep fitness going. Fitness will always have challenging and mundane moments. But, it can help motivation to interperse it with fun activities.

As an example, this is why pole dancing for fitness is so successful.

He does well with competition, but our goals are so different that I can't really offer him any kind of good competitiveness.

So: how would YOU motivate and reward a stubborn, willful guy who has everything, but still has hazy ideas about getting in shape and losing weight?

Thanks in advance for your help!

1st part of this, either by posting pics of ripped dudes around the house and telling hubby how hot they are and you want him to be that way too. OR possibly signing him up to a gym where there are lots of ripped guys and he's kinda "forced" into keeping up.

Second part, you can't make someone get motivation, he has to find it within himself to get it. A reward system set up by yourself is something you do for children. If he wants it he's gotta do it or else it loses ALL meaning and can become a problem in the relationship if he feels forced into it.

Do you have a significant other?

He does well with competition, but our goals are so different that I can't really offer him any kind of good competitiveness.

So: how would YOU motivate and reward a stubborn, willful guy who has everything, but still has hazy ideas about getting in shape and losing weight?

Thanks in advance for your help!

1st part of this, either by posting pics of ripped dudes around the house and telling hubby how hot they are and you want him to be that way too. OR possibly signing him up to a gym where there are lots of ripped guys and he's kinda "forced" into keeping up.

Second part, you can't make someone get motivation, he has to find it within himself to get it. A reward system set up by yourself is something you do for children. If he wants it he's gotta do it or else it loses ALL meaning and can become a problem in the relationship if he feels forced into it.

Do you have a significant other?

LOL! Sad that a BJ has to be a "reward". Women should love giving it to their partners on the regular? Y'all make it sound like a chore. :-)

Exactly.. I said bacon hahah .. bj's aren't a chore for us anyways lol... I LOVE it.

I have a crazy idea.

Ask him what he'd like.

You know, this doesn't always work. My husband insists that he wants a wolf.

If he needs some competition motivation, he could join a challenge through your gym or somewhere local. My gym does them about quarterly and you compete with people of your same gender & age group - there's prizes for the winner of each category, then they pick an overall winner that gets a huge prize pack. Plus you pay a small fee to join the challenge, so you have some skin in the game.

Also thinking it shouldn't really be your job to motivate him - encourage and support him, yes - but really it's enough work to focus on keeping yourself going!

I have a crazy idea.

Ask him what he'd like.

You know, this doesn't always work. My husband insists that he wants a wolf.

Haha! This made me chuckle!! Reminds me of that insurance company commercial where the guy saved money and bought an Eagle or something. :laugh:

My response is similar to what I have been reading. You should not have to reward him, the reward is living a longer and healthier life. If he can't see that himself, unfortunately nothing you can buy him or give him will help.