Dating in 2014...WOW!

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  • cdoesthehula
    cdoesthehula Posts: 141 Member
    OP: The lack of physical presence means a small but highly over-represented group do weird things. I think they get confused, by all the porn on their computers. Don't lose heart, there's lots of men who won't send pictures of their tummy bananas.

    Stick with it. I have been happily with someone I met online for a couple of years now. We met on the largest dating website.

    Oh, and try Meetup.com. It's not a dating site, but you will meet a lot of people and there's groups for everything. I would have met someone through that eventually, had I been looking. It's a numbers game, innit? :smile:
  • iheartinsanity
    iheartinsanity Posts: 205 Member
    There are genuine guys out there. Trust me. Met my husband here on MFP on 2011, and we married 5 months later. Don't lose hope -- there are STILL good guys out there.

    I know quite a few that admit to meeting their other half here on MFP and I know quite a few who have found MFP a distraction to their other half (make of that what you will). So believe it or not you're in the right place for online nonsense.

    Just as a side note: I went with a suggestion to speak to two new people everyday until I met someone I wanted to go out with socially. It worked like a treat and I stopped relying on meeting people online. Good old fashioned conversion worked for me. It's worth a try, as people you meet face to face tend not to show you their junk unless you ask of course. Good luck :)

    All due respect, I had lots of those guys playing around on my FL trying to flirt with me under an old account back then. We were both freshly divorced from our ex's and looking for a friend. Nothing more. I was a total man hater at the time b/c of what ex did to me (and we only took things to the next level b/c he befriended me, and the rest is history -- we have a beautiful marriage). I had to take things VERY seriously because I lived almost 3,000 miles away and 5 months later I'd leave Pittsburgh, PA to move 2 hours north of Seattle. So I knew I was completely in love (and not in lust with him). We've been married pushing 3 years now and while yes, I see flirting here on MFP between people...my point is there are good people out there.
  • sunglasses_and_ocean_waves
    sunglasses_and_ocean_waves Posts: 2,757 Member
    maybe because when the guy tries being nice he gets ignored?

    Please show me nice guys! Men in their 30's, at least the ones that I have met, are the horniest breed alive. That's all they think about!


    send those b*tches this way.




    I kid. I kid.
  • Timshel_
    Timshel_ Posts: 22,834 Member
    You all make me laugh so so much. And also quite, quite educational.

    It's nice to know that it is ok to judge someone on their artistic composition of junk pics. I thought that might be considered shallow, but it sounds like it's more a matter of having standards.

    Meh. We all have things that we like to see, and how we like to see them. That is part of the fantasy of it.
    So it is not so much standards, but just that we like what we like.

    Mmmm Hmmmm.
  • gfrogel01
    gfrogel01 Posts: 5 Member
    So, this topic was not started because you are currently ready to date, but because you just wanted to know how everyone else feels about the dating structure nowadays? Okay, thanks for the clarification. In that case, I really don't see why so many women keep going down that same old road, 'there aren't any more good guys out there', 'there's no more honest men', 'where did all of the gentlemen go'. All I have to say is, stop living in your perfect little fairy tale dream that there is a prince charming and the 'perfect man'. There are people, good and bad, no matter what sex. You have to give to get. Appreciate who you are with, and they will appreciate you. If it doesn't work this way, then apparently there is no compatibility there and the relationship needs to come to an end. The best advice that I can give, stop putting people in a box! No one fits the perfect stereotypical man, or the perfect stereotypical woman. Stop kidding yourself. BE REALISTIC! Nobody is perfect, but yes we can find that person who fits us the best.
  • FrozenSongBird
    FrozenSongBird Posts: 3,892 Member
    In for junk:laugh:
  • Megan101792
    Megan101792 Posts: 3,194 Member
    Yup, that's how it is. Either you are the shy tease or the loud *kitten*. Can't win either way.
  • JT_Taylor99
    JT_Taylor99 Posts: 148
    Cutting all the crap talk, cause it seems like there's a lot on here. Good for laughs! But, this is a serious question. OP, I have found that being utterly and brutally honest has always been the best policy for me in my dating life. Being upfront, and just letting your interests know what it is that you're looking for and the things that you are not looking for, helps to save time and hurt feelings on both sides of the relationship. I would just go into a relationship with honesty and let your interests know that honesty is what you expect to receive in return. Good luck! And remember, dating can be fun!

    There aren't any honest men left and dating thus far, hasn't been that fun. Thankfully, I just bought new running shoes, so that I can run faster from the crazies :(

    Wow with an attitude like that I am shocked that dudes would even send you their "Junk" pics. Thatnks for grouping everyone into a tiny little bundle of dishonest nude pic hounds.
  • Kisuke30
    Kisuke30 Posts: 668 Member
    Are you upset because you aren't getting enough junk pics?? Don't give up. Join Tinder. I'm sure you'll get plenty there. :flowerforyou:

    i coughed my drink through my nose laughing at that. Well played.

    And don't give up, there's good guys out there!
  • yopeeps025
    yopeeps025 Posts: 8,680 Member
    Yeah women send noodz too. How many men were caught on that Icloud hack? I can wait for the answer.
  • AskTracyAnnK28
    AskTracyAnnK28 Posts: 2,817 Member
    The dating scene is way harsh. I haven't had a boyfriend in over 2 years.

    I gave up dating and got a Netflix account instead :cry: :sad:
  • yopeeps025
    yopeeps025 Posts: 8,680 Member
    The dating scene is way harsh. I haven't had a boyfriend in over 2 years.

    I gave up dating and got a Netflix account instead :cry: :sad:

    Maybe broad out the age range you have set?
  • scrapalooza
    scrapalooza Posts: 335 Member
    Please show me nice guys! Men in their 30's, at least the ones that I have met, are the horniest breed alive. That's all they think about!

    Well I am 47 & been single for almost a year after a 17 yr relationship, so send these my way. LOL
  • yopeeps025
    yopeeps025 Posts: 8,680 Member
    Please show me nice guys! Men in their 30's, at least the ones that I have met, are the horniest breed alive. That's all they think about!

    Well am 47 & been single for almost a year after a 17 yr relationship, so send these my way. LOL
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    A lot of men think about sex 90 % of the time. Seems pretty normal to me.
  • Timshel_
    Timshel_ Posts: 22,834 Member
    In for junk:laugh:

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  • Nuccia2012
    Nuccia2012 Posts: 122 Member
    So, this topic was not started because you are currently ready to date, but because you just wanted to know how everyone else feels about the dating structure nowadays? Okay, thanks for the clarification. In that case, I really don't see why so many women keep going down that same old road, 'there aren't any more good guys out there', 'there's no more honest men', 'where did all of the gentlemen go'. All I have to say is, stop living in your perfect little fairy tale dream that there is a prince charming and the 'perfect man'. There are people, good and bad, no matter what sex. You have to give to get. Appreciate who you are with, and they will appreciate you. If it doesn't work this way, then apparently there is no compatibility there and the relationship needs to come to an end. The best advice that I can give, stop putting people in a box! No one fits the perfect stereotypical man, or the perfect stereotypical woman. Stop kidding yourself. BE REALISTIC! Nobody is perfect, but yes we can find that person who fits us the best.

    Totally agree with this advice. Guys are awesome! I’m 30 and about a year removed from a loooooong term relationship. Through dating, I’ve ,mostly met genuine, decent men. Establishing clear boundaries, along with knowing why you’re dating (i.e., just getting laid---which has its merits!---v. pursuing an LTR or marriage, or whatever), AND being up-front about all this can be helpful as you navigate.

    I’ve tried a few different avenues, but I’ve had the best luck meeting guys socially. I will say that Tinder was fun, highly amusing, and at least once, a little terrifying. If you’re dating a fair bit, junk shots are par for the course regardless of the route you take. If you’re into it, great, and if not, move along, I guess. And if you're getting a bit burned out or feeling like all of the good men have run for the hills, by all means, step back and do you. Confident and independent ladies are awesome, too. : )
  • Liftng4Lis
    Liftng4Lis Posts: 15,151 Member
    Im newly divorced and 30 yrs old. What is up with the dating scene nowadays?!?! "Hey how are you, heres a pic of my junk" Seriously, only been a few years since I dated, but have things really changed this much?? Yea, I think I give up!

    Apparently not impressive junk.
    laughssssss!!! OMG I guess I haven't dated in so long I didn't even know all this goes on. This outta be fun
  • jenifr818
    jenifr818 Posts: 805 Member
    Wait, so dating now means easy junk pics?

    *heading to courthouse first thing Monday morning to file divorce papers*

    Back to the dating field I go!! :laugh:
  • kbeloved
    kbeloved Posts: 67 Member
    ...i demand pictures of junk now,
    the good kinda junk, not that stuff just left on the side of the road ;D

    but in all srsly, men are sexual beings, and some of them have a "junk quota" they have to meat, and if you happen to be 1 in 100 girls they are spamming with pix of their goods, just *kitten* and move on like we all do.
  • fitfreakymom
    fitfreakymom Posts: 1,400 Member
    Look at it this way if you see their junk then you can decide whether or not you are interested lol.
  • mustlovecakes
    mustlovecakes Posts: 89
    And the embarrassing moment when you realize they sent you a fake pic....
  • fatcity66
    fatcity66 Posts: 1,544 Member
    I love nice guys! The problem is, I also want someone I am attracted to, and can have decent conversations with.
    Now THAT is hard to find.
    I have no kids, but I've pretty much given up finding anyone else who doesn't, unless I go at least 8 years younger. Even then, they usually have a kid. Anyway, it's not a deal breaker for me, but I haven't gotten to the point of them wanting me to be stand-in Mommy, so I don't know how that would work out...
    But yeah, most guys these days just want to bang...which I'm ok with too, as long as it's up front, safe, enjoyable, and re-occurring!
    :bigsmile:
  • MiloBloom83
    MiloBloom83 Posts: 2,724 Member
    And the embarrassing moment when you realize they sent you a fake pic....

    Look, I explained it to you. I was in the pool. It was cold. There was significant shrinkage...
  • MyChocolateDiet
    MyChocolateDiet Posts: 22,281 Member
    So, this topic was not started because you are currently ready to date, but because you just wanted to know how everyone else feels about the dating structure nowadays? Okay, thanks for the clarification. In that case, I really don't see why so many women keep going down that same old road, 'there aren't any more good guys out there', 'there's no more honest men', 'where did all of the gentlemen go'. All I have to say is, stop living in your perfect little fairy tale dream that there is a prince charming and the 'perfect man'. There are people, good and bad, no matter what sex. You have to give to get. Appreciate who you are with, and they will appreciate you. If it doesn't work this way, then apparently there is no compatibility there and the relationship needs to come to an end. The best advice that I can give, stop putting people in a box! No one fits the perfect stereotypical man, or the perfect stereotypical woman. Stop kidding yourself. BE REALISTIC! Nobody is perfect, but yes we can find that person who fits us the best.

    pretty sure this is why they are sending the pics. square pegs and round holes and all that.
  • Myhaloslipped
    Myhaloslipped Posts: 4,317 Member
    Im newly divorced and 30 yrs old. What is up with the dating scene nowadays?!?! "Hey how are you, heres a pic of my junk" Seriously, only been a few years since I dated, but have things really changed this much?? Yea, I think I give up!

    Apparently not impressive junk.

    :laugh:
  • T1DCarnivoreRunner
    T1DCarnivoreRunner Posts: 11,502 Member
    I love nice guys! The problem is, I also want someone I am attracted to, and can have decent conversations with.
    Now THAT is hard to find.
    I have no kids, but I've pretty much given up finding anyone else who doesn't, unless I go at least 8 years younger. Even then, they usually have a kid. Anyway, it's not a deal breaker for me, but I haven't gotten to the point of them wanting me to be stand-in Mommy, so I don't know how that would work out...
    But yeah, most guys these days just want to bang...which I'm ok with too, as long as it's up front, safe, enjoyable, and re-occurring!
    :bigsmile:

    That is one of my challenges as well. I'm childfree, do not have kids, do not want kids, and I won't date anyone unless she is also childfree. For me, it is a deal breaker. Having said that, I search far and wide and have even traveled nearly 200 miles one-way just to get stood up. Dating is not easy, and even if I don't give up, I may never find the right woman. I've accepted that reality. It is more important to be honest with myself about what I bring to the table and what the dating world looks like than to falsely believe I'm definitely going to find the perfect match.
  • Ljordan_fitflow
    Ljordan_fitflow Posts: 64 Member
    Location Location Location all I can say. But i'm in the same boat@ 32. I wonder the same too. It's a scary dating scene out there and I think I might crawl back in my woman cave lol. Yet, don't lose hope. If you got the time and patience, keep trying.
    Im newly divorced and 30 yrs old. What is up with the dating scene nowadays?!?! "Hey how are you, heres a pic of my junk" Seriously, only been a few years since I dated, but have things really changed this much?? Yea, I think I give up!
  • MasterBroshi
    MasterBroshi Posts: 108 Member
    Better you know what their junk looks like right out the gate than to be disappointed in person.
  • yopeeps025
    yopeeps025 Posts: 8,680 Member
    I love nice guys! The problem is, I also want someone I am attracted to, and can have decent conversations with.
    Now THAT is hard to find.
    I have no kids, but I've pretty much given up finding anyone else who doesn't, unless I go at least 8 years younger. Even then, they usually have a kid. Anyway, it's not a deal breaker for me, but I haven't gotten to the point of them wanting me to be stand-in Mommy, so I don't know how that would work out...
    But yeah, most guys these days just want to bang...which I'm ok with too, as long as it's up front, safe, enjoyable, and re-occurring!
    :bigsmile:

    That is one of my challenges as well. I'm childfree, do not have kids, do not want kids, and I won't date anyone unless she is also childfree. For me, it is a deal breaker. Having said that, I search far and wide and have even traveled nearly 200 miles one-way just to get stood up. Dating is not easy, and even if I don't give up, I may never find the right woman. I've accepted that reality. It is more important to be honest with myself about what I bring to the table and what the dating world looks like than to falsely believe I'm definitely going to find the perfect match.
    Wowzeers
  • ncbeachprincess
    ncbeachprincess Posts: 91
    Totally not looking for hookups, etc. I am very confident, and focused in my life, career, fitness goals, etc. Im ok with being single, its not something that I MUST have right now.

    My biggest fault is that I don't really go out much. I work 50 hrs a week, from home. I feel left out of the normal things, commuting, meeting people at the gas station, etc.

    Im not looking for a fairy tale by no means, just itty bitty junk pics are just so sad!

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