How do you deal with critics?

I would slap her silly with an awesome comeback, but first, I'd give her my most wicked smile to prepare her for her imminent defeat.

... but wait there's more! Then I'd eat some tortilla chips with cheesy refried beans and swirl the queso with my tongue all up in her fizace. IIFYM biotch what u know bout dat?

Some people are just "Negative Nellies". She probably strives to bring other's down to her level. "Kill her with kindness" and be happy.

A thread this long means you are bound to have sensible advice. Shoot me for repeating it.
What the first poster said she does it because you are an easy target, it distracts her from her own shortcomings.

You dont have to turn on her, but have a quiet word and point out she is constantly making commenst about what you can and cannot eat. Ask her why she does it because you find it most unhelpful, but she might not realise, she is doing it(she knows very well what she is doing but she needs a way out). You can also point out you know what you are doing and have the support of a nutritionist, your Dr and many friends plus others who have achieved weight loss. You have the results so are very confident you know what you are doing.

Just ask her in future if she wouldnt mind not commenting, bow she knows how you view it. Leave it at that.
Do it with confidence and I dont think she will come back at you. If you dont have the confidence do it in front of colleagues so she cant attack your reasonable request.

If she cant respect your wishes then you know shes an trouble causer and deserves to be treated accordingly.

You sound like you are doing a fantastic job, dont give this woman any more time other than above imo.

I have so many coworkers like this. The haters gonna hate always. I remember hearing one of our MANGERS making fun of me to his then twenty year old attractive girl that works for him. We had a breakfast at work and I was in there getting some, They walked in and just looked at me and I didn't even get out of earshot and he says to her, be careful or you will end up looking like her.

I never forgot that, and still to this day they ridicule others. You just go about your business and try to ignore what others say, misery loves company and I tell myself these people must have some real insecurities somewhere.
And you have us here for all the support, encouragement :flowerforyou:

I nod, I smile, I carry on doing what I'm doing.

**Side note - I used to get teased some by co workers about my food choices (I eat a lot of chocolate/crisps at work). They'd say 'Oh, are you really going to eat all that. Just so you can burn it off at the gym?'

I followed the nod, smile, carry on approach.. I still eat my chocolate. And they've stopped mentioning it.

Similar to this. I have a coworker that lifts and is actually strong...but his diet sucks. As I was getting ready for my first BB comp, I had to get my BF down to 5% or below. This guy would insist on me following his advice...low carb diet...didn't matter how many calories you ate, just keep carbs rock bottom low. ....wtf? Thought logging was useless. And of course I had to follow his advice on workouts. In my mind I'm thinking, you are like 20% BF and when I'm going for strength vs size, my PR would blow yours away. But instead, I simply nod my head and say...yea, I'll have to try that.

Overall, he is a great guy. So I figure I can live with this behavior. Take what you can if you can...just keep doing what you are doing...looks like it's working!

I *DARE* someone to critique my eating. I have Resting B*tchface so hardly ever get comments, except that strangers used to tell me to smile.

Have you tried practicing your b*tchface?

Hmmmm...how about while she's saying it, you can say "You know what? Thanks but I got this. It's working for me."

When someone changes their life for the better many people are jealous and are thinking more about themselves than you. They know they should be changing certain things and would rather not so instead make comments to try and belittle your achievements. It is hard and you want to feed into it but don't. Less is more when it comes to them. Congratulations on your success!!!!

I know how I'd deal with that. Other people may decide to not use this method.

When she says something negative, take out a piece of paper and write it down, together with the date and time. Use the same piece of paper each time, so anyone can see what she's said and you've written.

She'll stop saying those things by about the third or fourth time.

If she asks why you're writing it, say "it's for your Wikipedia webpage on the quotes section".

I second this suggestion, I'm betting this would shut her up pretty quickly :laugh: