Does anyone feel like their goals are a million miles away?

There is some excellent advice so far about setting mini goals along the way.

Its one day at a time, linking consistent good days together. What is the next right thing I can do today to get to my goal and make that choice.

I felt the same way so I set up mini goals and take it one step at a time. One thing you should know about weight loss: DON'T RUSH IT! It seems that when I rush I set myself up for failure.

Yeah but thats probably because I made it my personal goal to be able to see my abs XD

As others have said having smaller goals along the way are very helpful with feeling successful and seeing results and not getting overwhelmed.
I also think having fitness goals can be helpful, not just the number on the scale. Like for me I started out saying ok I want to be able to walk to the plaza and back. It's right around 7 miles. Once I did that up to doing 10 miles, 3 days a week. I also wanted to be able to go bike riding with my husband. Not keep up mind you but not feeling like Im going to pass out. Fitting into an old item of clothing that I couldn't wear anymore but didn't want to toss. Things like that I find are helpful as well. It takes time to get healthier.

I do and I don't. Like others have said I set small goals and celebrate what I've lost. My weight is a result of a lifetime and my weightloss is a result of a few months. By the end of this it will be nearly two years to reach my goal but it's not a lifetime.

I work in 10 pound increments. For example, my current weight is 192, so my next goal is to get into the 180s. Next goal after that is the 170s, and so on. i started at 203, so my first goal was to get to ONEderland. Set small goals that will help you meet your long term goal.

I started at 203 also and I was thrilled to get into the 190's then the 180's and now working toward 170's. For me ten pounds at a time makes me feel like I'm getting somewhere rather than focusing on what I have to lose in total.

Does anyone else feel like their goals are a million miles away?

My first goal is to lose 14lbs by mid November. It sounds so achievable but previous failures make me feel like its year away and I am afraid of failing again.

I am only one day in and this worry is hanging over me.

Anyone else feel the same? Anyone overcome this feeling and won? My diet perspective is seriously warped after years of the same cycles.

Do I feel like my goal of losing 102 lbs is a million miles away? Yes. And that goal of running a half marathon next December? Yes (that one I'm actually happy is a million miles away :P ). My other short term goals? No, those are just around the corner.

I broke down my goals into smaller goals. I now have 5 weight loss goals and 5 fitness goals. None of those goals have time limitations on them except for the half marathon (it is a specific one held annually that means a lot to me). I don't like putting a timer on myself. I certainly didn't put a timer on myself when gaining all this weight. If I missed a weight loss goal on some timer I put on myself, I would feel very discouraged. Without that timer, I know I'm going to hit it. It's only a matter of when.

I've done the lose weight-gain weight cycle about 3 times now. I'm done. No more yo-yo diet for me. This plan will work. I've seen it work. I also know I'm not going to fail. I had that revelation this weekend, and it was so tremendous for me, I literally cried for a good hour. I'm never going to be at this weight again. I won't let myself. I believe in myself, because I want it that bad, and it's all about choices. The weight gain isn't something that just happens. It's a choice. As much as I've been dodging that realization, it's true. I chose to not watch what I was eating or exercise, and I gained weight. Now I'm chosing to eat selectively and exercise for life. I'm not coming back here ever again.

Does anyone else feel like their goals are a million miles away?

My first goal is to lose 14lbs by mid November. It sounds so achievable but previous failures make me feel like its year away and I am afraid of failing again.

I am only one day in and this worry is hanging over me.

Anyone else feel the same? Anyone overcome this feeling and won? My diet perspective is seriously warped after years of the same cycles.

I stopped plotting my weight into the calendar like appointments. It created nothing but stress to me, expectations that I was unable to meet, and I was miserable. It's good to have a realistic idea of how quickly/slowly it is possible to lose weight, but what I prefer now is to view the whole lifestyle change and realise that my weight is only an indirect effect of it; I don't put too much focus on what the scale tells me now.

As for being able to remain patient and committed, I think it is beneficial to look both backwards and forwards. If you only ever remind yourself of what is still left undone, you will never be proud and happy of already achieved things. Celebrate also non-scale victores (NSV). And go to the source of why you have excess weight currently, aim to prevent anything that could cause your weight to increase in the future (= permanent lifestyle change).

Just remember the perspective and pat yourself on the back.

Yes and no. Yes, I realize that the end goal is going to take forever to reach. There's nothing to be done about it, so I just don't think about that.

Everything I do is to reach that end goal, but I concentrate on the now. What do I have to do today to make this happen?

Little things come up that make me happy, so I think more about those. "Ooh, I can't wait until..." things. I can't wait until I wear that pair of shorts I kept all these years. I can't wait to change the 2 in 200 to a 1. I can't wait until I hit these big mile markers (e.g. 175, 150.) Every ten pound marker, every new size I fit into...it all becomes part of the fun and the focus.

Exercise. What can I add.? How does it feel? Can I do something I couldn't do when I was 250 pounds of fat? Do I like it? How can I make my body better? Should I go back to the weight machines? Should I try running? It all adds variety and is good for my body.

Right now, I still am not sure what my end weight will even be. Still too fat to carve that number in stone. But at 181.8 (for three damn days straight!), I'm really excited about hitting 180. And the big 175 is coming up, so I'm jazzed about that. I'm even looking forward to having 150 as my next mile marker, lol. And getting into size 14. It's about to happen.

I have added new exercise like planking. I do crunches and six inches every day and feel my abdomen being stronger, less of a drain on my back. I pull heavy weight through the water. I signed up at a gym again (God help me.) As the weather cools off, I'll get out and walk more. I feel good. I'm proud of me.

I gross out at myself every day. So much fat. And the loose skin is really bugging me (it cannot be fixed! Argh!) I think about how much I've lost and how fat I still am. Occasionally, I think about how very much harder it will be to lose the second half of my weight than it was to lose the first half. But I know I'm a work in progress and that it will happen...and I go back to making it happen.

At the weight I am now, every ten pounds shows marked improvement. That, in itself, is a huge accomplishment. I used to go 20 or 30 pounds and say, "I just don't see much difference..." Because there was so much fat! It didn't MAKE much difference. But NOW! Now it does. I did that. I got to the point where it really shows. So, yay! That's much more fun to focus on than, "OMG, I'm so fat."

And I will get to the point where I'm thin. I'll say, "I'm as good as I can be. I did it." I know I can get there,because I got here. So, the long term goal...I'm working on it every day.

Don't know if any of that helps.

Yes, I do! It comes off so slow.