Why do so many women care what men prefer?

How will we know how to dress or think or act or what shape we should be if a man doesn't tell us? We can't just do what makes us happy, because what if that's not what a man would like?? We need constant validation from men that we're making the right choices. I think that's what it is anyway. Let me go ask a man if I'm right.

It's a good thing we have all these helpful forum topics to guide us along the right path.

It really! Now I just have to figure out how to be in my twenties with a perfect hourglass shape, always be in a dress, and be feminine but not too clingy and make awesome sammiches and give a man his space, but let him know I'm always there for him and wear make up, but not too much. What am I missing? What else do I need to do?

You forgot the dominatrix outfit.

Really sick of the insecurity answer. How about because it's only natural to want to appeal to the opposite sex ... it's called sexual selection. If only we could admit to ourselves that we want to secure a sexual partner instead of berating other women for wanting to do exactly that. Disclaimer: not to be mistaken for putting up with abusive, degrading, or non-reciprocating partners, aka making sammiches for a demanding man who never makes you sammiches in return and doesn't respect you.

lol screw what men prefer.

Serious answer - Because it's only natural to want to be attractive to the opposite sex

Joking answer - Because I said so. And pleasing me is your main goal in life, right?

You're right, Derp. If I make you a sammich, will you forgive my brazen behavior?:flowerforyou:

Better bring a beer too, you've got a lot to be sorry for missy.

Because society, advertising, shows and movies all tell us to care. So we are all brought up to think (this is the majority mind you) that our worth is in our ability to make all the men want to look at us. And women go along with it.

If the man doesn't like you how you are, he isn't worth bothering with in the first place.

The reverse applies for you, too, fellas! Let the haters hate, and find the real woman you should be with.




Edit: Damn, that ended up huge. Cartman is scary up close.

Honest answer: Because it feels good to have other people find you attractive. Not that you should change who you are, how you act, how you think, or anything about who you are as a person, but if your boyfriend/husband/whomever think you look great in the red dress, there isn't anything wrong with wearing the red dress on a date night to please them.

Silly Answer: Because I'm totally worthless unless I have a man to complete me, and the only way to do that is change everything about who I am to fit into his perfect little wife-y mold, obviously! Duh!

I blame a couple of reasons...
1. The images of ''what beauty truly is" that society crams down our throats day in and day out.
2. insecurities (already been said but its a big reason)
3. also I think in a way its ingrained in us as women to want to please our men.... Independence within women has grown greatly since the 60's but sometimes I think we fall back into that mindset at times. We forget that we don't NEED a man to survive therefore we don't need to try so hard to please them.

I am married and I do care that I look nice for my husband but I mostly care what I think. He does not tell me how I should be, he loves me for who I am, what I look like and what I wear and if he did try to turn me into something else I wouldn't be with him.

I blame religion.