need to vent..

'fat' is all objective.
i know girls that think beyonce is fat- and we all know she is a godess!?

the only thing you need to think from this is that your not your brothers type... thats sounds like a good thing unless your from the deep DEEP south

think about it, a girl who was once big and now isnt hasnt more self control than any girl who doesnt have to work to stay thin (and from a bf's point of view she thinks before she puts anything in her mouth- winner!?!) so surely a guy should see that she works hard, cares about her body and is pro-active.

honestly- beauty is in the eye of the beholder, its taken me years to see this but if someone doesnt appreciate it- toss their *kitten* to the curb!

i totally think you need to use this as Motivation Here's what you do .everytime you don't feel like sticking to your attack plan {diet,workout}etc.you think of this guy and how bad he made you feel and aim to prove him wrong by getting in the best shape of your life and guess what?when your're reached your goal he will be drooling for the former ''fat''girl That I guarantee.and BAM!!revenge served.

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i totally think you need to use this as Motivation Here's what you do .everytime you don't feel like sticking to your attack plan {diet,workout}etc.you think of this guy and how bad he made you feel and aim to prove him wrong by getting in the best shape of your life and guess what?when your're reached your goal he will be drooling for the former ''fat''girl That I guarantee.and BAM!!revenge served.

I agree, my sister is the former "Fat Girl" & a guy used to tease her & be mean to her & she hated him & he hated her.... UNTIL she stuck to her goal.... now they are happily married!

oh god, that guy is clearly an *kitten*. don't let what he said get to you. i know a lot of girls who successfully lost the weight and, i don't know how their bodies look but they have had no trouble in the dating area! that guy is an ignorant waste of time.

what a dipstick he is
what does he do? prescreen every girl he is ever interested in and ask if they ever had a weight problem? *rme* as IF!

i do love karma.. odds are HE is going to end up the one with weight issues in the future... let's see if he feels the same way then, cause, what goes around comes around.

You have no need to apologize for your post here. This guy sounds like a total idiot. Stay on your journey and try not to let him bring you down. There are always going to be people in life who say hurtful, cruel things, intentional or not. You can only control how you react to those things, and you have to keep your head up and remind yourself what you're trying to accomplish.

Then come to MFP and tell us all what an *kitten* this guy is! He'll probably be single for the rest of life=)

can i ask if your brother's friends is single? because if he is, he'll never get a woman coming out with those ignorant comments. And if he isnt, just wait until his wife/girlfriend has children...he has a big ego shock coming!

Oh you took the words right out of my mouth. What a complete knobhead.
And I also agree - punch your brother on the nose for his total lack of judgement in friends.

We all think you're great. I know how it feels to have low esteem - it sickens you so much to be overweight. But I have turned my life around - and because you are here expressing yourself to a bunch of complete strangers just shows that you are also on the path to self-worth. Keep up the good work, we are all rooting for you.

And if you can let us know this guys address, a bunch of us will go round and pummell his face - it would be a terrific workout! :laugh:

Are you kidding??? And nobody said anything??

I suppose the guy that made these remarks was perfect physically in every way - so that he can be so judgemental. "A reformed fat girl"??? WTH.

He's gonna end up old and alone. Jerk.

From what I read on the original post, I think he said it as more of a general comment towards overweight people and not so much towards you. What brought up the subject of fat people anyway since no one knows you are trying to lose weight? I find it funny because if he does meet someone and that's a big IF, how would he know if she used to be fat and lost it all and is now thin? He wouldn't, unless he asked and what moron would do that? Oh, maybe him, that's right, he's the moron! Lesson learned, it doesn't matter what we used to be, it's what we have changed into that counts. The past is the past and no one should be to concerned with it, it's done and over with. My ex-husband was somewhat like that, always making fun of overweight people and look who he ended up with for 20 years, me and I have always had a weight problem off and on. So, you reap what you sew, you get what you deserve, what goes around comes around! I'd like to see him after marriage, kids and life, he will probaly end up fat and disgusting! Don't even give someone like that the time of day, it's not worth your energy or thoughts. There is nothing you can do about ignorant people like that, they are just useless. Just keep your focus on your goals and worry about you, your what matters here!

He's a a##hole, ignore him. Whether fat or thin, you will always run into people who say stupid crap & piss you off. You can choose whether or not you will let them affect you and how they will affect you. Chalk him up to being a loser who you would never want anything to do with anyway.

I also suggest that if you are serious about losing weight, let the people around you know.. the majority will be supportive. You will run into morons who will still try shoving cupcakes in your face but most people aren't like that. Accept the fact you are fat, you want to lose weight, and you are going to lose weight. Nothing to be ashamed of... be proud and strong of the steps that you are taking to improve your life.

Good luck!