Hurtful comments that have motivated you...

My ex-stepmom used to tell me how fat I was. She kept me home from school in sophomore year for two hours to yell at me and tell me how fat I was. I weighed 118. I can't wait to get skinny, become a nurse, and let her know where to shove it. She was a nightmare for 10 years.

I have an evil stepmom, too. Mine is still currently married to my dad, though. She's always cut me down, but this is the one that hurt the worst:

Evil Stepmom: fitnesspirateninja, are you dieting?
Me: Yes. I've lost 12 pounds.
ES: Really? Because you don't look like you've lost any weight at all!

That was maybe eight years ago, but I think about that conversation when I'm starting to slack. She wants me to fail. I don't want to give her the satisfaction.

Oh my god... Makes me cringe that women can do these things and yet we get called dogs... dammit. Makes me even scared to date...

Some men are dogs, and some women are female dogs (the word for that is used fairly often...). I don't really see how this is a "battle of the sexes" issue. That may be the most vicious thing I've ever done in my life, I know.
On some level though, I really did like him. We dated for a few months and I thought I could get past the hurt and anger, but I couldn't, so in the end, the evil succubus heartbreak thing happened.

The lesson here is don't be a d*ck. :flowerforyou: (And yes, I realize that's true for me too, I did gain all the weight back, because I did it for the wrong reasons.)

Was he a **** or did you do it because he said that one comment?

My brother used to always call me big 'un as a jab. We've always kidded around, but that always got under my skin. Now, he's the beer guzzling fat *kitten* and I'm shaking my size 6 *kitten* in his face. :devil:

Understand that I only call him a fat *kitten* because he deserves it, lol.

I still love him, lol.

It's not the worst by a long shot I'm sure, but I get this one a lot

"You used to be so skinny"

It stings every time I hear it

"Why the hell would I go out with someone that might smother me with her stomach?"-a guy I liked at the time.

I would've punched him in the face. Dont' mean to get violent there lol, but that's kinda crossing the line. What a Jerk!

" I can't say anything. I have no room to talk BECAUSE YOU TOOK IT ALL."

I LOVE IT!!

I've had various snide comments from my (overweight) father all my life. Was sooo great to walk through the airport doors after not having seen him in 6 months (and 30lbs lost) and have him not recognise me, haha!! Victory, yes!!

One of my favourites was from the induction trainer when I signed up at the gym: "219lbs - wow! At least you're here..."
--> 4 months later & 37lbs gone I sneer at him every time I pass :devil: [Karma's a lil' b*tch though - he fell down the stairs at gym in front of everyone the other day! Nothing but his ego got hurt... so we can have a little giggle at it :laugh: ]

Families can be the worst. My brother said that when I was thinner I was at my "man getting weight" and now that I have a husband I no longer need to be at that weight. I just want to punch him. Of course this is the same guy who said I lied about my miscarriage to get sympathy from the family. You can't pick your family!

A coworker and I look similar and every time she is pregnant (this is her third pregnancy) I get asked how my pregnancy is going... Did I mention this time she is having twins!!!

Wow! That is insanely rude. I think you are entitled to slap whoever asked how your pregnancy is going, since asking women about being pregnant is a HUGE no no in the big rule book of etiquette.

When I started my lifestyle change in exercising & eating healthy, one day over a dinner table I was amongst family with a small salad and a grilled chicken breast in my plate; my brother in law said "you need much more than that to loose weight" I smiled with a burn in my heart. He is in my mind everyday when I go to gym.

The year I was in the fourth grade, my friend and I decided that we wanted to dress as football players for Halloween. At church youth group, the pastor was asking all the kids what they were going to be. When I replied that I was going to be a football player, he said, "No, NOT when you grow up, what are you going to be for HALLOWEEN?!" ... In front of everyone... The PASTOR!!!

It was about that time in my life that I had become not just "big for my age" but obviously overweight. I remember my mom asking the family doctor about my weight gain, and his response? "Oh, when she starts liking boys, she'll thin down." No lie, he actually said that.... wtf?!

I don't know if these comments really "motivated" me, but they definitely made me stronger and smarter in later years.

When I came home from college on break and confided in my mom about my eating disorder, she smiled and said "Great that you're finally doing something!". I asked if she was worried at all and she said "Nope, I'm pretty sure you could hibernate off of all that" and poked me in the stomach.

She's apologized a bunch of times since then, but she can't un-say it...

Well it was a few years ago when someone said this to me, but I've never forgotten it. Someone asked me when my baby was due. It was a nice reality check. No woman wants to be asked that. Especially when my at the time my babies were teens!

One I hate the most when the skinnest girl in the group says "ugh I am fat" pisses me off every time!

Ughhh! Yes, these people get on my last nerve! :frown:

Wow, it amazes me how some people's family members or "loved ones" can be so mean! Fortunately, (or unfortuntately, depending on how you look at it) my husband and family never said anything when I was gaining weight.
The RN at the prorgam I work at did though, and a couple of clients. I got asked the ever-so-popular "are you pregnant?". I actually didn't take offense to it because I knew I was gaining, and the RN even said to me "I just was wondering because you've always been so fit and trim, didn't seem like you". Yup, she was right, and here I am a year later back to being fit and trim.

My ex told me I was getting fat and he didn't find me as attractive as when we met, he also said he wanted me to get my "barbie" body back. -- let me set this straight I am 5'7" and at the time was 130-- so what if my hips widened, thats what they are supose to do when your growing up (dated him from age 18-22) [also have to add, his current girl is about 5'0" and 2 of me wide]
Same ex at the end of our relationship, as I was preparing to leave for basic training, told me I couldn't do it, that I was to weak and would fail out. He has since had to appologize and admit he is jealous that I had more b*lls than him and went through with joining. (We both talked to recruiters, he backed out)