I need a womans advice/suggestions...

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  • 311Phil
    311Phil Posts: 397
    thanks everyone :D
  • OneLostSock
    OneLostSock Posts: 82
    Hope you have a great time!! :wink:
  • 311Phil
    311Phil Posts: 397
    Hope you have a great time!! :wink:
    Hope to make it! :)
  • kbray003
    kbray003 Posts: 52
    I went to a music festival that involved camping for 3 days. I was young, in shape, healthy, and NOT pregnent. It was extremely difficult for me with all the walking we had to do, the heat, the smoke and exhaust from people who had RV's, the atmosphere was fun but intense and therefore a little stressful. Why in the world would you want to subject your wife to that when she is several months pregnant? If she's fine with it, great!!!! But who's to say that she doesn't get there, realize it's a bad idea, and then the weekend is ruined for you because of her, and the weekend is ruined for her because it would be difficult for you to understand what whe's going through.

    What's wrong with planning it with some guys or just by yourself? You two can work it out, but I would say no just based upon my previous experiences. Good luck!!!
  • 311Phil
    311Phil Posts: 397
    If she's fine with it, great!!!! But who's to say that she doesn't get there, realize it's a bad idea, and then the weekend is ruined for you because of her, and the weekend is ruined for her because it would be difficult for you to understand what whe's going through.

    What's wrong with planning it with some guys or just by yourself? You two can work it out, but I would say no just based upon my previous experiences. Good luck!!!
    I don't want to "put her through it" obviously i don't want her to go if she doesn't want to, and i could most defnitely go with a friend, but i have a feeling she won't want me to go if she can't....
  • emptysgirl
    emptysgirl Posts: 4 Member
    I think it is great that you are being thoughtful enough to look into the pros and cons of a trip like this, especially since you don't know if she is pregnant or not. That said, I am sure that you realize that ultimately it is up to both you and your wife - every woman, and therefore pregnancy, is different. As a general rule, most women only have morning sickness the first 3 months, and the second trimester is the best (feeling good, lots of energy etc), but I know of women who were sick thru their entire pregnancies. It is fine to travel during your pregnancy up to the last month or so. Of course, if you get the tickets and do plan to drive down keep in mind, while planning that you will HAVE to make frequent stops - EVERY 2 HOURS so that your wonderful wife will be able to get out, go to the bathroom and walk for at least 15 minutes. My husband and I made a road trip when I was about 6 1/2 months pregnant with my first (of 5 boys) and I did fine as long as we made those stops! Talk it through with your wife and have a blast if you guys decide to go for it!!! As for ordering the tickets .... the worst that will happen is that you won't be able to use them - the best is that you will both go and have the time of your life!!
  • 311Phil
    311Phil Posts: 397
    I think it is great that you are being thoughtful enough to look into the pros and cons of a trip like this, especially since you don't know if she is pregnant or not. That said, I am sure that you realize that ultimately it is up to both you and your wife - every woman, and therefore pregnancy, is different. As a general rule, most women only have morning sickness the first 3 months, and the second trimester is the best (feeling good, lots of energy etc), but I know of women who were sick thru their entire pregnancies. It is fine to travel during your pregnancy up to the last month or so. Of course, if you get the tickets and do plan to drive down keep in mind, while planning that you will HAVE to make frequent stops - EVERY 2 HOURS so that your wonderful wife will be able to get out, go to the bathroom and walk for at least 15 minutes. My husband and I made a road trip when I was about 6 1/2 months pregnant with my first (of 5 boys) and I did fine as long as we made those stops! Talk it through with your wife and have a blast if you guys decide to go for it!!! As for ordering the tickets .... the worst that will happen is that you won't be able to use them - the best is that you will both go and have the time of your life!!


    Thanks!
  • wanderlusty
    wanderlusty Posts: 11
    I would say, get the tickets and if she is pregnant and doesn't feel like going, get another friend to go with you. You don't always have to do everything together right?
  • sylvia1970
    sylvia1970 Posts: 134
    IFS and BUTS.

    Buy the tickets

    If she's pregnant and not feeling up to it, you take ya mates and she can have a pampering time with the girlies; being pregnant, she will appreciate it.

    Alls well that ends well

    Good luck with the trying :wink:
  • nikkinikki113
    nikkinikki113 Posts: 279 Member
    In my opinion, she would be fine to go at 6 months. For most, MOST, women, the morning sickness has passed by then, and without getting all mama lingo on you, she should be feeling her most energetic (pregnancy energy-wise speaking) during months 4-7. Personally, I spent the weekend before I had my daughter chopping down the most ridiculous bushes in our front yard, that I decided had to go, right then. I would be fine for my husband to go, and I don't think you're being selfish at all.

    I say - BUY THE TICKETS. She'd expect the same from you, if it were the other way around.

    Just my opinion though Enjoy it if you go, don't mope if you don't. :wink:
  • bjshooter
    bjshooter Posts: 1,174 Member
    I was fine by then in two pregnancies. BUt I really would listen to what she is saying, you do not want to piss off a pregnant woman and you need to be supportive and make sure she knows SHE comes before any band you may have liked for however long :D
  • kidakiwi04
    kidakiwi04 Posts: 238
    I say buy the tickets...then if she doesn't feel like going and doesn't want you to go you could always sell the tickets to me. :wink:
  • TerraGirl17
    TerraGirl17 Posts: 275 Member
    Have her stay home and make you a bunch of sandwiches for the trip.

    Uh oh... I am guessing you aren't married or if you are your wife doesn't read this...lol you sound just like my husband!!
  • spcopps
    spcopps Posts: 283
    You are right, every prego is different. When I was prego with my first child NO way would I have gone camping. I did go see Poison at about 7 months but didn't have to sleep in a tent LOL. I threw up with her until I was in my 3rd trimester. However, when I was prego with my twin boys I was dancing at a wedding when I was 20 weeks and would have gone camping up until delivery. Actually 3 days before I delivered them I took my daughter to the zoo and walked all day. I would say buy the tickets and see how she feels. You can always sale her ticket if she isn't able to go.
  • rileamoyer
    rileamoyer Posts: 2,412 Member
    Plan your trip and see how she feels at the time. Women are a lot stronger than some folks think. Heck women traveled on wooden ships across the ocean (for 3 months) many a baby was born at sea (one of my hubby's ancestors). Women trekked all over this continent before we had horses. We have so much better health care and acess to facilities these days. Unless she is high risk or has other problems, 6 months is fine. I was still working out at a gym till 7 months. Fly fishing and hiking at 5 months. GO for it. Worst case, sell the tickets later.
  • 311Phil
    311Phil Posts: 397
    Plan your trip and see how she feels at the time. Women are a lot stronger than some folks think. Heck women traveled on wooden ships across the ocean (for 3 months) many a baby was born at sea (one of my hubby's ancestors). Women trekked all over this continent before we had horses. We have so much better health care and acess to facilities these days. Unless she is high risk or has other problems, 6 months is fine. I was still working out at a gym till 7 months. Fly fishing and hiking at 5 months. GO for it. Worst case, sell the tickets later.
    thats my plan! I just need to talk to her about it and get her on board!
  • 311Phil
    311Phil Posts: 397
    Talked with her about it, we've decided to at least plan the trip and go from there! :D She was hesitant at first, but i told her that if she doesn't want to go to the shows that she'd be able to do other things. We also discussed possibly dropping her off in charlotte NC on the way down to visit with a friend of ours from high school! So there are many possibilities!
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