*Snowflakes to Sunshine* Discussion Week #9 3.4.11
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Daily Inspiration for March 6, 2011
Katie Jay, MSW
Feel your fear and do it anyway.
Sometimes your perception of how a situation will unfold keeps you from attempting the activity. You imagine how uncomfortable it's going to be and you don't want to take the risk. Yet, sometimes you just need to take a deep breath and accept the invitation to try. Most of the time it's not as bad as you think. You may find you actually have a good time, make a few new friends, and learn some new things. Accepting the challenge enables you to rise to the occasion and profit from the experience.
Even when the situation does not work out, you have learned something, and you have established a new pattern of risk taking. The new you will not let fear be the only reason for not taking a risk. You are becoming more capable every day, and you are living your life accordingly.
Action for the day: Think about what holds you back from fully participating in life. Give yourself permission to take the risk to be a part of something exciting today.0 -
I'm NOT a one bite person. My one bite yesterday turned into 2 rice crispies and a 1/2 bowl of ice cream... :sick: I try not to start something unless I can fit it into my calories. Thankfully, yesterday I could.If, however, you have a bite and spend all of your free time thinking about the next bite, it's probably a trigger food that you should consider avoiding. If you don't avoid the trigger foods, one bite leads to another and another. Is it worth it? The new you says, "No, I want to live a full, healthy life. I will not go back to the old pain and suffering. I have a choice today."
IFeel your fear and do it anyway.
this quote! I read it all the time! It goes along with the idea that there is not good or bad, just results. What we think of the results makes them good or bad. Sometime we should try and be neutral. That's something I got from the Inner Game of Tennis book. Thanks Mollie! 0 -
I'm so excited about this week! I have been dreaming about spring and summer and when I can finally strip myself from all these extra layers of clothes and let everyone see how hard I have been working all winter. I had on a light spring jacket yesterday and 3 people who I see on a pretty regular basis commented on my weight loss. It's hiding under the sweaters and coats, just waiting for the right moment. I'm shooting to lose 5 more pounds before the end of the month. I go see my doc on 4/4 and usually I am terrified of the scale at the doctor, but this time I'm looking forward to it! Is that weird? I really hope to come off this blood pressure medicine. I've been on it for almost a year now since my surgery.
Well I'm just rambling now. I hope everyone is doing well too.0 -
Well I finally weighed in this morning, and I was right...I had a gain. I am back at 159.5 :sad: which totally sucks but i understand im not going to see a loss every week, i just need to get my butt back in workout mode and start working it out!!! I WILL DO THIS!!! I WILL LOSE THIS WEIGHT!!!
I actually have some really exciting news though....I am probably getting engaged soon!!! My bf picked out a ring (which he said he is going to let me pick out one that I am in love with before we actually get married!) but I saw the ring and it is beautiful!! not exactly what I want but I'll take a 1 Karat diamond ring any day :happy: I'm not positive he is going to buy it and propose but I am pretty sure, so that gives me even more motivation!! I DO NOT WANT TO BE A FAT BRIDE!!!---nor do I want to be fat when he actually proposes LOL---but they checked my ring size and I have always been a 6 and the measured me at a 5 1/2 and the 6 was too big!!! which means i must be losing all my weight from my fingers LOL0 -
Ok, so I am way behind on responding to everyone's posts....however, I realized that I never answered my own question.....
So last week, I don't feel like I gave it 100%...I had some eating mistakes and I don't feel like my exercise was at the intensity level that it should have been at! Plain and simple...not my best week at all.
But what am I doing to improve for this week...well since we are in the 3rd day of it...I started TurboFire, I am eating way better, and I purchased a HRM...finally. I am going into this week focused on breaking this plateau and wanting to hit 210 by Friday's weigh-in. TOM is still lingering, thanks to Depo-Provera, but I am more focused on watching everything that I eat and burning the heck out of some calories!!! Plain and simple, I got into my own head and psyched myself out these last couple of weeks!
Not this week though...I am going full steam ahead, the scale is under the bed until Friday and getting to the root of why I was plateauing. I am working hard at netting my 1200 calories, especially since TurboFire is so intense I know I need more fuel in my body.
Now the goal for the rest of this week is:
Monday- Zumba
Tuesday- Day 3 of C25k in the morning and Day 3 of TurboFire at night
Wednesday-Zumba in the morning and Day 4 of TurboFire at night
Thursday- Day 5 of TurboFire in the morning and trying to rest the body before weigh-in the next morning.
So we will see how this goes...and I have made my plan and sticking to it!
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I know right! None of my family has said a word about my progress from the Shred, but if I can tell, they surely must be able to once I stop wearing sweaters and jackets. That's gonna be a fun moment. :bigsmile:I'm so excited about this week! I have been dreaming about spring and summer and when I can finally strip myself from all these extra layers of clothes and let everyone see how hard I have been working all winter. I had on a light spring jacket yesterday and 3 people who I see on a pretty regular basis commented on my weight loss. It's hiding under the sweaters and coats, just waiting for the right moment.
CuteMommy88... Congrats on the anticipated plans!! Back in the days that I wore rings, I was a size 8-10 ring size, and now none of my old rings fit at all! The last ring I bought was a 6!! :happy:
Krys... Great plan! Stick to it!! :drinker: I'm starting the C25K this week!0 -
Well I finally weighed in this morning, and I was right...I had a gain. I am back at 159.5 :sad: which totally sucks but i understand im not going to see a loss every week, i just need to get my butt back in workout mode and start working it out!!! I WILL DO THIS!!! I WILL LOSE THIS WEIGHT!!!
I actually have some really exciting news though....I am probably getting engaged soon!!! My bf picked out a ring (which he said he is going to let me pick out one that I am in love with before we actually get married!) but I saw the ring and it is beautiful!! not exactly what I want but I'll take a 1 Karat diamond ring any day :happy: I'm not positive he is going to buy it and propose but I am pretty sure, so that gives me even more motivation!! I DO NOT WANT TO BE A FAT BRIDE!!!---nor do I want to be fat when he actually proposes LOL---but they checked my ring size and I have always been a 6 and the measured me at a 5 1/2 and the 6 was too big!!! which means i must be losing all my weight from my fingers LOL
Awwww that is awesome! I guess I can say an early congrats...but I will wait for the official announcement lol! And girl please...you are nowhere near fat now! But I know what you mean about wanting to look your best when you get married! I feel the same way! I actually plan weddings as well and based on things that I have seen in real life and on shows...I want to be able to go into a bridal store and try on the samples...and they fit. There is nothing more discouraging for a bride than having to pick only stores that carry larger sizes!
Anywho, just stick with your plan and you FEEL just as beautiful as we see that you are on the outside 0 -
Ok so it's brain "exercise time" again..LOL! I want everyone to answer this question today....
What is your biggest fear of your weight loss journey?
Really think about the thing that worries you the most and post it here and even write it down on a piece of paper, in a notebook...wherever.0 -
Ok so it's brain "exercise time" again..LOL! I want everyone to answer this question today....
What is your biggest fear of your weight loss journey?
Really think about the thing that worries you the most and post it here and even write it down on a piece of paper, in a notebook...wherever.
My biggest fear is that I won't get there(to be a yogi runner with a healthy bmi) and then the anxiety that I sabotage myself to make my fear come true0 -
saggy skin....and how I will look0
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My greatest fear(s) are that: 1) I won't succeed, and 2) That I will get down to my goal weight and will gain the weight back again.
Addressing #1: I don't know why I would have that fear since I have found MFP and all YOU awesome people who are great support in helping me to achieve my goal!
Addressing #2): I have never gotten all the way down to a set goal weight, I'll lose maybe 20 lbs and then start heading back up. I am hoping that by doing this slowly, and changing the way I eat and look at food, by the time I reach my goal weight, I'll value the effort it took to achieve it, and NOT throw it all away!
I realize my fears are all in my head - they WILL NOT HOLD ME BACK!!0 -
Mine are the same as those who have already answered.
#1) That I won't get there
#2) If I do get there, I won't be able to maintain0 -
♥♥♥ THANK YOU KRYS AND MOLLIE FOR YOUR ENCOURAGING WORDS!!! You two are always so encouraging and supportive of others, you 2 ladies inspire me! I am so thankful to have met you guys and so many others on this site! ♥♥♥ Have a great weekend everybody :happy:
Of course girly....that's what we are here for! You can do it...demand your life back and just take one day at a time.0 -
Ok so it's brain "exercise time" again..LOL! I want everyone to answer this question today....
What is your biggest fear of your weight loss journey?
Really think about the thing that worries you the most and post it here and even write it down on a piece of paper, in a notebook...wherever.
My greatest fear is that I will never pass 230-250 lbs since I don't really remember being lower than that. I can't picture myself being slim. I looked through pictures and found a few that I was around 230-250 and I think that I look ok at that weight... I don't know how much my weight was at 18 but I remember being happy then... When I will hit 225 l think this will help me focusing on my ultimate weight goal of 140... I shall see that in a few months from now because I will get to 225... I have to...0 -
Ok so it's brain "exercise time" again..LOL! I want everyone to answer this question today....
What is your biggest fear of your weight loss journey?
Really think about the thing that worries you the most and post it here and even write it down on a piece of paper, in a notebook...wherever.
My biggest fear is that I won't maintain and gain it all back. As you know I've falling off the weightloss train BIG time lately and gained some back and have been eating everything in sight.:blushing: :grumble: I guess what I really need to do is figure out what is making me stuff myself like this. I definatly am an emotional eater.0 -
My fears? A very good question. I had to ask myself that question when I regained 80 pounds of weight lost. I was afraid. Like Chantal stated i was afraid of the unknown. I can't remember being under 300 pounds.
I started getting attention from men and did not know how to handle it. It frighten me, even though I have always dream of attention from the right type of men. So when I started getting it, I was frighten.
I have all of this excess skin too add to it so what would I look like to a man if I were to get into a relationship with one. I would have to explain it to them.
So the whole dating scene scared me to death because I did not have to deal with it when I was 500 pounds plus. Thankfully I have dealt with this on some levels but it still frightens me to death but I am very mindful of it now and I plan on getting pass it this time I get near 300 pounds. I will not sabatoge myself again.
Thanks Kris for such a good thought provoking question. I do believe many times our fears of the unknown does impede our progress.
Have a good day all and fight those fears!0 -
Ok so it's brain "exercise time" again..LOL! I want everyone to answer this question today....
What is your biggest fear of your weight loss journey?
Really think about the thing that worries you the most and post it here and even write it down on a piece of paper, in a notebook...wherever.
Not getting to where I want to be. I am at my smallest adult weight right now so I have no idea what I will look like when I get a lil smaller. Will I like it, how far will I want to go.... just the biggest fear of the unknown. Its scary and excited all at the same time!0 -
Ok so it's brain "exercise time" again..LOL! I want everyone to answer this question today....
What is your biggest fear of your weight loss journey?
I have been thinking about this all morning - I am afraid that I am going to fail to complete my goal - that I won't make it to my goal weight! I can't even picture myself there.0 -
Ok so it's brain "exercise time" again..LOL! I want everyone to answer this question today....
What is your biggest fear of your weight loss journey?
I agree with some of the other responses; my biggest fear on this journey is that I won't make it to my goal. I think I feel this way b/c there is this nagging worry in the back of my mind that my hypothyroid meds will stop working and my thyroid will mess up again..... Before getting my meds at the right level, I worked my butt off and ate right for weeks, months, and years... and just gained weight. I'm worried that that could be my life again. It's like I'm holding my breath and forgetting to exhale, worried that, if I do, the weight will come back on.... If that makes any sense....
I think the fact that we have stuck around to this point (almost half-way through!) means that we are a group of people who have the determination and perseverance to make it to our goals. At the same time, I think the worries are a natural part of the process. It's a good idea to acknowledge them, of course. Now we need to think logically about them. Logical thinking is a weakness of mine in certain situations (like this one). :-) So, this is a great exercise for me!
Good luck, everyone!0 -
TO ADD TO TODAY'S DISCUSSIONS ON FEARS
Daily Inspiration for March 6, 2011
Katie Jay, MSW
Feel your fear and do it anyway.
Sometimes your perception of how a situation will unfold keeps you from attempting the activity. You imagine how uncomfortable it's going to be and you don't want to take the risk. Yet, sometimes you just need to take a deep breath and accept the invitation to try. Most of the time it's not as bad as you think. You may find you actually have a good time, make a few new friends, and learn some new things. Accepting the challenge enables you to rise to the occasion and profit from the experience.
Even when the situation does not work out, you have learned something, and you have established a new pattern of risk taking. The new you will not let fear be the only reason for not taking a risk. You are becoming more capable every day, and you are living your life accordingly.
Action for the day: Think about what holds you back from fully participating in life. Give yourself permission to take the risk to be a part of something exciting today.0 -
Ok so it's brain "exercise time" again..LOL! I want everyone to answer this question today....
What is your biggest fear of your weight loss journey?
Really think about the thing that worries you the most and post it here and even write it down on a piece of paper, in a notebook...wherever.
My biggest fears are that I'm not going to loss this stomach pouch. The flab may go away but I will still have this extra skin hanging it is gross it looks like kneed dough. My stretch mark are crazy. I have a fear of surgery too and wouldn't have the money for a tummy tuck any how. I will reach my goal but I still will not like what I see when naked.0 -
My biggest fear on my journey is that I won't like what I see when I look in the mirror as far as stretch marks, sagging breasts, or sagging skin under my arms. And then I think, "how vain am I that I achieve something that is monumental and the first thing I do is start picking out things that I DON'T like!?"
I have figured out that there are things that I can do about saggy skin...strength train. If I want to have a breast lift...damnit, I'm going to do it. But I can't lose sight of the fact when I do hit my goal...I did it! Plain and simple! I can't sit there and pick at myself after I did something that I never thought that I can do..and give myself some credit.
And as far as fearing that I won't meet my goal....one day at a time. You can't think too far ahead. Just know that you will make it to your goal as long as you stay focused, don't beat yourself up, give yourself those freebies, work hard and STAY POSITIVE!!! We are powerful beyond measure and how will you ever know how far you can go if you don't push yourself. So do it! You will be surprised.0 -
Sorry I haven't been around lately, I have been on antibiotics for a kidney infection, so I haven't really been exercising. I am still doing my walking and everything, but not going to the gym or to the boot camp class.
I weighed myself on Friday and I am down to 200. That is one pound down since the last time i weighed. Woohoo. Only problem is I have a new laptop and don't have the link to the stuff to record the weight. I will go search for it after I am done with my homework.
I just wanted to stop by and let you guys know I am still here. I am still counting my calories and sticking to my set number. i am proud of myself. For all the health problems I have had this year I haven't let it stop me or get me down. It feels good.0 -
I think my fears are similar to everyones: not getting there and gainning it back even if i do get there...
I think one of the biggest obstcles for me is that i am scared i am going to lose all the weight in my boobs... I know that it might scound dumb, but both my mom and sister are flat chested... and they weight around what i want to. I don't want to have flabby skin hangging where my breasts once were...
I have to say my boyfriend has been amazing about it. I told him about my worry and he just held me and let me know that if that happens we will deal with it at that point. He even went so far as to tell me that if it was that important to be, he would help me research options at that point. I guess that makes me feel a lil better about it, but man o man, it's a crazy barrier to try and get over...0 -
I think my fears are pretty much the same as everyone else... that I won't ever meet my goal. I do have to say though, you guys keep me going. I had a lousy week last week and was so tempted to just throw my hands in the air and say "what am I doing this for." Yes I want to fit in my clothes again, set the example for my children and just be healthier but I didn't realize this journey would be so HARD. Then I thought of you guys and how hard you have all worked and are still working. Then I see the kind words that Krys writes and Mollie's inspiration...by the way--you guys are the greatest! I haven't been able to respond since I've been kind of busy, but I've been getting on here to read your posts. Without you guys I could never do this, so Thank You all so very much.0
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My fear isn't that I WON'T get there, it's that I *WILL*!0
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I would have to say my biggest fear is not making it to my goal weight, and if i do actually make it i'm scared i wont maintain
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I fear that my family and friends will not accept the "new me". A lot of them are unhealthy and overweight and I don't preach to them about the importance of getting in shape. But when I am around them, I don't give in. I don't think they are intentionally trying to sabatoge me, but they are certainly not helpful either. But I think it annoys them when I order healthier choices or if I miss their call because I'm at the gym. They think I think I have this attitude like I'm better than them, but that's not the case at all. I just want to be happy and healthy and I hope those around me can understand. I sometimes think they secretly want to see me fail. Maybe its all in my head, but its how I feel...0
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My biggest fear is never getting to my goal weight and always trying. Always hoping next year I will be thinner. I don't want it to be like that anymore. I mean I have already been like that for 4 years. i don't want to be like this anymore. I want to be thinner. I was always thin. I didn't get heavy until i got married to a *kitten*. I gained 15 pounds (went from 135 to 150) and he never let me hear the end of it. It was mostly because I was in recovery for bulimia, on antidepressants, started birth control and got in a car accident that messed up my back. Gaining 15 pounds really isn't that bad considering. But the more he said something, the more I tried to lose weight for him, the more I gained. He even told me to start purging again because I still had a eating disorder (he said I was a compulsive eater) and at least this way I would be thin. I lost it, completely. By the end of it I was over 200 pounds and just ashamed of myself. I am with a much better guy now. He knew my in high school at my thinnest, and he loved me at my biggest. He does't care, he thinks I look perfect all the time. I am scared when I lose weight I don't be attractive to him anymore. I am scared he is just with me because he has a thing for big girls, even though he says I am not big. I am scared that it won't stay off if it actually comes off. I am scared of being fat for the rest of my life. I am scared of always struggling with my weight, either losing it or keeping it off. I am scared of having kids and gaining that weight. i am scared of not looking right when I lose the weight, the saggy skin, the stretch marks, I am scared of looking gross.
I am scared of a lot of things I guess.0 -
I think my fears are pretty much the same as everyone else... that I won't ever meet my goal. I do have to say though, you guys keep me going. I had a lousy week last week and was so tempted to just throw my hands in the air and say "what am I doing this for." Yes I want to fit in my clothes again, set the example for my children and just be healthier but I didn't realize this journey would be so HARD. Then I thought of you guys and how hard you have all worked and are still working. Then I see the kind words that Krys writes and Mollie's inspiration...by the way--you guys are the greatest! I haven't been able to respond since I've been kind of busy, but I've been getting on here to read your posts. Without you guys I could never do this, so Thank You all so very much.
Awww thanks! That is what I am here for...emotional support and to push everyone to be their best, because I care about each and everyone of you! And love the new pic...you are gorgeous!0
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