To many friends not enough support

Is there a limitation on how many friends you can have?

Some people are friend hoarders. I'm only going to add people who have a msg when they add me. I get so many random adds and then never hear from those people.

I myself, feel like I don't support people enough on here, but that's purely because I have a small child and I don't get on here all day / every day. I check it in the morning and at night(some times I don't get on at all ><). So before you do delete people, if you can, find out / think about what their lives may be like. But of course, if you do feel completely shafted by someone that you constantly offer comments / support to, and get nothing in return, by all means, sponges like that aren't welcome in anyones life

I should add.

Surround yourself with people that you want to be like

Doh, also. I should say *L*

I actually use the iphone app and it actually tells you how long it's been since a person has logged in in your list of friends. I make it a rule that if it's someone I don't really know / see and they've been off for more than 2 months. I delete them. If it's someone I actually talked to / liked, I give them a little longer before I remove them

I think I have wonderful MFP friends! I feel so blessed and lucky that a good majority of them are very supportive. I'm hoping that I am able to share and motivate them as much as they do for me each and every day.

I understand where you're coming from. And I'm about to start deleting left and right. I want to pour part of me into someone who will appreciate it it. True this isn't FB and you would think that all of us are on our P's & Q's but not everybody is truly ready to turn their life around. I don't want to nor will I continue to carry dead weight. This is me taking charge of my life and if you get left on the sidelines during the big game, it's your own fault I say!! PS I will be a friend to a friend who has encouraged me.

Hi! My take is that it doesn't matter the size of your list, but the amount of support you get from them. If you have 200 people and only hear or get support from five of them, cut the rest out. You're on a mission, you have things to do, and when it comes to your health, you have every right to get self-centered and think about doing for yourself. If you're posting comments to others and they don't respond back, cut them as well. It's nothing vicious or personal, it's about you wanting to get to a healthy place.

Likewise, if you can't offer support to the friends on your list, it's better to cut them loose. I'm not saying you have to speak to them every day, but if you have people on your list that you haven't said anything to in weeks, you need to cut them. You're not doing them any justice.

You don't have to have a lot of people supporting you. Successful basketball teams are 10 men deep. Successful football teams are 55 men deep. Jesus was 12 men deep.

God Bless!

Shawn

I think there's a huge range of support that people need or want from their friends. I'm not always very active in keeping up with friends' posts and giving them support. Likewise, I don't look to my MFP friends for their comments (but I definitely enjoy reading the ones I get). If someone friends me and discovers later I'm not giving them the support they want, it wouldn't hurt my feelings if they weeded me out. I totally understand that different people have different needs, and we all have to do what works for us.

I think I need to clean up my friends list a little. I got people on my list in which I have never seen or heard from. I also got folks on here which I try to support, motivate, and offer a kind word or two that never return the gesture. This isn't Facebook I'm not trying to see how many friends I can collect. I want people who I can support and who will do the same for me. Some folks just taking up space from people who can really use some support! Does anyone else have this problem with there MFP circle? Do you think it's better to have a small group of friends compared to a big one?

Ha! I just cleaned up my buddy list for the same reason I went from more than 100 to just over 10. I like to be able to build personal relationships and keep each other going! So I kept who always supported me and dropped the others that never posted on any of my little successes

I do apologize if I'm not supportive enough, I do try and comment on everyone of my friends accomplishments, etc. But I do miss some of them. :frown:

You do fine and I don't want any of my friends to feel singled out.I know we are all on a mission and life is hectic! I too have ,to be more cautious about biting off more then I could chew so to speak. Cause I only have 45friends and its hard to reach out to everyone.

Alright, just making sure I wasn't one of those people.

yes I agree. I have alot of friends but just a small percentage that message me or offer support. It is nice to build close relationships with people and support each other. I go through my list about once a month a weed out the people that I never hear from or are no longer longing in to mfp. Everyone has to do what is right for them

I think I need to clean up my friends list a little. I got people on my list in which I have never seen or heard from. I also got folks on here which I try to support, motivate, and offer a kind word or two that never return the gesture. This isn't Facebook I'm not trying to see how many friends I can collect. I want people who I can support and who will do the same for me. Some folks just taking up space from people who can really use some support! Does anyone else have this problem with there MFP circle? Do you think it's better to have a small group of friends compared to a big one?

You think the same as I do ,I had a bit of a clean up the other day and will be doingthe same again today I get great support of certain people on my list and others who I alwyas say something to have NEVER posted one thing to me !!
I would much rather have just a few GOOD friends than tons on a list who never bother