uncondtional support here, not from my narcasistic family

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  • mrjason
    mrjason Posts: 61 Member
    F that dude. You're better than that and you know it. We all have issues and it sounds like your brother enjoys getting a reaction from you. Don't give in, living right is the revenge. You're a role model to so many people on this website. It's not quite as tangible as you may want it to be, but its true nonetheless. Here I am, a total stranger, but I look to you in awe. I've added so much fiber to my diet, I can't poop with giving you a thought. Haha. Point is that you can motivate me and others. Your self worthy should be dictated by your actions and not a relative with mental illness. Rise above and know you are definitely appreciated.
  • patti626
    patti626 Posts: 31 Member
    congratulations man...that is awesome! You are amazing and your brother is way rude and excuse me an idiot!! I got one or two of them also, sucks!
  • slapshotgolf
    slapshotgolf Posts: 163 Member
    Lloyd, sounds like your brother may have some issues of his own he is having trouble dealing with. People often define themselves by how they see themselves against others. As so long as you were less healthy than him, he probably felt he didn't have to address his own issues, and now you've gone and forced the issue back on him by taking care if yourself, so it's hard for him to feel positive for you. Your success has forced him to face his own challenges, and he may not be ready yet. I'm sure if he had kicked his smoking habit while you were losing your weight, the conversation may have gone differently.

    While it's nice to be complimented for our successes, we do this for ourselves first and foremost. You've been very supportive to a lot of people on this site, myself included, so take pleasure in the part you have played in helping others who were ready to be helped. It's a valuable dividend in this journey. ssg
  • teasha43
    teasha43 Posts: 101
    Actually hearing that someone could be so rude and hurtful...and arrogant....makes me wish I could have been there to say something. I am so absolutely angry for you right now. I am so sorry...but heck with their ridiculousness!! You have achieved something incredible and without them all. God Bless you! Thank you for sharing your inspiration and strength (gee, I am still mad)............Good luck with the home stretch" You are almost there:) CONGRATS TO YOU!!
  • watchmelose2
    watchmelose2 Posts: 77 Member
    I congratulate you for a job well done! You have came a long way! I quit smoking two years ago and gained weight! Im now trying to get it off for the second time! I'm sorry your brother is treating you that way! He will pay for it someday! God loves you! And good luck with your weight loss journey!
  • MobiusMan
    MobiusMan Posts: 385 Member
    Dude, it's a sad bit of truth. But you know what you have done and no one can take it away. MY suggestion...get a new brother, screw him.
  • Enigmatica
    Enigmatica Posts: 879 Member
    My ex was diagnosed with NPD when we had to go through court ordered psych evals during a custody battle. That explained a LOT about his behavior that led to the divorce in the first place. They can be extremely hurtful people but they tend to be incapable of recognizing that. You've done an amazing job with yourself. Just focus on you - you're the only one you can change after all.

    Good luck with everything!
  • NatalieWinning
    NatalieWinning Posts: 999 Member
    I have a whole bunch like that in my family! I just quit talking to them. It took me years, but I feel so much better now! One thing this sort of family does to you is make you more determined. You find supportive people and learn to drive away from people that don't have your best interest in mind. It makes a huge difference in freeing up your huge resources. I know you have them, look at what you accomplished! You are actually stronger than them! They will never know or admit it, just go in a different direction. Because you can't do anything about them, but you can do whats good for you!
  • lisajuly
    lisajuly Posts: 240 Member
    Dealing with a family member w/NPD is like banging your head against the wall. ALL. DAY. LONG.

    so, sorry you had to deal with that and not get the support and kudos you so obviously deserve.

    You know what....your MFP family is glad to give you support. you have done fantastic....your family here is incredibly proud of you!
  • calmmomw3minimeez
    calmmomw3minimeez Posts: 499 Member
    Sometimes we have to keep people who are close to us far away. I think that he's jealous of you along with being mental. The better you look will only make him look worse and he doesn't like it. Don't let him or anyone else get you down. You have to be super strong to have made this accomplishment....there's nothing weak about you and we all look up to you...if you can't find support from 'kinfolk' you've got the MFP family, and that's what counts. Keep reaching your goals...we all know you can do it!!:drinker:
  • Becca_007
    Becca_007 Posts: 596 Member
    First off you've done so well, I'm so very proud of you!!:heart:

    Regarding your brother? He sounds scared! Sometimes we project our own fear onto another, when we are unable to reach out and say we're proud or realize we're not doing so great ourselves in life.

    But you ARE doing Great! :drinker: You've gained YEARS onto your life, quality years with your 'family' (by family here I mean the family you create yourself, friends etc)

    Becca:flowerforyou:
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