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i have no tips or advice, sorry! but i hope she gets the hang of it soon!

my son is 18 months, and we're going to be starting the process sometime soon, so i'm sure i'll feel your pain then, lol!

My neice is 2 1/2, she JUST started using the potty. My sister had been trying to get her to use it for months with no luck. Honestly, you just have to wait until she's ready. Make sure you praise her when she does go, or even realizes she needs to go (like when she says "i need to pee") even if she doesn't make it to the potty. My sister got my neice some ariel underwear (ariel is her favourite disney character) when she finally went for the first time. She hasn't had an accident in weeks, she doesn't want to ruin her ariel panties. Good luck, she'll get it eventually.:flowerforyou:

There used to be a video out call "Potty time". It had potty songs and made going potty sort of a party! I'm sure that you make a big deal out of it when she does use the potty, but maybe there can be stickers or some sort of additional reward when she is successful! Good luck!

Putting my now 4 1/2 year old in big girl panties DID NOT help. We started to potty train her when she was 2, and then again closer to three. First we started with the reward system, and it worked for a few months...only with pee. Then she quit altogether, so I bought her big girl underware and the plastic panties that go over them. At 2 1/2 she would pee in them and sit there watching t.v, or would run downstairs to her toyroom to go #2. THIS is really going to sound inhumane (I promise, it's not!), but closer to 3, she would poop in her pull-up (after making her sit on the potty for 45 minutes before bed), and then we would just tape it to her for an hour or so. She hated it! Once or twice we would take one of our infant daughters diapers and stretch it around her, or even set her in the crib and tell her that was where she was going to sleep if she wanted to act like a baby.

She hated it, and that's what got through to her! She's not an easy kid, and we really tried to focus on the positives, but she didn't want anything to do with it. I remember the last straw...she told us she had to poo, so we put her on the potty, and she sat and did nothing, hopped down, went to her room, went POOP, and then came back out and told us it was "no big deal". (Also too smart for her own age. SO, we took 2 baby diapers, (that's how many it takes to fit a 3 year old, lol), put them on her, got a baby bib, and a baby bottle, and set her in the baby's crib for about 10-15 minutes...that was the last time she pooped in her pullup or big girl underwear!

ALSO...they say not to even use pull-ups because they are basically glorified diapers. And it's true. She didn't notice any difference in the cool when wet pullups, and she used them just like diapers.

SO, aside from this novel, I HTH, and everyone's experience is different. Becca is STILL a difficult child, and just needs different parenting techniques every once in awhile.

Okay i am an old pro at this one I had 3 girls

lets see if i can remember

OKay first of all DONOT USE PULLUPS they are like a diaper and the child is confused about that.
second I always used panties if she pee peeed in them she was embarressed and she did not like it. If she pooped in them she was mortified not that i wanted my kids to be embarressed but it worked.

Second; Rewards for going M&M's are great or cherrios. The best reward is lots of praise high fives and way to go and making a big deal when she goes like clapping and dancing saying oh ya we went pee pee or poopoo get more excited when she poops she will love it

Third; if she says she needs to go let her go to the potty everytime she says it. I think we seen every bathroom in the state of Texas at every store we went to.

Forth; Let her go at her pace DO NOT force her.

Fifth; DO NOT make a big deal of it when she has an accident. just say oh no you had an accident well they happen lets try harder next time. use positive reinforcement

I promise it will work i used it on my 2 youngest and they did great my oldest was trial and error but it worked

GOOD LUCK my friend

Just because she is 2 years old doesn't mean she has to be or should be potty trained by now. I took a life-span development class and my professor was saying how too much emphasis is placed on "milestones" where kids should be doing certain things by a certain age. She said if they're not potty training by a certain age, then that just means they're not ready. When they're ready to do something, then they'll do it.

I do agree with you and your teacher; however if her child is taking her panties off and saying she needs to go pee pee it is time and she IS ready

Putting my now 4 1/2 year old in big girl panties DID NOT help. We started to potty train her when she was 2, and then again closer to three. First we started with the reward system, and it worked for a few months...only with pee. Then she quit altogether, so I bought her big girl underware and the plastic panties that go over them. At 2 1/2 she would pee in them and sit there watching t.v, or would run downstairs to her toyroom to go #2. THIS is really going to sound inhumane (I promise, it's not!), but closer to 3, she would poop in her pull-up (after making her sit on the potty for 45 minutes before bed), and then we would just tape it to her for an hour or so. She hated it! Once or twice we would take one of our infant daughters diapers and stretch it around her, or even set her in the crib and tell her that was where she was going to sleep if she wanted to act like a baby.

She hated it, and that's what got through to her! She's not an easy kid, and we really tried to focus on the positives, but she didn't want anything to do with it. I remember the last straw...she told us she had to poo, so we put her on the potty, and she sat and did nothing, hopped down, went to her room, went POOP, and then came back out and told us it was "no big deal". (Also too smart for her own age. SO, we took 2 baby diapers, (that's how many it takes to fit a 3 year old, lol), put them on her, got a baby bib, and a baby bottle, and set her in the baby's crib for about 10-15 minutes...that was the last time she pooped in her pullup or big girl underwear!

ALSO...they say not to even use pull-ups because they are basically glorified diapers. And it's true. She didn't notice any difference in the cool when wet pullups, and she used them just like diapers.

SO, aside from this novel, I HTH, and everyone's experience is different. Becca is STILL a difficult child, and just needs different parenting techniques every once in awhile.

madison as the same way with pull ups we tried the regular ones and the cool alert ones neither ones work.

If you want her to suceed throw out all the pullups and don't ever buy them again

they just came out with those horrid things about 15 years ago ........what do you think we did before them? panties and plastic pants

let her feel the pee pee running down her leg and the poopy in her panties she won't like it and she will learn and praise her for doing good and dance with her and clap with her

make it fun

OK mine are older - no pull ups I agree

Training Pants - I bought a potty and we took that thing with us everywhere- we got in the Car the potty was there - we asked constantly - you got to go potty -

once they did big hugs - lots of praise

also my sister bought - Elmo potty training she said that helped too( at best buy)

OK mine are older - no pull ups I agree

Training Pants - I bought a potty and we took that thing with us everywhere- we got in the Car the potty was there - we asked constantly - you got to go potty -

once they did big hugs - lots of praise

also my sister bought - Elmo potty training she said that helped too( at best buy)

I agree LOTS OF PRAISE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
They LOve the pee pee dance too Act like a nut they love it Make a special pee pee song something like
YOU went pee pee Oh ya Pee Pee is awsome when we pee pee we can play with mimi i don't knwo something to make it fun and DANCE DANCE DANCe that is so fun to them

My friend has a 3 year old and was having trouble and when I was there and she went potty I danced with her and before she went i asked her all the time if she needed to go and she shook her head no so I told her hey autum lets make a deal if you go pee pee we will dance silly and when she went she told me not mommy and i checked the potty and there was nothing so i told her no dance yet you have to pee or poop later she came all excited and said looky looky and there was a very small amount of poo in the toilet and we did the pee poo dance it was fun and my friend thought I lost my mind

she told me that autum asked fopr the potty dance and it worked she was alittle upset that she had to dance all the time but hey it worked

I had a boy but maybe try this. You said she tells you when she has to go. So take her to the potty and while she is setting there, take yours and her mind off what she is doing by running the sink water. Hearing the sound of water makes people think they need to go. Clean the sink or something or the bathtub. Just busy yourself by doing something with water running. That may take the stress off of both of you since your not standing there just waiting for her to go. You know the saying a watched pot never boils. :bigsmile:

Why stress out? I believe that as long as my child is done with bottles, binkies, and diapers by the time he/she starts school, we are doing good. Some kids are ready physically, but not emotionally and some are the complete opposite. We struggled and struggled with my middle son, but then I decided to wait until he was ready and when he decided it was an overnight thing. Kids are all different. They'll let you know.

Something I don't think anyone mentioned... I had a hard time just trying to get my daughter to sit down and try to go so I would ask her stuffed animals if they had to go and would pretend that they would go too. After doing that my daughter always came in the bathroom so she could go to.

We would sit the potty in the living room for my daughter (she was the only child) and let her sit on it for a little longer than we would if we were stuck in the bathroom - also we'd throw fruit loops in and tell the kids to Pee on the red one or green or whatever color we threw in there - it was a color game at the same time.

I had a boy but maybe try this. You said she tells you when she has to go. So take her to the potty and while she is setting there, take yours and her mind off what she is doing by running the sink water. Hearing the sound of water makes people think they need to go. Clean the sink or something or the bathtub. Just busy yourself by doing something with water running. That may take the stress off of both of you since your not standing there just waiting for her to go. You know the saying a watched pot never boils. :bigsmile:

I just gotta say...Boys are SOOO much easier to train (in my humble opinion). My daughter was a handful. But I only have one and she was the oldest so maybe it was just me and no experience. I started training her when she was two, mostly because of the pressure from my MIL. She really wasn't ready yet and that's probably why it did take so long. Finally, I discovered that just taking her to the bathroom 30min. after eating or drinkiing anything was what worked for her. And I agree with the whole running the water thing. Heck, that still works on me. Funny how I don't feel the need to go, but as soon as I start washing that 3rd or 4th dish in the sink...I gotta go right then. lol :laugh:

By the time my oldest son was ready, I was a single mom and I didn't want to have anything to do with potty-training him. So I decided that I would just let him figure it out on his own. It was kinda cute. He would watch me, he would watch his sister and the next thing I knew, he was sitting on the toilet backwards and doing it all by himself and was completely trained before his 3rd birthday.

My youngest son had his father around to help out so I didn't even bother.

thank you for all the ideas. We are trying the panties. she did pee on the floor but stopped when she realized nothing was catching the pee. We finished on the potty. We also did the potty song and once she was wiped up we did the dance.:flowerforyou:

YAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAY! And omgosh how cute are they?!?!:laugh: ahhhhhhh makes me want a baby!:flowerforyou: