NSV ...weird comments about your weightloss ...embarrasing

Wow...either he has no tact or he feels like you are good enough friends to be that blunt. Either way, not a nice thing to say! :bigsmile:

OMG...this happened to me TODAY! One of the moms at my daughter's dance class turned to me and said "WOW! You have lost so much weight! I mean, every time I saw you before you were so HUGE!"

Um...what?

Did she just call me HUGE? I just said thanks and turned away...but I was floored. I too just had a baby, the last of three, and I guess people think it's okay to acknowledge my previous weight.

I feel you mama Just remember you are a hot mama, you were before...and you are now You just have a smaller package to show it all off

Cheers!

Just laugh it off. We may have had weight to lose, but those people are idiots and there is no diet to fix that. LOL

I had a neighbour who used to make comments about my weight every so often. One day we met up in the street and he said something about how I've always been a big girl. I was mortified and said it's very rude to comment on someone's physical appearance like that, it would be like me always saying how old and bald he is. He stopped making comments after that and shortly afterwards I moved house so he probably won't get to see the slimmer me now.

I wanna' know who this JERK was...He deserves to have a smack upside the head. Maybe that would knock some sense into him. It would be nice if we women could come back with a smarta*sed comment when we get hurt like that! D*mn people should have more respect! Keep your chin up cause honey, you are BEAUTIFUL!

At my birthday dinner someone had pictures on their phone. Some were from the old (aka fat) days. My m-i-l burst out with "Oh WOW!!!! Look how BIG you were!!!" She said with such excitement and enthusiasm, pretty sure it was a failed attempt at a compliment. (She's sort of socially backward sometimes). I knew it wasn't meant to be hurtful, but in front of a table full of people it was awkward at the least.

I feel your pain! But on the bright side (there's always a bright side, right) you look fantastic.

I think some people get so much pleasure by calling others fat or seeing someone else fat. I visited my husband's family after my son was born. My brother-in-law was so delighted (thats the way I call it) to see that I' had put on weight that he would point to any other relative (esp my husband's brothers wives) who came to see us by saying hasnt she got fat since the last time we saw her. My husband's sisters-in-law were so sweet that none bothered to acknowledge him and just went on talking about everything else. One of them even felt a little embarrased for me. I could've retorted but well I only see him two weeks each year and it was not worth it.

lol I love efue's comeback.

Seriously...did he think it wasn't less offensive because you are thinner now? Argh!

People and their comments. One time a buddy of my husband who had not seen me in a while, ran into us again after 7 months of my husband (then boyfriend) dating me, taking me out. Yes I had gained weight from restauranting so much... However, my husband told me his friend remarked "Well Joanna's been living very well, hasn't she?" to mean: I was getting chubbier. I still remember that to this day and one day I'll see him again when I've been "living leaner."

My dad told me in November that he was glad to see me drinking alcohol because he was starting to think I was pregnant. Then tried to excuse it by saying that "a lot of women lose their girlish figure as they get older." To be fair, he had a stroke in June and I think it killed his "filter." BUT, we were on a cruise ship and I couldn't avoid him and I was SOOOO upset. So yesterday he tells me I "almost" have my girlish figure back and now he wouldn't mistake me for being pregnant. And it actually made me feel better because I had been feeling like I wasn't making much progress :-)

One time i was at a party at a friends house and this coworker of hers was very rude to me ..her first comment was how do you walk around your so big ..and then she was in total shock when i told her i was a nurse and go to the gym ..she then told me i should get gastric bypass,because i was too pretty to be so fat ....well lucky for her i wasn't drinking ....i told my friend a few days later ..she couldn't understand why she said all of these things to me ..some peoples children ..and to top it all off she wasn't that small herself ...:drinker:

Wow, I can't believe all the rude/insensitive people you all know! haha.

A few years ago I was at a party at a friend's house and there was a girl there I didn't recognize. Later in the evening I realized it was a girl I knew from high school (about 8 years ago from that time, crap I'm getting old) but she was a lot bigger in high school. As soon as I realized who she was I just played it cool and acted like I had realized it all along and just hadn't been that talkative to her yet... I wasn't even comfortable complimenting her on her weight loss in a polite way, I can't even imagine saying "wow you're not fat anymore." Someone else mentioned it later when we were all sitting around talking, she said she just got tired of being heavy and started eating right and took up running. Oh, and of course I was a twig in high school but on that evening I was probably near my all-time high so I'm sure she and everyone else were thinking "what the hell happened to him?"

I ran a marathon in 2005. I went to a friend's going away party and had to leave early to do a training run. While I was leaving a guy remarked, "Aren't you too fat to run a marathon?" Well it took me over 6 hours but I did it- all 26.2 miles. I used those remarks to motivate me. Don't let idiots bring you down.

Bet that chap had never run a marathon. Well done - I plan to do one 2012/2013 :-)

People can be so insensitive.

Coming back from summer break this past fall, one of my students, who I had last year asked me if I was pregnant. I chuckled at it at first, but then I was asked that at least once a week by other students and teachers.

It was so awkward, especially because my husband and I are having so much trouble conceiving. It really hurt every time someone would ask.

Thankfully, I haven't been asked it for quite a while now.

I am lucky I have never been called fat and I have been all my life. But with my weight loss I have been called a "hot momma" and "skinny" so many times, for a person who doesn't like attention this can get a little embarrassing lol

I'm really sorry that someone felt they had the right to be rude to you like that! You're very pretty, and you definitely look great and I am sure you have always been the pretty attractive woman you are right now!!! I'm pretty sure your hubby thinks so

A few years ago I had a co-worker come up out of no where and ask me, "have you ever thought about having gastric bypass surgery?" I proceeded to shock her by explaining that I used to be two sizes small than her and was a trainer.

I also had a boss who I became pretty good friends with and when I started losing weight he told me I was going to look, "svelt and pretty" when I lost the weight, well one of my "friends" heard this and decided she had to help me by getting me off to the side and warning me that I should not lose too much weight, her words were, "don't get too svelt because you're pretty and if you lose too much weight women will be jealous and men might start flirting with you too much." So as you can see there are all kinds...we have to believe in ourselves and enjoy where we are and who we are becoming whether the naysayers around us like it or not!!! Blessings to you "hot mama" have fun getting stronger and happier!!!