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Yes though it's easier if one person is gay or both are in a relationship with someone else. I can certainly be friends with a man without feeling a sexual attraction to him.0
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Of course they can be. But there is always the thought way in the back of your skull wondering if there is more. Most of us have enough respect not to press the issue though and not hurt our friends.0
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Not until after they've had sex, went through an awkward phase and then came back to each other later on.
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Not entirely true. I mean, if you aren't attracted to someone, friendship is what happens first...but usually someone always wants more.
An old friend once told me, Men don't hang out with women to start book clubs. :laugh: I believe it!
Can you be "just" friends? Sure...but at some point it will get weird. I have a few old male friends. A couple I have slept with just to get that awkwardness out of the way :laugh:0 -
Of course they can be. But there is always the thought way in the back of your skull wondering if there is more. Most of us have enough respect not to press the issue though and not hurt our friends.
yep....there may be a bit of sexual tension....especially if your flirty....but I think its possible....0 -
Yes! My best friend is male. Has been my best friend for over 20 years! :bigsmile:0
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Some can, some can't.0
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Yes!
Most of my friends in University were guys and our relationship were platonic. Nothing. Just friends. My boyfriend was 100% ok with that.
And my boyfriend has one best girlfriend. He even went camping with a girlfriend of mine. And I am not a bit worried, their relationship is totally platonic.
On the other hand, I would have troubles accepting a friend who is an EX-with-unfinished-business...ya know, like if they broke up because the timing wasn't right. Or even accepting a friend of his if I feel there is "something more".
I think we have a third sense for those things, usually....0 -
Yea. I can and have been just friends with men. But I think it would be difficult if either person was attracted to the other.0
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yes definitely
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Most definately! The majority of my friends are men and it's always been that way.0
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Yes, absolutely.0
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Yes.. I have several female friends whove always been just that.. Sometimes there is tension sometimes not0
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I think it's possible, but not common for 100% platonic (and mutually so) friendships with those of the opposite sex. I had a couple really close guy friends in college, but after I got married they turned all weird on me. Now I'm just downright socially awkward with guys except my husband. Don't get me wrong, I'm friends with my girlfriends' husbands too, and will chat with old friends sometimes, but so far as hanging out just the two of us? I'd feel weird.
I know this is not the case with everyone though.0 -
indeed i have some real gd male friends who i would look at them more like brothers defo not in a sexual way0
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This question comes up from time to time with some insisting it isn`t possible and others disagreeing.
If a woman wants a best girlfriend she probably should be looking for another woman to be that,if she wants a guy friend then she should understand that he probably will have a certain romantic desire at some point but it doesn`t mean he will ever act on it or suggest it.
If a guy is looking for a pal or a bud then it is best he find a guy for that and also understand that a lady who wants to be friends probably does just want to be friends so enjoy the enlightenment she can provide as far as a womans point of view on things.0 -
absolutely.. i grew up with a group of boys and most of us are still friends, not a bad looking bunch either but I see them as family and that's it.0
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My understanding is that the guy is always thinking about more with you. My understanding is also that guys are always thinking that about everyone though. Personally, I make no attempts to be the thought police. I only concern myself with how people behave. If my guy friends behave appropriately then they are my guy friends and it's fine.
HOWEVER, if it freaks my husband out I don't develope a close relationship with my guy friends. He's my number 1 guy and I respect his feelings. It's a bit difficult sometimes since I so into cars. The only people I can hold an interesting conversation with are guys. Since my definition of interesting = car related.0 -
I've always thought so.
I have about 6 super close guy friends.
I'm also engaged and I never ever think anything about them in any way.
So yes. :]0 -
This question comes up from time to time with some insisting it isn`t possible and others disagreeing.
If a woman wants a best girlfriend she probably should be looking for another woman to be that,if she wants a guy friend then she should understand that he probably will have a certain romantic desire at some point but it doesn`t mean he will ever act on it or suggest it.
If a guy is looking for a pal or a bud then it is best he find a guy for that and also understand that a lady who wants to be friends probably does just want to be friends so enjoy the enlightenment she can provide as far as a womans point of view on things.
Cuz your bestest friend is female, huh??? :bigsmile:0 -
Good to know! I understand what a lot of y'all mean though...the former room mate there was NEVER sexual tension. The other friend, we've been friends for like 7 years, we've joked about marrying each other if were unmarried at 35 and we've slept in the same bed once...but nothing.
For those of you with guy friends...how many of y'all have slept with them already though? Lol0 -
I absolutely think so, but if one person has feelings beyond friendship for the other than it is doomed.0
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This question comes up from time to time with some insisting it isn`t possible and others disagreeing.
If a woman wants a best girlfriend she probably should be looking for another woman to be that,if she wants a guy friend then she should understand that he probably will have a certain romantic desire at some point but it doesn`t mean he will ever act on it or suggest it.
If a guy is looking for a pal or a bud then it is best he find a guy for that and also understand that a lady who wants to be friends probably does just want to be friends so enjoy the enlightenment she can provide as far as a womans point of view on things.
Cuz your bestest friend is female, huh??? :bigsmile:
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Most of my friends are male, and I've only slept with (or would be willing to sleep with) a small percentage of them. Most of them are like brothers to me, and the thought of boning just feels wrong....so to answer your question, absolutely yes!0
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I find my male friends much more loyal than the female ones. We moved out of London 4 years ago and have kept in touch with all my male friends, but not a single one of my female ones, now we aren't nearby. On the other hand I have made a lot of female friends where we live now, but no male ones. My male friends are more for life.0
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Most of my friends are male, and I've only slept with (or would be willing to sleep with) a small percentage of them. Most of them are like brothers to me, and the thought of boning just feels wrong....so to answer your question, absolutely yes!
That makes a good point about being lovers as well as friends.
Most ladies say they want their guy to be their best friend but if that happens isn`t it true the passion sort of ends?
The brother feeling.
Sorry,kind of a hijack question.0 -
Absolutely. My coworker and I. But she is also from Hawaii so us hooking up is illegal in all states except west Virginia.0
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Ok, I'm about as in touch with my sensitive side as just about any completely and 100% straight guy as you'll ever come across, but I'll let you in on a secret that guys will deny. A guy is lying if he has been friends with you for longer than 5 minutes (usually less) and says he hasn't already wondered what it would be like to hit that, however brief that thought is.
Then and only then can he move on to a platonic relationship. Depending on the guy involved, this cycle may reoccur anywhere from ZERO times to DAILY from then on...again, however brief the thought.
Sorry but it's in our jeans. Oops, sorry my bad, I meant *genes*. :noway:0 -
I have many male friends, we can joke and tease around and not feel insulted. I have many female friends too, but not many who are single. The good female friends are usually married or have a serious relationship. I don't know why, single women willing to do outdoors activities or sports, etc are extremely difficult to find...
If a guy falls into the "friends" list, he cannot come out of it... Once I think of him as just a friend, no matter what, he'll stay there. And no, I don't sleep with male friends -can share the same bed but no touching.0 -
Most of my friends are male, and I've only slept with (or would be willing to sleep with) a small percentage of them. Most of them are like brothers to me, and the thought of boning just feels wrong....so to answer your question, absolutely yes!
That makes a good point about being lovers as well as friends.
Most ladies say they want their guy to be their best friend but if that happens isn`t it true the passion sort of ends?
The brother feeling.
Sorry,kind of a hijack question.
Not the case for me and my husband. I DEFINITELY don't see him as a brother, but he is my best friend :smooched: . If you're a lover AND a friend with someone, you might as well call yourselves a couple.0 -
Definitely. Most of my friends are guys.0
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