People are treating me differently... sad but true

You can do this!! The change and the extra attention is a little weird sometimes but make sure you stay grounded!!! You got this.. Just remember why you're doing it! To be healthy and for yourself. This time is different because you are different! Don't lose focus of that! :flowerforyou:

Yeah, I notice this, too. I'm 100% introverted, so the attention makes me a little uncomfortable. Probably one reason I didn't mind gaining the weight in the first place.

I have a friend who has told me she's jealous... but when I try to talk to her about how I'm doing it and how it can work for her, she just rolls her eyes or dismisses me.

people that treat you negatively now are jealous and may not be good friends to be around right now. You are doing this for you. Granted, people are shallow pieces of crap at times, but its not about them, it is about you. You have gotten so far already. Congratulations It will be so worth it. It will be easier to shop for clothes, you will feel better, happier, ... Keep your head up x

I know a roller coaster of emotions, we can make it and hold our head high knowing we worked hard to get there. I had a friend say to me "If you lose 110 pounds all the guys will want you" I pondered that for a moment and said to him, "if you don't like me fat don't bother with me when I'm thin". I think a persons value is determined by what's inside not the outside. I am a carefree , fun loving person. I have a good job, good morales, wonderful friends , and wonderful family. I don't need someone who will love me when I'm thin, Love me as I am no matter what I weigh. Just take the compliments with a thank you , and be proud you can get rid of clothes. You can get to your goal and with a new way of living healthy we can keep the weight off forever.

I lost a lot of weight about ten years ago and the way I got treated (especailly by sales people in dept. stores) was like night and day compared to the "fat" me. Even though I shopped then exactly as I do now (off the clearance racks) it was almost as though they rolled out the red carpet when I walked in the door. Sadly, now that I am back to "big" the opposite is true again.....*kitten*.

I completely agree with the above statements!! You have to do it for yourself and no one else! You will get to points where you are down others where you've never been happier its kinda like a rollercoaster at times, but you can get through it!! I myself have experienced both people being jealous and others being nicer than they ever have been. Sad part is its mostly family members. I love this site because so many people are so nice and encouraging! Just try to not to take ignore the people who are being negative and use it as motivation to work harder, this is what works best for me!! Never doubt yourself or give up either and you will get to your goal before you know it! Good luck, and you've done awesome thus far!!

Keep it going! Proud of you for your weight loss. It is a huge step, and the purging of clothes does make it seem real. I have been going through the same too. Strange to try on 'old' clothes and they don't fit right (yea). I have my husband who supports me with my weight loss journey and he encourages me to do my workouts, yet I have my mom that thinks I am obsessed/crazy with my food choices, exercises, etc.
I say just keep it up, be proud of all your accomplishments!!!!

This doesn't go out to anyone specific....

It's easy to say that people are reacting negatively because they are jealous, but sometimes (and I have seen this myself many times) an attitude changes happens with the weight loss that isn't exactly positive. I have told the story before on here about a friend I had who was 300+ lbs when we met, and she was the nicest person you would ever want to meet, and she wasn't starving for relationships either. After the weight loss, she became quite snobbish toward others, and after a while everyone had finally had enough of it and stopped going around her. Her explanation was that she had become more confident in herself, but, there is a big difference between confidence and just having a nasty attitude.

I know I know.. it's easier to blame any negative reactions on everything/everyone outside of your self, but regardless, sometimes the problem is internal and not external.

To put it in plain Engrish, what happens is that when we see how others act toward us, and toward others and they fit an image in our mind of how we want to be it gets embedded within our subconscious. The result is that we often adopt those same attitudes that we witnessed and often experienced when we feel we have reached our goal. This doesn't just happen with weight loss, it happens with all kinds of things in life... How many of you have ever stopped in the middle of a sentence and thought to yourself, "wow I sound m like my parents." No we don't mean to do it most of the time do we?

It's kind of funny, being fat is socially unacceptable, and fat people are regarded with a certain level of disdain by society at large, but a large percentage of the population is over weight, and I have long noticed that even fat people treat the thin/fit pretty people better than we treat each other most of the time. Not talking about mfp, but out in the real world.

I know I know.. it's easier to blame any negative reactions on everything/everyone outside of your self, but regardless, sometimes the problem is internal and not external.

To put it in plain Engrish, what happens is that when we see how others act toward us, and toward others and they fit an image in our mind of how we want to be it gets embedded within our subconscious. The result is that we often adopt those same attitudes that we witnessed and often experienced when we feel we have reached our goal.

I agree that a lot of it is just perception but at the same time a lot of it isn't. People really do treat you differently when you are fat....even other fat people.

You raise an interesting point though, I have known several "former fatties" who did a 180 (for the worse) in terms of their personalities once they lost weight. Mainly people who had once been too shy to own their sexuality suddenly became overly promiscuous and started displaying attention-seeking behavior, cheating, and making bad choices.

I even Watched Heavy a few weeks ago and there was a very large women who relied on her husband for nearly everything then she lost 150 lbs and dumped his *kitten* because she said she "wanted more".

That's not to say that all or even most who lose a significant amount of weight will go to these extremes. I think it just goes to show that there really is a huge emotional/mental burden that remains even after the weight is gone.

I think you need to try some positive visualisations instead of imagining the worse case scenario.

What if by losing the weight you gain more confidence and are more assertive in your life?
What if by losing the weight your outside now reflects your inner beauty?
What if by losing weight you are now recognised at work as a valuable and needed contributor?
What if by losing weight you find yourself looking for other goals you never thought possible?
What if by losing weight you looked in the mirror and loved and admired the outcome?

See, we all have problems, difficulties, tragedies in our lives, I like to challenge people to see the silver lining and what positive possibilities which can open up. We need to concentrate on what we have control of, not other people's reactions or 'what if' scenarios, because what we worry about is rarely where our big nasty surprises come from.

GG