Does any1 find that some people are quite insultive towards

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  • Bridgetc140
    Bridgetc140 Posts: 405 Member
    actually today my dad took my husband and I out to lunch and I asked for oatmeal and the waitress said "we don't serve oatmeal after 11 am" even though the restaurant is one of those "we serve breakfast all day long" places. So I was like "ok, I don't know what to get now because it was the only healthy thing I can think of on the menu." She went to say "Why don't you get a salad." But I am a texture eater, and I can't stand the texture of lettuce. Their salads are also the kind with chicken fingers in them so it wouldn't have been healthy in the first place. She gave me a look like I was insane and asked what I wanted then and since I didn't have a backup plan as they've always served it during the day before now, I said I didn't know. When I ordered toast and some bacon she just rolled her eyes. She really ticked me off. Not only did I not enjoy my meal, I actually went to the bathroom and cried because she was so rude to me.

    What a b*tch!!! Oatmeal is easy!!!! Why do they suddenly stop serving it??? That's awful. Restaurants should be much more accommodating and have some basic common courtesy. Not to mention minimum requirements directed at nutrition for those who actually care!
  • fatuglyrhino
    fatuglyrhino Posts: 2
    I am reading and nodding my head to all the comments here. Where I come from it's not polite to say anything to someone about their weight except, oh you look great! Have you lost weight? However, whenever I get on the road to healthiness I feel like others are jealous and resentful and like it or not, it's a slap in their own donut stuffing face even if you don't say a word because it makes them feel guilty about their own gluttony. What you have to remember is THAT'S THEM not YOU and you aren't doing this for them you are doing it for you. If other people's criticism and rude behavior is extremely demoralizing to you, there are two things you need to do. Number one, examine your own motivations and make sure you really are doing it just for you. If that's the case, their comments should only be mildly annoying to you. Number two, you need to decide if those people really have a place in your daily life. Isn't it easier to distance yourself from negativity than to try and continue relationships with people like that?
  • fatuglyrhino
    fatuglyrhino Posts: 2
    I guess you won't be going back to THAT place again anytime soon. As a calorie counter, I find eating out to be a really difficult thing to plan into my day. Like you, I don't like to just fall back on the salad idea because so many salads are loaded with hundreds of hidden calories. It's ok once in awhile, but when we were on vacation last week, eating out 1-2 times a day, I totally backtracked and gained 4 pounds. Next time we vacation I plan on going grocery shopping and cooking most meals back at the condo.
  • Shadowcasting
    Shadowcasting Posts: 124 Member
    However, whenever I get on the road to healthiness I feel like others are jealous and resentful and like it or not, it's a slap in their own donut stuffing face even if you don't say a word because it makes them feel guilty about their own gluttony.

    Can I just play devil's advocate for a moment? I've been accused of being "jealous" and "resentful" of a friend who is trying to lose weight, and I can honestly say it is not the case. I know the person very well, and I know that she is a "fisher" for compliments. Most of her talk about becoming healthy is done from a perspective of "see how great I am! Compliment me!!!" It's one thing to do some "fishing" here as that's sort of the purpose, but its another to talk about it every....single...day....in nearly every conversation. I HATE the constant MFP updates to their facebook page. So annoying! I'm on the same journey, and I'm doing it for ME, not for bragging rights.

    So, again, devil's advocate - not everyone who doesn't want to give compliments or talk about it all the time is "jealous".
  • cdngirl71
    cdngirl71 Posts: 2,641 Member
    YES! I hate this. I used to get comments and "looks" up and down from my family when I was heavier because I was getting overweight. Now I get comments like "oh better be careful you don't gain that weight back again!"

    My aunt said that to me and I was so pissed I told her to shove it where the sun don't shine. I worked so hard to get healthy and this is what you say to me when you haven't seen me for 8 months, gee thanks.
  • Dencrossgirl
    Dencrossgirl Posts: 501 Member
    People can be idiots, just set your brain to ignore.
  • mkennedym
    mkennedym Posts: 253 Member
    personally, i like a girl that is in shape with small breasts over a girl that is chunky with big breasts. athletic beats bulbous any day of the week.
  • melanie92
    melanie92 Posts: 184 Member
    wow! and dang! my mouth would have just fallen open if someone had said that to me!!

    I've not had any mean comments. One friend of mine emailed the other and asked how many inches I had lost. When I answered her, she replied, Well that's why I haven't seen you lately ! :laugh:

    As Ann Landers used to say, when someone says something rude to you, look them in the eye and say Whatever would make you say such a thing?
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