Are you losing weight for yourself or someone else?

I am definately doing it for myself. In the summer particularly I have a tough time with allergies. But I would also like to be happy in my own skin. I would also like to be a good example for my kids and be able to go do things I enjoy but have not been able to do comfortably.

I think mostly its a want for myself. I want to be able to share clothes with my friends, and feel like im attractive for more than my "personality". I apparently am pretty confident as it is, but i do want to be able to feel like that confidence is justified. So I want to lose the weight for myself, but I know that it partially has to do with being attractive to my partner.

I understand where you are coming from! I myself find myself uncomfortable with my body in front of my hubby. He's totally understanding, though. He says he will always love me no matter what I look like - overweight or thin - doesn't matter to him. Doesn't change who I am. No matter what we look like, we are still the same old person inside. I'm trying to lose weight because diabetes runs in my family, along with a laundry list of other health problems. So far, I am healthy even with the extra pounds - but I know the clock's ticking. I figure that the longer I can put off getting sick, the better! The longer I can put it off, the longer I have to enjoy my children (they are 3 and 5 now)!

I know that we as a society have learned that healthy weight is important. However, it amazes me that many years ago being a larger woman was something to brag about because it meant you had the money to eat well (look at the art in your local museum). That meant it was sexy for a woman to undress in front of her husband when she had a little too much meat on her bones. Sooooo.... I contend that the healthy weight desires are good, but that the feeling of shame is produced by our new societal perceptions of what is a sexy body type. My husband and I are trying to get to a healthier weight, but neither one of us wants to be rail thin, because this simply is not sexy. My husband doesn't want to hold a bag of bones and I don't either. We are aiming for healthy, not extreme.

I'm loosing my weight for myself, and for my children. I want to be able to keep up with my young-uns (3 and 4) and I want to teach them to be healthy as well. I can't do that if I'm not healthy! The goal, for me, isn't to be thin just healthier. I want to be more active as well - so that I don't sit and just watch TV with my kids, but get out and *do* things like walks, bike rides (when they're older), maybe a bit of rock climbing. If they get into sports, I want to be able to participate with them in that, too.

And I want to be comfortable in my own skin. Men may like me a little heavier, but I don't. I feel uncomfortable with even the idea of being seen without clothes - and I don't like that. I'm tired of feeling like my weight holds me back.

My answer is pretty much the same as loreeb18's. *smile*

I do want to lose weight for myself. When I weighed around 134 and more active I felt great, felt healthy and I was full of life and energy to burn.
I want that back, but I want it the right way this time so it sticks around. (It's been only about a year and a half since I went from 134 to 194 *ugh* But I was using the wrong diet methods so it was bound to happen.)

I am also trying to lose it to feel more sexy and attractive when I am around other people.

It's extremely important to me NOT to be stuck in the cliche' house wife scenario.
Hot, in shape, active and married DO go together. *LOL*

Plus, I am determined to get in better health and shape for when the time comes for pregnancy and babies.

I'm happy to say that since I started using MFP I have went from that 194 I mentioned above...to 186 a month ago, and now 182 this morning when I weighed myself! *woo!t*

ALL HUBBIES ARE LIARS!! lol I am losing weight so that when i look in the mirror i can be proud of what i see.... now my hubby says that i'm perfect the way that i am... i asked him to picture me 30-40 pounds lighter and how you would feel walking down the street with me,, and how he would feel thats when he realized that i may be perfect in his eyes now,,, but i would also be perfect in his eyes then.. but much skinnier in the image!! lol..... .i am a very self concious person so unfortunatly i also do it mainly for the way other people look at me which is very sad to say!!

I have to say a little of both! Not long ago, my husband spoke what I knew to be true. Although he knew his cooking was most of the reason I've gained 30 pounds since we met, he admitted he found me to be undesirable at the weight I'm at now. I can't tell you how much that hurt. I do feel very uncomfortable at this weight and have started to work very hard at getting back to the weight I am most comfortable at. I've only been working on this for a week, but I lost two pounds and was happier than anyone could imagine because I saw that as a victory. I am doing this more for myself than him because I want to feel good about myself again.