I'v given up...

@ ace175

i tryed doing that lol..
i told him that while im eating it im happy,
but then im sad because i realise ow **** i just ate like a whole chocolate bar..

but he just goes.. ~"yep, happy, happy, happy"
and walks off..
u dont get anywhere trying to explain anything to him lol.

Well then, not to be blunt, but I think you need to figure out some other things aside from weight loss, or whatever you're trying to achieve here.
You can't starve yourself. I mean you can, but it's not healthy. And this site is for people trying to change their lifestyle and become healthy.

I don't want to sound harsh. But it seems like you could use some professional help. Perhaps you have some unresolved psychological issues that need to be addressed first. Poor body image and low self esteem may be your primary problems.

Have you had your thyroid checked? Many times, especially with women, that is the problem when dieting and exercise fail to provide weight loss.

im 5'7 i think..
and i dont really like to measure myself..
it sorta makes me sad.
but im not really that bothered about looseing weight.
its mainly about how much fat i can see disapear..
and i no my goal seems low..
but thats my dream goal,
u no the goal i'l proberlly never reach for as long as i live...

This may just be the therapist in me (I'm an MSW-in-training), but I see far bigger issues than your weight loss and diet going on here. A "goal I'll probably never reach for as long as I live" is not a goal, that's setting yourself up for failure and disappointment. A goal needs to be measurable and realistic. By your definition, a "goal" might be to make loads of money (which I likely won't), and if I tell myself that I cannot be happy with my life until I reach this unattainable goal, I'm literally setting myself up for failure.

Why not forget dieting for a while, and really try to work on yourself and your self-image? Your profile mentions feeling "happier" once you've lost weight. Unfortunately, that doesn't happen. Sure, you may feel more confident at a healthier weight than you do now (if you are overweight now, which I suspect isn't entirely true, but that's a different post), but if you don't like yourself now, then that's where you need to begin. As the title of a book says, "Life doesn't begin 5 pounds from now." It begins now. As you are.

I personally suggest that you look into seeing a therapist if at all possible. If that isn't an option, then perhaps you can have a real heart-to-heart discussion with someone close to you (besides this significant other who isn't helping your cause). A close friend? Parent? Sister? Mentor, teacher? Friend me, I'll talk to you. I don't believe that your weight is the root of the problem here at all. But I wish you the best in your journey

have you talked to a dr? it could be a thyroid issues, pcos, or many other things. he can even prescribe something to boost your metabolism if you arent against medications

Doesnt any one get it. Look at her diary...shes taking the Pi** out of every one. I mean you really dont get why youre not loosing weight...isnt it obvious....OMG Im not even going to waste any more time on this...

you're right quitting is easy. thats why the things that are worth having take time and effort, you get out of something what you put into it. you keep putting cheap and nasty fuel into the body, and that amazing piece of machinery is going to start breaking down on you, if you look after it and respect it, you will see that body take you places even if its years down the line when you are still a fit and active pensioner

Wow...

Helice, it seems you've tried everything, but the right approach!

Your goals are pretty much unachievable... 500 calories a day? 23" inch waist and 13" thighs?? (Those things are only possible if you're naturally built to be that slim as bone structure will determine waist size.)

Then, looking through a weeks worth of your diary.... a chocolate easter egg for breakfast? 4000 calories of chocolate and 50 cals of exercise? It's all wrong!

You need to cut out the processed junk food crap and focus on real food, amazing, nutrient rich foods that are going to fuel your body. You need to aim for at least 1200 calories a day and use those 1200 calories to pack a nutrient punch. You need to do realistic exercise for you, whether that's going for an hours walk to an hour down the gym, do something that you enjoy! On one day you seemed to burn about 2000 cals? What exercise did you have to do to burn that much? It doesn't seem realistic to try and achieve that on a daily basis!

Have a good read around the forums, make friends with people who are willing and able to 'coach' you through this process and then put in the required effort. If you do it right, you will see results. And they won't happen over night, it could and should take you weeks and months to lose weight at a realistic rate.

And again, you've neglected to tell us your height and current weight, that could change the advise that you're given quite drastically!

People here are willing to help you, just be willing to accept and heed their advice!

I agree with this entire comment. Since you have your daily goal set so low at 500-1000 calories, its no wonder that you end up binging and eating 3-4000 calories in one day! Your body is probably trying to tell you to feed it!

1. I'm 20, and have been overweight all of my life, but Myfitnesspal has been an invaluable resource to help me lose weight. I suggest truly trying it for a month or two, completing the workouts AND meeting/being near your calorie goals the website recommends for you before giving up. If you have been yo-yo dieting (which from the posts I've read earlier, you are), your metabolism is probably a bit haywire right now. It might take a few weeks if not months of eating right (meaning at LEAST 1200 calories of nutritious food) and at least moderate exercise before it regulates again. You're young, so notwithstanding any major health concerns it should return to normal.

2. Your fiancée does not sound very supportive of your weight loss goals. I suggest you have a long talk with him about how bringing unhealthy food around you sabotages your efforts to eat well. If he doesn't listen/get better, you might want to think twice about getting married to him - harsh, maybe but definitely better for you in the long run.

3. I know some of the advice might seem tough, but trust me when I say all of us are here to support you to make your goals. But weight loss doesn't happen overnight, just like gaining it didn't occur overnight. I'll be the first to admit that sometimes I want my weight loss to occur faster, but the fact that I'm seeing the scale go down every week is enough to keep me focused.

If you need advice/help with anything, just add me - I hope you're able to lose the weight you want, healthily so you can keep it off.

I just went through a month of your food diary and I can tell you 100% for certain why your are not losing weight. Your diet consists of cookies, cakes, icecream, candy, and kfc. EVERYDAY. Sometimes you have ice cream for breakfast! Not too long ago you ate 10 slices of dominos pizza.
If you REALLY wanted to lose weight you would give up ALL OF THAT and eat healthy foods such as home-baked chicken breasts, vegetables, baked ham, rice..... you know, HEALTHY foods. I didn't see a single healthy food anywhere in that month of your logging.
Honestly, I'm starting to think you are a troll. This is too ridiculous to be real. And your spelling? Atrocious.

I just went through a month of your food diary and I can tell you 100% for certain why your are not losing weight. Your diet consists of cookies, cakes, icecream, candy, and kfc. EVERYDAY. Sometimes you have ice cream for breakfast! Not too long ago you ate 10 slices of dominos pizza.
If you REALLY wanted to lose weight you would give up ALL OF THAT and eat healthy foods such as home-baked chicken breasts, vegetables, baked ham, rice..... you know, HEALTHY foods. I didn't see a single healthy food anywhere in that month of your logging.
Honestly, I'm starting to think you are a troll. This is too ridiculous to be real. And your spelling? Atrocious.

I kind of agree, no one in their right mind would eat this kind of food if they were actually serious about their health let alone weight loss. I'm out!

I just went through a month of your food diary and I can tell you 100% for certain why your are not losing weight. Your diet consists of cookies, cakes, icecream, candy, and kfc. EVERYDAY. Sometimes you have ice cream for breakfast! Not too long ago you ate 10 slices of dominos pizza.
If you REALLY wanted to lose weight you would give up ALL OF THAT and eat healthy foods such as home-baked chicken breasts, vegetables, baked ham, rice..... you know, HEALTHY foods. I didn't see a single healthy food anywhere in that month of your logging.
Honestly, I'm starting to think you are a troll. This is too ridiculous to be real. And your spelling? Atrocious.

I'M WITH YOU!!! THIS IS TOO RIDICULOUS TO BE REAL - this "person" has yet to even say a weight or a goal weight and just "I think" for height - TROLL is likely correct and wasting everyone's time when they could be helping and encouraging REAL PEOPLE with REAL ISSUES and REAL QUESTIONS AND CONCERNS. NO ONE really eats all that crap, even the worst junk food junkies I know don't....