It's my life not yours

jealousy.

I agree... jealousy for sure! If it were me, I would be following you around so I could see what you do to stay in shape

I get stuff like that all the time!! I'm not fat, I know that, but I'm also not in shape. I have a very skinny, but wide frame. I just wanted to lose 15 lbs altogether and get into shape (I've lost 5 so far!) Everytime I tell someone, only my closest friends of course, they look at me and before they even ask I have to say "no, I don't think I'm fat, I just want to get into shape! I know that I used to have an eating disorder, but does that mean when I want to get into shape I'm all the sudden going to spiral out of control and go down to my lowest weight again? No, I don't think so!! My husband is really the only person who believes in me and supports me thoroughly throughout this process. And thank you for letting me rant too lol!!

my mom goes there and isn't overweight by any means. that's so silly how you're being treated

I had similar problems with Curves. I joined with a friend of mine from work, and since it was really close to work we were supposed to go every day after work together. We had a bad week where one of us couldn't make it one day, and the other couldn't make it the next, so we didn't go. After that I started going by myself since I was paying for the membership. I'm not a terribly social person, so I'd go and just run through the circuit and generally keep to myself. I'd respond if someone spoke to me, and smile and exchange polite conversation with people, but only when I was first going in or on my way out. Like you said, you're there to exercise, not socialize. Very quickly, it seemed that the 'regulars' for the time I went that had been there before me decided they didn't like me. They were curt and rude to me, would refuse to move out of my way and block my access to the machines. It was terrible. I guess since there was a bunch of them, and only one of me, the manager felt that I was the more acceptable loss and didn't do anything to intercede. It was horrible. I decided I'd never join a Curves ever again, and now have found a much better fitness facility to belong to.

WOW! I don't see what is wrong with exercising and how can any one critisize you for doing so??? It is recommended for overall health (not just weight loss) to get 30 minutes of cardio 3 times / week. These women obviously need something/someone to focus on because they are so unhealthy & unhappy!

Aaaargh, I had the same problem at Curves a few years ago and I stopped going altogether. The funny thing is that now I could really use it but I'm just not cool with that place! The women who went there were all quite cliquey and I never felt comfortable. At Christmas they had this table set up and everybody brought baking and goodies and the table was literally 2 feet away from the machines. So there would be this cluster of women eating chocolate and cookies while I was trying to work out, weird.

JEALOOOOOOOOOOOOOUS! I am going through the same thing, except with "family". one of them started a rumor i was on drugs to lose weight ::rolls eyes:: people talk when they see others doing better than them to make themselves feel better. Don't let it get to you. Kill them with kidness, smile and say hello everytime you are in there, let them see how hard you work out and in months when you look even more amazing and they havent changed, laugh!

besides, they are right, working out isn't just for weightloss, heck most of the girls at my gym are skinny (i hate them haha but i want to be them one day) keep up the good work girl!

Is there another curves near you, you can go to instead and just get away from those ladies? I tried their one week free pass and i was the youngest one there and no one would talk to me, they all had their cliques, which was ok, cause its a gym not a social hour, but i felt judged, so i joined amfam.

Curves always seemed like a bad idea to me. All too often you get a gaggle of women talking (oops, working out) and then the snide comments etc start.

That's why I finally bucked up and joined a co-ed gym. I was scared at first, thought everyone would be looking at me, but got over it pretty quick.

I LOVE my Y!

I too get weird looks and comments, especially at work whenever diet, exercise, and overall health is brought up in casual conversation. Just because I want to make sure I get the right amount of calories, exercise, and eat healthy everyone always looks astonished and says "why!?! You don't need to lose weight! Your sooo skinny. You should be eating a donut!" I hate it. It makes me feel like a freak when I have to 'defend myself'. There is absolutely nothing wrong with maintaining a proper diet and exercise in order to have better health, tone up, and maintain a good weight for my personal height/frame that I worked hard at getting over the last few years.

Point is: it took me a while to realize that I need to look after ME and only me. Who cares what others think! "Your body, your temple" as the girls from 'Skinny *****es' say. And if you feel like you’re not getting the motivational support you think you should be getting there, then maybe think about switching to a different curves, or group if possible (not sure how curves works). Either way, you go girl!

I'd say join a gym ... it's usually the overweight people that are uncomfortable there because so many others are healthy and fit. I know I was at first but now I just do my thing and could care less what others are thinking:) I have never tried Curves but it never seemed like a good "workout" but more of a social thing. I could be wrong though, lol. You should be fine and don't let their jealousy get to you. You're right, it's your life:) Good luck with everything and keep us posted!

Hey pretty lady, pshhh!! Whatever! Dont you let these women get to you. I have the same kind of people at my gym. Some of these woman may be jealous because, as ive learned, you have an excellent personality and the body to match. You just focus on you because at the end of the day thats who you have to live with.

Thank you for the nice comment. When I told my man about this, he thought maybe they were jealous too. That very well could be the case. Either way, I will say something to the manager if this keeps up. She has been very nice to me and understands why I am working out. She is thin too, but she still works out.

exactly, everyone has the right to be healthy.

I quit curves because of the cliques too. It was nothing but social hour most of the time and I had a hard time completing my circut with them in the way. I got tired of having to wait for people to stop talking and start moving. Some days I would leave more stressed out than when I came in. For the price it deffinately wasn't worth it. Maybe you could find another gym in the area, where they don't have a problem with people coming there to actually work out. Good luck

I live in South Central Pennsylvania. I joined Central Penn Fitness Center (don't know if any of you are from the same area and might find this useful). They are wonderful. They have a kids club that I can have my little ones in for up to 2 hours per day (though they're closed on Sundays, so that's usually grocery shopping day for me) with both morning and evening hours of operation. There's a smaller room by the locker rooms that has cardio and strength training equipment is that is reserved for women and seniors.

I have this irrational fear of men and find unknown males to be terribly intimidating. They don't even have to say something or give me a dirty look, just being around them kinda makes me uncomfortable. It's really strange because most of my friends are males, but it's some weird quirk. I make a diligent effort to overcome it most of the time, but trying to get fit is stressful enough (especially with a 4 year old, a 1 year old, and a husband who's deployed with the air force currently) without dealing with this underlying fear I have. Sometimes if a piece of equipment in the women's/seniors' room is broken, or seems to be occupied, I'll head over to the general work out areas and use that equipment. I usually go in the late mornings (i'm a stay at home mom, thank god I don't have to deal with a job on top of the rest of this), so it's not that busy and I generally feel okay just for one machine.

To the person who posted about their family, I feel you! With my family, every time it comes up that I'm working on a better lifestyle, they want to shove junk food down my throat. It's almost as bad as the times I've tried to quit smoking (if you don't want to quit, but can't afford a pack, just tell your smoker friends that you're quitting). It seems some people just need you to be unhappy too. It's like they need you to be worse off than them so they can look at you to feel better about themselves instead of actually trying to better themselves. Ugh! Glad I'm not alone with the family issue though.

I didn't want a gym because of all the people that have more weight to lose than me looking at me like I'm a freak for wanting to exercise, so I figured Curves would have women that maybe have the same goals as me.

....what.

Go to a gym. No one will care. Most the people there will be more fit, anyway.