Disgusted

Agreed, everyone on here seems to be judgemental!

Just like society - there are some negative and some positive people. Yes, this site's intent is for support, but it is also free and tries to cater to everyone. That means that there will be a mix of people on here. I tend to ignore the negative, and listen to the positive, but that's a personal life out-look.

I know the OP didn't say "everyone", but that kind of generalization discourages others. I, for one, do my best to support any and every one on here... even if I don't agree with everything they say/do, I try to be a positive influence. I would suggest we all try to do that.

I don't see many negative posts at all... you must be looking in some not so great places!! A LOT OF THE PEOPLE ON HERE ARE VERY NICE AND ENCOURAGING....

I wish you luck in finding good supporting friends on this site... add me if you like!

And good luck with your weight loss..

Unfortunately, posts like yours generally have very little effect on the behavior of others on the board. Either you end up preaching to the choir, or some unhappy person will come at you with the very kind of negative comment you are referring to in the first place.

You just need to distance yourself from these people, and not take what they say to heart. One of the great things about the friendships on this site is that you can discontinue toxic ones without the worry of seeing that person IRL. Hold close only those people you find to be supportive - and believe me, there are a good many supportive peeps on the MFP!:drinker:

I understand how you could feel that way, maybe address the particular person or topic when you feel like someone's being judgmental. I can't help but wonder if you saw a comment or two I posted the other day that you might think is judgmental. There are always 2 sides of a story though.

For example, I may have written something with a frustrated tone on a post recently after I sent a personal message to someone who asked for help on a post- I thought long and hard about how to best stress the most important, helpful points of my answer, tried to be careful to write things in a way that they would know I am supporting them and not coming down on them but wanting to share things I learned that helped me a long time ago. . . . I take all this time thinking about my phrasing and what things to leave out etc. . and after all that their basic answer to my message was kind of like "uh thanks, whatever." (Which led me to think this person doesn't actually want any help and doesn't want to change at all but wasted a lot of other people's time and energy.)

I'm just saying of some people sound not-supportive there might be something else behind that. Sometimes it's frustrating to see how much misinformation people are spreading about diet and exercise too and maybe people come off judgmental when they are really just frustrated.

It's a bit misguided to believe that any online forum is going to have a Utopian exchange of ideas. Some express their opinion in hopes of validating their own misguided sense of direction, and [some] feel that it is considered backlash when opposing opinions do not fit their own. If no one is willing to apply or accept new knowledge, then the topic becomes the proverbial abuse of an equine corpse, and then new threads about complaints, of said backlash, become a new exchange of opposing or validating opinions...and the cycle continues.

No one is perfect. Accepting that fact from all sides and not reacting to it negatively seems to create more of a harmony among communities. Riling up controversy just creates dissension.