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  • jenbk2
    jenbk2 Posts: 614 Member
    I agree. We are all on the same journey.
  • EDesq
    EDesq Posts: 1,527 Member
    We (Human Beings) have to make hundreds of"judgments" on a weekly basis. So we need to stop saying "don't judge someone"; making judgments about people, situations...are what keep us safe, physically, mentally, emotionally... Now, what we have no right to do is Judge someone to Hell for their beliefs, but we can critique them, and some people do this harsher than others. EXAMPLE: I would Never "Support" someone who says that they lost 25 lbs. on a 500 calorie per day eating plan. Not only would I not support them, I would probably tell why, in no uncertain terms.

    So, whenever anyone puts something out in CYBER SPACE, DO NOT expect everyone to agree with you, AND expect people to have an OPINION about what they disagree about. Keep in mind, there is Always a way to DE-Escalate a disagreement...Do NOT Respond, move on, take what You think is Good Advice and Leave the rest. In some cases a hard critique can help, it gives a different perspective. Anyway, respect the fact that people have opinions that may differ from yours and they are NOT always/or don't know how to be diplomatic when giving it OR the receiver MAY be too sensitive. When someone Posts, they are asking for Opinions.
  • anubis609
    anubis609 Posts: 3,966 Member
    It's a bit misguided to believe that any online forum is going to have a Utopian exchange of ideas. Some express their opinion in hopes of validating their own misguided sense of direction, and [some] feel that it is considered backlash when opposing opinions do not fit their own. If no one is willing to apply or accept new knowledge, then the topic becomes the proverbial abuse of an equine corpse, and then new threads about complaints, of said backlash, become a new exchange of opposing or validating opinions...and the cycle continues.

    No one is perfect. Accepting that fact from all sides and not reacting to it negatively seems to create more of a harmony among communities. Riling up controversy just creates dissension.

    Wow - your response made me feel really stupid! lol :laugh: :blushing:

    I agree no one is perfect and negativity breeds negativity....I am not trying to rile up controversy...just expressing how I felt...

    Thanks!!!

    Totally unintentional to make you feel that way. But it was a prime example of how one could express a neutrally different opinion without getting personal. Totally understandable. :happy:
  • lil_missfit
    lil_missfit Posts: 565 Member
    Honey....just scroll your screen down past the negativity:)) I don' t even give it a second look....seriously!! I just keep scrolling if there is something I don't like...I do the same thing on facebook....I keep it movin! You will wear yourself out waiting on others' to change or see things as you do:)) You can inspire perhaps...but you can not change folks....or control their behavior .....the only people' s behavior we can control is our own:)) Just keep shining by setting a good example....that's all you can do.....this is a GREAT , life changing, encouraging site....separate the shaft from the wheat and focus on the positive:)) Good luck!!!
  • lil_missfit
    lil_missfit Posts: 565 Member
    We (Human Beings) have to make hundreds of"judgments" on a weekly basis. So we need to stop saying "don't judge someone"; making judgments about people, situations...are what keep us safe, physically, mentally, emotionally... Now, what we have no right to do is Judge someone to Hell for their beliefs, but we can critique them, and some people do this harsher than others. EXAMPLE: I would Never "Support" someone who says that they lost 25 lbs. on a 500 calorie per day eating plan. Not only would I not support them, I would probably tell why, in no uncertain terms.

    So, whenever anyone puts something out in CYBER SPACE, DO NOT expect everyone to agree with you, AND expect people to have an OPINION about what they disagree about. Keep in mind, there is Always a way to DE-Escalate a disagreement...Do NOT Respond, move on, take what You think is Good Advice and Leave the rest. In some cases a hard critique can help, it gives a different perspective. Anyway, respect the fact that people have opinions that may differ from yours and they are NOT always/or don't know how to be diplomatic when giving it OR the receiver MAY be too sensitive. When someone Posts, they are asking for Opinions.

    *like* nicely put:))
  • thecanface
    thecanface Posts: 1,180 Member
    Maybe some of us are just hungry and crabby. Thank you for the reminder :)

    that's true! sometimes i find myself being negative when i am hungry :(
  • bizco
    bizco Posts: 1,949 Member
    Agreed, everyone on here seems to be judgemental!
    I've been on this site for several months and I can count on one hand the number of people who are rude and judgemental. Most everyone I see in the forum are very supportive and offer great advice and tips. That said, I have seen one person today who is very rude and offers nothing but insults and worthless comments. She/he is a very sad, insecure and unkind person.
  • got2go2concerts
    got2go2concerts Posts: 132 Member
    I don't see many negative posts at all... you must be looking in some not so great places!! A LOT OF THE PEOPLE ON HERE ARE VERY NICE AND ENCOURAGING....

    I wish you luck in finding good supporting friends on this site... add me if you like!

    And good luck with your weight loss..


    I agree, since I have been on here (only couple of wees) I haven't run into any of this negativity???? I am sure it exsists, I just haven't experienced it.
  • Grimmerick
    Grimmerick Posts: 3,342 Member
    Stay positive
  • redhead91
    redhead91 Posts: 251
    Agreed, everyone on here seems to be judgemental!
    I've been on this site for several months and I can count on one hand the number of people who are rude and judgemental. Most everyone I see in the forum are very supportive and offer great advice and tips. That said, I have seen one person today who is very rude and offers nothing but insults and worthless comments. She/he is a very sad, insecure and unkind person.

    I shouldn't have used the blanket statement 'everyone' but it does seem that most people will judge if you don't do things 'their way'. Anyone who has questions about excercise calories, diet pills, medifast, low carb diets gets so much backlash. Everyone has their own way of doing things, so I don't see why it's necessary to be so harsh to someone who does things differently. I've been here about a week and 80% of the posts I've read have someone who is overly rude. And thank you for poking at my insecurity. I'm working on it, but I really don't need anymore harsh comments from you. Thank you
  • CharNordie
    CharNordie Posts: 96 Member
    Agreed, everyone on here seems to be judgemental!

    And for what?! Just makes me want to go and eat more not lose more. Quite the opposite of what this website is supposed to represent.

    I have read this entire post and agree completely, This is the one statement that bothered me though....Please try your hardest not to blame others for what you eat. Rude comments on the part of inconsiderate people should not be a reason/excuse for you to punish yourself

    I know lots of us struggle with emotional eating, but all that means is that you have an excuse to eat...whether you're happy, sad, angry, excited, etc.... I like to use those kind of opportunities to prove to myself that I can do this no matter what happens around me.

    Repeat after me..."No one puts a gun to my head and tells me what to put in my mouth..."

    You ARE worth getting healthy and changing your life for the better, don't let anyone influence you to do otherwise!!!!!
  • sntfrmabv
    sntfrmabv Posts: 7
    Maybe some of us are just hungry and crabby. Thank you for the reminder :)

    hahahahahaha!!!!
  • erinmkc
    erinmkc Posts: 3
    Amber don't even listen to those people! They are just bored, lonely, pathetic or all the above. It's all just to get a rise out of people. Don't let it get you down!!! Love ya! xo
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