single mom open to advice

I don't have much advice but love that baby as much as you can!! He is beautiful!

I would say just make sure he is exposed to ALL aspects of his heritage equally. Include all holidays and important people, history, culture, food, music, etc. That way it's all natural to him! Nowadays it's hard to say who is from what heritage anymore. The problems will show if your family tries to deny dad's side of him and only influence your side. Kids will be kids but if he has an understanding of what his family history is, he will be stronger when that time comes.

Good luck to you in going this alone. It's certainly not easy even with a partner. Enjoy the time you have with him now because they grow up so fast!!

He is a gorgeous little person! Congrats to you.

The only thing I would advise you to do is get health history from his dad's side. It's important anyway, but some diseases & problems are more prevalent in African-Americans then Caucasians.

Good luck & I hope he's a good sleeper (;

I agree the color of a person doesn't make the person, its their actions and your baby is awesome just the way he is. later in life you can explain to him how his not just one particular race. Tell him his special cause he has multiple races and that's something that not everyone has and teach him not to be ashame of his multiple races and People are gonna be cruel no matter what. Teach ur baby to have tough skin and he will b ok. Dont let this situation concern you to much. Just love him.

Your son is your own worry... When the time is right you will set your son down and explain to him what his race is and behonest with him that some ppl have a problem with it... Dont hide anything from your son.. But as for now dont worry about it... And when your son ask for his father tell him the truth.. Your son is gorgeous hes only 8 weeks old, you have pleanty of time... My nephew is mixed* white and black* .. You will do fine...

For starters, I give you mad props for doing this on your own! As he gets older the truth will come out. Be as honest as possible from the get go. Your son will be loved with or without a father. You will do the best you can and move on. Its his choice not to be involved. I understand your families concern but there is nothing you can do about that. As long as you are there for your son and love him thats all that he needs. I think its sad that men can make babies and but not be there afterwards. I have a three year old and I get sad just going to work for a few hours a day. I couldn't imagine not being there at all. You are a strong woman. Do your best and keep moving forward. Lies always catch up so just be honest. Thats my opinion.

I have two boys, one half guatamalain, the other half african american (my mom was wondering back when i had them if i was trying to recreate its a small world in my home lol I was wild, what can I say? lol) anyways....they are now 15 and 12. I am white and have raised them in a predominantly white area (not on purpose it just worked out that way) and they are fine. Your family is just ignorant to this kind of thing. Your correct that you dont have to do anything special and your not going to mess him up. We are all the same inside and that is what counts...whats on the inside, heart, mind and soul. You will be fine and so will your child! congrats on being a new mom!

Kudos to you! I of all people know how hard it is to do it alone (he's 2 now, dad hasnt been there since breaking our enagaement while I was pregnant) Now It may offend your family but the first thing they need to do is STOP POINTING IT OUT!! Your son will never realize he isnt accepted if he IS accepted at home. And in today's culture there isnt the stigma around mixed race children. Sure in the deep south here in the US there is still SOME segregation/stigma but not to the degree they are worried about! I recently learned there are prejudice among light skinned vs dark skinned hispanics! I never knew this until a new friend recently told me her mom has teased her for years because her skin is darker then her sisters! I have cousins who are mixed race, their dad isnt involved and we are a swedish fmaily (so naturally ver pale have a hard time tanning) and they never feel unaccepted by any race. Yes there was teasing at school for one if them at one point, but because she was loved at home and by her family she became stronger and loves her skin color!

Do not worry about him being bi-racial growing up in today's world, I too am bi-racial, grew up in WV and was teased when I was younger for having darker skin and different hair. Today's times are so much easier on children of muliple races. Just show him that you love him and are always there for him, give him any information he needs about his heritage from both sides but don't push it down his throat as he gets older. He will be fine!!

Trust yourself, your goals and values. You will raise a wonderful, beautiful boy. It's not a race thing. I doesn't matter what ethnicity a person is, what makes a person is their values and believes. Will he encounter criticism? Sure he will, some idiot will say something one day. But if you raise him right he will let it roll right off his shoulder. I'm Mexican American and feel like I don't really belong to either, but that has made me a better person. I always push myself a little harder. I wish everyone was open minded and accepting. People will always have something to say about how to raise your children. You should always trust yourself and your motherly instinct.