super fat , working out is hard.. what are good ways to star

vcmorse
vcmorse Posts: 18
edited September 26 in Health and Weight Loss
SO, my boy friend wants me to go to the gym with him and im cool with that but, im like almost 300 and its really hard for me to keep up with him [170] , and he doesnt seem to get that i cannot do the same things as him.


its really embarrassing telling your bf of two years that your too out of shape to do pretty much anything at the gym without feeling like im about to throw up or pass out..


please someone suggest things that i can do at the gym without feeling like i am going to die ?

thanks
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  • hush7hush
    hush7hush Posts: 2,273 Member
    Circuit training!
    It helps get your blood pumping;
    and burns calories even after you're done!
  • kdouglas11
    kdouglas11 Posts: 185 Member
    try walking slowly on the treadmill while he works out...remind him that you need to start slow...

    My husband used to forget that I couldn't do as much as him when I was 256 lbs... now I'm 178, and I would say I'm almost in better shape than him!
  • inkdgirl
    inkdgirl Posts: 79
    cardio, start out on the treadmill

    then move to elliptical.. you can work at your own pace and resistance
  • MinaLaChangita
    MinaLaChangita Posts: 10
    I think that you should start off slow for sure. I feel that it's easier setting 5 pounds weight loss goals at a time. Walking would be a good way to start. At least 30 minutes at a steady pace. Then gradually increase the speed. Also, working on the elliptical could be good for you too.

    :]

    -buena suerte.
  • FearAnLoathing
    FearAnLoathing Posts: 4,852 Member
    Walking on the tread mill
  • vcmorse
    vcmorse Posts: 18
    im just super frustrated cause it makes me feel like **** that i cant do anything!!
  • nicmacc
    nicmacc Posts: 35 Member
    Why dont you suggest you go for a walk on the weekend? Walking is the best place to start and you can make it interesting by having a destination to walk to! You can build up from there. If you start out too hard at the gym you will hate it!
  • joannbuist23
    joannbuist23 Posts: 127 Member
    I was going to say elliptical, those are actually really easy to use and don't take a lot of effort if you are going at a slow pace. Start out slow and the more you do it the easier it will get. Good luck!
  • sexygenius
    sexygenius Posts: 1,078 Member
    im 270ish and i do the elliptical... i can not stand the treadmill.. i just hate it! i feel like im going to fall off.. swimming is good too...walking out side is good too..
  • Dawntodusk
    Dawntodusk Posts: 262 Member
    Just don't give up whatever you do. Take it slow - treat yourself kindly. You'll get there!
  • shelbylward
    shelbylward Posts: 5
    Try the treadmill at a comfortabel pace(no incline) to start with. See if you can go 15 to 20 minutes. I would start out easy and work your way into it. Otherwise, you will hurt yourself or burn yourself out. Good luck!!
  • SusieB01
    SusieB01 Posts: 89
    I agree with slow walking on the tredmill. But, you should just tell your boyfriend that you need to start slow. Hopefully, he's just trying to help you to get active by inviting you to the gym. But, DON'T OVER DO IT! THAT CAN BE DANGEROUS! If he's been exercising a while, he should know that.
  • Clonekuh
    Clonekuh Posts: 92 Member
    I started out on the elliptical. I could only do like 15 minutes max on level 1 at first, but it was a good start. Also, throw in some weights! Your man can spot you.
  • eeeekie
    eeeekie Posts: 1,011 Member
    cardio...walking is the best. start slow and build your pace (if you can)

    I'm bigger than you and this is how I started. I do Yoga now for about an hour...it gradually gets easier.
  • TLW77
    TLW77 Posts: 97 Member
    You can see my stats below, I started out at 277 and I started walking on the treadmill. I know its intimitating to go to the gym and work out in from of other people, but if you want to lose weight you just need to do this for yourself. Go in there and only think about yourself and what you want to accomplish and you will forget other people are even in there.
  • RoniDoll
    RoniDoll Posts: 262
    this happend with me and my husband who is a muay thai fighter... I had to sit down with him and explain to him that i need to do this with baby steps. men just dont get it sometimes! LOL
  • ashleymcquown
    ashleymcquown Posts: 80
    maybe start off slow by walking on the treadmill? i know gyms can be intimidating. shoot for something simple that you can do consistently. some gyms offer classes for beginners too. if you are comfortable, try a low impact water aerobics class. its a great workout and easy on the joints.
  • TiDinzeo
    TiDinzeo Posts: 309
    For best advice, ask the staff or get a personal trainer. They won't try and give you more than you can do and they'll help you find a level that's good for you.
  • vcmorse
    vcmorse Posts: 18
    i usually go on the recumbant bike but it seems my butt has gotton to big for it... so i have to find other options.

    i use to be able to do some cardio machine for like 30 min nonstop but now after about 5 i feel as if im going to die,

    when i go to the gym with my bf he likes to stay for around 2-3 hrs, so when i go, i start out on the bike, feel like ****, and have about 2 hrs to kill trying to think of things to do that won't make me pass out..

    iv been trying to tell him i would honestly like to try working out at home first { i have a excersize bike} and then when i can stay on that for more that 30 min, start going to the gym.
  • lachicadelfuego
    lachicadelfuego Posts: 35 Member
    ANY movement is a start. I started out at 272 and had a super hard time as well. I have only lost 13 lbs but find it easier to exercise now. Just remember to not get too frustrated and give up. Even you begin with a slow walk around your neighborhood like i did, it will eventually pay off.
  • Purple_Orchid_87
    Purple_Orchid_87 Posts: 517 Member
    i started at 292.5lbs and refused to go the a gym because im super self conscious that ppl would stare at me for not being able to do stuff - I started walking around my area, getting off the bus one stop early and taking a slow walk home etc

    When I do go walking, i'm really conscious of ppl looking at me but part of losing weight is to deal with that side of things - i lacked motivation, thought of a gym buddy, but then realised that im the kind of person that would end up staying at home if the gym buddy was away on holiday, or sick...

    If your boyfriend is able to support you and encourage you then that's great - the thing to remember is that its YOUR journey - I know I wouldnt be able to go to the gym with a boyfriend because of being so self conscious but thats just me

    I have been on here for 4 weeks and, although i've done quite well on paper, I know I am no where close to feeling comfortable at a gym - am really lucky, I have a 7 mile coastline with proper paths literally on my doorstep - who needs to pay gym memberships when I can walk for free in the summer evenings - am saving the gym for the cold wet nights of the Irish winters
  • WifedUpMartin
    WifedUpMartin Posts: 166 Member
    i usually go on the recumbant bike but it seems my butt has gotton to big for it... so i have to find other options.

    i use to be able to do some cardio machine for like 30 min nonstop but now after about 5 i feel as if im going to die,


    I know how you feel. I just went to the gym for the first time in a long time last night and after 5 mins on the elliptical I wanted to die! I ended up pushing through it and was so happy by the end. You could do some time on the elliptical, then walking slow on the treadmill as a cool down period. After that try stretching or some yoga to stretch out the time you have left.
  • Purple_Orchid_87
    Purple_Orchid_87 Posts: 517 Member

    i use to be able to do some cardio machine for like 30 min nonstop but now after about 5 i feel as if im going to die,

    A male friend of mine came walking with me one evening and he actually stopped after like 20 minutes and said I wasnt breathing! I asked him what he meant and he said i was holding my breath, and when i did breath, i was breathing in and out through my mouth. Sounds dumb I know but that's just how i breath - he stood with me for 5 minutes actually teaching me to breath in through my nose and out through my mouth, we walked for another ten minutes with him telling me 'breathe in through your nose' *pause* 'and out through your mouth'

    In all seriousness, now I actually know how to regulate my breathing when walking, I dont get a stitch, I don't feel dizzy and I can walk further. I swear I couldnt walk for 10 minutes before without feeling sick, dizzy and then giving up - now I can walk for just over 90 minutes at an average of 3.0mph (CardioTrainer) and yeah, when I get home and sit down i'm shattered and feel like my heart is gonna jump out of my chest, but it's really amazing how just learning tom breathe has helped me...
  • MinaLaChangita
    MinaLaChangita Posts: 10
    Slow and steady beats the race.

    -stay positive.
  • olyrose
    olyrose Posts: 569 Member
    this happend with me and my husband who is a muay thai fighter... I had to sit down with him and explain to him that i need to do this with baby steps. men just dont get it sometimes! LOL

    haha my boyfriend was the same way. He's a boxer and does mma, so he's used to hardcore workouts. I started going to the gym feeling pretty good about the 45 minutes I put in, and he would insist that anything under 2 hours is useless, and if I can walk and use my arms when I'm leaving then I didn't put enough energy into it.

    baby steps, start slow, I love the elliptical because it's low impact and easy to start with. try using the stability ball for free weights. You can sit on it and do bicep curls, tricep kickbacks, crunches, squats. Any beginners moves work on it.

    Good luck, and the more you do it, the better you'll be!
  • pbjelly524
    pbjelly524 Posts: 14
    im just super frustrated cause it makes me feel like **** that i cant do anything!!

    I know the feeling! I started at 220 and almost 30 years old. I was inspired though when I saw this woman, twice my age and weight who was there EVERY day!! My husband was in way better shape than me and killing it on the elliptical and I was going at a much slower pace and felt like such a loser! Then, there was this woman (her name is Sue) and she was going even slower than me, but she was so dedicated I was a bit in awe. I figured if she can do it then so can I!! Everyone has to start somewhere. If your on the treadmill or the elliptical or the stair climber make sure you're doing it at the pace that's right for you! Don't try to keep the same pace as your boyfriend. Cardio is about your heart rate and most of those machines will tell you what yours is, just work at the pace that keeps it in the right range and don't kill yourself!! And remember that it will get easier and you will get faster, but Rome wasn't built in a day! So just keep on truckin!! You'll get there. :)
    Also, it might help if you don't go with him, if that's an option. There are some friends I've gone with once or twice and decided it just wasn't a good match up. We're at such different places it's just hard to work out with them.
  • kasmir8199
    kasmir8199 Posts: 507 Member
    im just super frustrated cause it makes me feel like **** that i cant do anything!!

    You can and will anything and everything that you want, girl. You just have to work your way up. I've been there. What used to frustrate me is that I used to be so active with martial arts and weight training and I enjoyed these things, but after about 7 years of LIFE, I got completely out of shape. I wanted to jump back into training, but my cardio wasn't up for it. I'd definitely say do some light cardio to warm up, and try to do some simple weight lifting for 30 mins. Your boyfriend can help you on this and/or you can do them together. After that, try to do at least 30 minutes of cardio (walking on the treadmill, stationary bike, stair climbing, elliptical...even a mix of these would be great). You'll be able to capitalize on the burn from the weight training by doing that stint of cardio immediately following. I've had great results doing this routine.

    You CAN do this.

    If you want, you can supplement these workouts with an at-home routine. Turbo Jam is great cardio. You can get it from Beachbody or you can find it on Amazon. Highly recommended.
  • vcmorse
    vcmorse Posts: 18
    thats funny because sometimes when im walking with people or doing excersizing around others i will hold my breath becasue i dont want them to hear me panting
  • ashleymcquown
    ashleymcquown Posts: 80
    see if you can convince your BF to do something fun for exercise. i love going on hikes (there are shorter, less hilly trails for beginners), roller skating, dancing, or walking around an amusement park or zoo (three hours of wandering around equals a LOT of exercise). if you have a dog at home, commit to going for a walk around your neighborhood for 20 min....even if can only walk for 10, you're off to a great start : ) the key is to make it realistic so you can stick with it.
  • care28
    care28 Posts: 28
    If the bf likes to go for 2-3 hours...tell him you'll meet him at the treadmill for his last hour. Then go your own pace.
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