Hater? Troll? Bully?? or just plain ignorant

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  • sentaruu
    sentaruu Posts: 2,206 Member
    report that idiot. you are gorgeous!
  • giggitygoo
    giggitygoo Posts: 1,978 Member
    I would go directly to HR, do not pass go, do not collect $200.
  • blossomingbutterfly
    blossomingbutterfly Posts: 743 Member
    That is definitely workplace harassment. Log it in as much detail as you can and that way you have it if/when you need to report it in the future. He may do more. That's awful. Just awful!
  • BansheeCat
    BansheeCat Posts: 140
    You look great! There are other reasons why a man would take a pic of a beautiful woman but I wont delve into it. I think you know what I'm talking about. Major ick factor!

    Other than that...this is harrasement because it's making you feel uncomfortable. However, in order for it be federally protected harrassment your HR can follow up on(or other administration, legal or otherwise), you MUST state it clearly to him. If you've labeled the inappropriate behavior then action can be taken if it happens again. Until then, its very hard for HR to do anything. Definitely document.

    I've only had this happen two times in my worklife where I had to say something...warning the next time I'll talk to the supervisors, next time HR. Both griped but it stopped immediately. Ironically, we became civil again after some time had passed.

  • kgeyser
    kgeyser Posts: 22,505 Member
    I think you look fine. I think his behavior was out of line and you should probably report him to HR. I think there's a good chance this will also bite you in the behind a little bit when you have to tell the entire story and he tells his side of the story as far as using company time to post selfies on Facebook and everyone in the office talking about what's being posted on Facebook which led up to the incident.

    Not saying this to deter you from reporting him, he absolutely should be reported, just be prepared for that as HR has to handle the situation objectively.
  • Squatch3099
    Squatch3099 Posts: 87 Member
    Ha, ha! What a jerk! You look great, confident and you probably are a lot stronger than you think. Offices are just packed full of jerks, male and female. I've worked with them all. Human beings are the most cruel things on this earth.
    Be assured that your "rolls" are nothing to worry about. You've come a long way. Don't let the turkeys get you down. Your comeback to this person was right on target.
  • FatFreeFrolicking
    FatFreeFrolicking Posts: 4,252 Member
    That is 100% harassment. Report it to the HR department at your place of employment.
  • Aemely
    Aemely Posts: 694 Member
    Mixing Facebook with the office can be a dangerous combination. LinkedIn is better for maintaining professional distance.

    At a minimum, ask your co-worker to delete the image and tell him he does not have your permission to photograph you again. You could take along a manager or respected co-worker if you need backup for that conversation. I might also suggest being careful walking alone from the office, as he may be a stalker/predator type. :angry:
  • misswhitney1
    misswhitney1 Posts: 72 Member
    blazepurr wrote: »
    I'd say it's bullying/harassment and you should report it, especially if it happens again

    For reals. Totally, totally inappropriate.
  • DiabolicalColossus
    DiabolicalColossus Posts: 219 Member
    Go to HR as soon as possible.

    And not to be creepy or inappropriate, but you're stunning.
  • tigersword
    tigersword Posts: 8,059 Member
    I keep trying to come up with a coherent response, but I keep getting thoroughly distracted. So I'll just leave this:
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    In all seriousness, you look amazing, ignore the idiot. Report him to HR for being a moron.
  • RllyGudTweetr
    RllyGudTweetr Posts: 2,019 Member
    1. You look great; congratulations on your hard work.
    2. Report the creep to HR first thing in the morning.
  • Atrocity108
    Atrocity108 Posts: 328 Member
    just what in the hell! I dont understand how a grown man would try something like that
  • civilizedworm
    civilizedworm Posts: 796 Member
    edited October 2014
    What a major *kitten*. Fck that guy. I have spoken. (And you are very pretty too and not an *kitten*.)
  • Suzy_in_DE
    Suzy_in_DE Posts: 191 Member
    I think you have already received some good advise. May want to change your Facebook settings on what he can see, as he seems to be a little obsessed with you.
  • findingmarina
    findingmarina Posts: 89
    Suzy_in_DE wrote: »
    I think you have already received some good advise. May want to change your Facebook settings on what he can see, as he seems to be a little obsessed with you.


    yikesss!! I hope not, he is married!
  • findingmarina
    findingmarina Posts: 89
    civilizedworm wrote: »
    What a major *kitten*. Fck that guy. I have spoken. (And you are very pretty too and not an *kitten*.)

    :) lol I agree
  • findingmarina
    findingmarina Posts: 89
    tigersword wrote: »
    I keep trying to come up with a coherent response, but I keep getting thoroughly distracted. So I'll just leave this:
    K51JIl6.gif

    In all seriousness, you look amazing, ignore the idiot. Report him to HR for being a moron.

    haha!! Thanks!!! How u' doin'???
  • findingmarina
    findingmarina Posts: 89
    I want to say thank you to everyone who took the time to provide me with your feedback!!! You are all appreciated!!
  • libbydoodle11
    libbydoodle11 Posts: 1,351 Member
    Go to HR with this.
  • AmigaMaria001
    AmigaMaria001 Posts: 489 Member
    Harassment - that's what it is... Politely tell him that if he doesn't want to lose his job he will refrain from any further comments and harassment about your weight. Let him know that if you want his opinion from now on, you'll ask for it! Then BLOCK him on your FB.
  • 20yearsyounger
    20yearsyounger Posts: 1,630 Member
    edited October 2014
    That is a clear case of workplace harassment and if your organization knew about that it would not be tolerated.

    PS. as someone else said, you look great.
  • besaro
    besaro Posts: 1,858 Member
    wow, just wow. You forgot the box "ALL OF THE ABOVE."
  • mrbyte
    mrbyte Posts: 270 Member
    He sounds like a 9 year old with a crush.
  • dakotababy
    dakotababy Posts: 2,407 Member
    I would document this, and be going straight to HR immediately! Document everything he has said to you in the lunch room, the constant harassment - and also get all of your co-workers off of FB and do not engage in such ridiculous conversation. This is no ones business but your own.

    This guy sounds like an angry 2 year old. Next time he brings it up, why dont you just ask him "why are you so angry? why are you so invested in what I do with my life?" Usually straight to the point questions shut someone up really quick, because they typically do not have answers.
  • jkal1979
    jkal1979 Posts: 1,896 Member
    How did he know that you posted it on Facebook? Did someone show it to him or did he see it on his own newsfeed?

    Along with going to HR it might be a good idea to use the privacy settings and block certain people from seeing certain things. You can put all your co-workers on a list and use the custom privacy settings to hide the posts from them.
  • findingmarina
    findingmarina Posts: 89
    jkal1979 wrote: »
    How did he know that you posted it on Facebook? Did someone show it to him or did he see it on his own newsfeed?

    Along with going to HR it might be a good idea to use the privacy settings and block certain people from seeing certain things. You can put all your co-workers on a list and use the custom privacy settings to hide the posts from them.

    You can do that?? Wow!! I will check that out. Well he was a friend on FB, but some others are also my friends on FB. So that is how he saw the pic. Never had issues with things I posted, I always post pics of me and my son. Today, I felt confident...proud of how thinner I looked and will you look at how it ended up? Oh well not going to let his words get to me. I have belly fat..yes it comes with poor diet, lack of exercise and a BABY! What's important is what I am doing to make it better...besides if I ended up w some belly fat I wouldn't care!
  • findingmarina
    findingmarina Posts: 89
    dakotababy wrote: »
    I would document this, and be going straight to HR immediately! Document everything he has said to you in the lunch room, the constant harassment - and also get all of your co-workers off of FB and do not engage in such ridiculous conversation. This is no ones business but your own.

    This guy sounds like an angry 2 year old. Next time he brings it up, why dont you just ask him "why are you so angry? why are you so invested in what I do with my life?" Usually straight to the point questions shut someone up really quick, because they typically do not have answers.

    Love your suggested answers. Will try them out!! Thanks
  • KMW1219
    KMW1219 Posts: 63 Member
    That's definitely bullying and is not right!!! What a loser. Hes obviously a jealous jerk. Belly rolls or not, you look hot girl!!!
  • jkal1979
    jkal1979 Posts: 1,896 Member
    findingmarina wrote: »
    jkal1979 wrote: »
    How did he know that you posted it on Facebook? Did someone show it to him or did he see it on his own newsfeed?

    Along with going to HR it might be a good idea to use the privacy settings and block certain people from seeing certain things. You can put all your co-workers on a list and use the custom privacy settings to hide the posts from them.

    You can do that?? Wow!! I will check that out. Well he was a friend on FB, but some others are also my friends on FB. So that is how he saw the pic. Never had issues with things I posted, I always post pics of me and my son. Today, I felt confident...proud of how thinner I looked and will you look at how it ended up? Oh well not going to let his words get to me. I have belly fat..yes it comes with poor diet, lack of exercise and a BABY! What's important is what I am doing to make it better...besides if I ended up w some belly fat I wouldn't care!

    I think Google will bring up instructions on how to do it. It's pretty simple to do. I think it would also save you any awkwardness at work you would probably have if you went through and unfriended them instead. I would also block him if you haven't already.

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