Self-sabotage - why am I still doing it?!

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  • fatty_jojo
    fatty_jojo Posts: 2
    edited October 2014
    KEColorado wrote: »
    Your post speaks to me - my reality! I lost 6 lbs, then completely self-sabotaged and now gained even more back. But yesterday I logged back in and started again. I think I can do this. I can do this.[/q
  • fatty_jojo
    fatty_jojo Posts: 2
    I'm the same. I was working out and clean eating for maybe 6 weeks in hopes of losing some weight before a holiday with my partner to Hawaii. I'm by no means a big person but i am definitely not happy with my size. I was happy at 55kg... this was a few years ago. I now weigh almost 67kg and am pretty short. In the 6 weeks i had gotten down to 61kg (lost 5 kg), went away for 2 weeks, have come back and am now at almost 67 again. How can i have put on 5kg in 2 weeks? I don't know what is wrong with me. Then i work really hard again and can't seem to shift my lower belly.

    Then because i feel so bad about myself for putting the weight back on, i start not caring about what i eat again. I feel like my partner has lost attraction to me and i feel ugly.

    I just want to get back on track and get back down to 55kg, lose the weight, the flab and get my confidence back. Any tips?

    I want to be able to do this too
  • TrainerLB
    TrainerLB Posts: 42 Member
    This is actually a form of disordered eating called "binge" eating. It's a pattern of restricting certain foods or limiting calories and then gorging or binging. A binge can make you physically sick and emotionally distraught. I'd recommend talking to your doctor about ways to cope with this as it can become a very real eating disorder. Possibly evaluate the strict diet you're adhering to. There is room weekly for small, moderated goodies like sweets or chocolate, but in a controlled and meaningful way.
  • Lien4health
    Lien4health Posts: 11 Member
    edited October 2014
    This is all very helpful. Honestly, comforting in some ways. I have been doing this for a long time. This last time committed to others, thinking it would help. I can identify with being bored, being anxious, etc. This past time that I lost a few more pounds and felt great about my hard work, I cut myself some slack and started "treating" myself to the celebratory, comfort foods I have a love relationship to. I tried to eat just a little bit in moderation and slowly but surely, the triggers went off and I was on a point of no return. LOL! Seriously, there isn't a point of no return because I do return to the same cycle. Accepting that I had one or 2 bad days is ok; life isn't perfect. Well, 3 weeks later and 3 pounds heavier, I will change back to leading by example again. I hope that my log ins and exercise carry me longer than the 3 week stint last time. Little by little, I can change. You can too!
  • fit4lifemom
    fit4lifemom Posts: 47 Member
    I have the same basic issue, exercise is easy to get in, I love doing it. But the food....Sometimes it is like I am 2 people, an adult that knows what I absent and what it would take to get there, and a spoiled child who feels like she is bring punished and having treats withheld. It is the closest way to describe what is happening. Last week, I started living day to day with the diet. I gave not given up treats, but every morning I make a choice if I am going to eat them that day or not. It seems to keep the spoiled child in me happy knowing that I have a choice, if I want yo make it. Good luck.
  • blobby10
    blobby10 Posts: 357 Member
    It is so comforting to know how many other are in the same boat. I am now on day 3 of my 'no rubbish' mindset and apart from mindlessly scoffing 2 days worth of mixed nuts (decided on a 'healthy' snack at work) I'm doing OK. I resisted temptation in the supermarket last night by asking myself "Are you sure you want to make the decision to buy this chocolate and eat it, knowing how rotten you will feel afterwards". Somehow the answer was no and I didn't buy the chocolate. o:)

    Whilst my life appears idyllic to many people, I am under a lot of pressure at the moment and I'm sure this is why my binging/sweet food overeating is happening. I would love to be one of those people who stop eating during stressful times but I'm not and will have to learn to deal with it if I want to start showing off the results of my hard work in the gym.

    At least I'm lucky in that I don't even like fast food so never get cravings for McD's or BK or KFC. B)

    fit4lifemom: I can understand what you mean - think we might be kindred spirits!

    Good luck to everyone battling on! We will win one day! xx
  • mamamodge
    mamamodge Posts: 5
    Some people put these binges down to refined carbs, and advise low carbs high fat diets to curb the craving .It has worked with me .

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