I Blow It EVERY Time :( I need so much support it sucks.

neandermagnon wrote: »

yoovie wrote: »

This is a 'rest of your life' kind of project, so you cant see it as failing and starting over every week. It's more of an awareness than a project. Be mindful of what you eat, but you dont have to be more than 85% perfect. Be aware of how often you exercise and if you are doing more or less than usual and adjust your balance. Remember to sporadically check your weight a few times a week or month, just to watch for upward or downward trends.

It isn't necessary to micromanage yourself into a corner, or the whole process will suck. This should be a new way of life that you are happy to embrace. So be more conscious when choosing groceries and remember to aim for exercising on certain days each week.

Some people encourage baby steps - I encourage pretending the whole thing is on a backburner while you create new habits. Pretend it isnt life or death, cause it really isnt.

If you focus too hard on something, it consumes your thoughts and creates pressure on you to execute it perfectly. Forget perfect. Forget obsessing. Just slip softly into your new habits like you are slipping into a bubble bath with candles. It's good for you, it's good for your body. It's good for your mental state.

And all of this is because you deserve it. To feel good, to look good, to be strong and healthy and happy. It's okay to be the whole package. In fact, you totally should - at every opportunity.

Good luck!

^^^^ this

and also: aim for slow and steady weight loss, it doesn't matter how long it takes to get there, what matters is staying there once you do get there. Set your goal to lose weight at 1lb/week if you have a lot to lose or 0.5lb if you only have a little to lose. Try to hit your calorie goal as close as you can, i.e. don't be under (it makes you hungry and more likely to eat later on, which may not hit until a few days later)... give yourself room in your calorie goal to eat what food you want, just be really careful to weigh and measure it accurately... that way you can enjoy all foods without going off your diet, and that'll make it a lot easier to stick to, then set goals for sticking to it, i.e 1 week goal, 2 week goal, 1 month goal, 3 month goal, 6 month goal, 1 year goal, etc. Whatever exercise you do, make it something you'll enjoy and stick to, and calculate the calories carefully and eat back around 80% of them. Make the process as enjoyable as you can... you don't want to feel deprived or tortured by it, that way you'll find it a lot easier to stick to at weekends. You can even give yourself a bit of extra leeway by eating at maintenance calories one day a week... this will make the process a bit slower, but so long as you are consistently losing weight, it doesn't matter if you take longer to get there, what matters is that you are able to stay there when you do get there.