10 year age difference
Frostbitten007
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So, I'm dating this guy 10 years older than me. I'm 23, he's 33. We just started dating 3 days ago. He's nice and all and I really like him. I was wondering if there's too much of an age difference.
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Not necessarily...it depends on where you are emotionally and where he is...
Can't say definitively yes/no.0 -
If you're happy that's all that matters...I know 23 year olds that are more mature than 40 year olds.0
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SOOOOO many variables before we can answer. I'm 52.... if I weren't married... how young could I date?0
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johnmurphymfp wrote: »SOOOOO many variables before we can answer. I'm 52.... if I weren't married... how young could I date?
It depends on how much money you have, lol.0 -
My ex husband was 8 years older than me. Was fun when he'd say about stuff he was doing when he was 18 and I be like dude I was ten....ewww0
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10 years is nothing. You should find one that's 40 years older. Hubba hubba0
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AntRobertson wrote: »Age-schmage... It's all relative. At 33 I'd probably have dated a 23yr old, now at 40 most likely not but I'd definitely date a 30yr old (or a 50yr old for that matter). All moot anyways since I'm married (to an older woman as it happens).
Point being, if he's a good dude and you're happy then just go for it.
EXACTLY - if the two have fun together, love each other... then it's all good. But it really should be discussed in depth.
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I'm married to someone 7 years older. My sister is married to someone 8 years younger. Age is just age. Date each other, and see if the age thing gets in the way. Most likely not... but if it does, you'll have your answer.0
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Not necessarily...it depends on where you are emotionally and where he is...
Can't say definitively yes/no.
Emotionally I'm good. Starting to think about the future career wise and family wise, so is he. He works at the courthouse in a good job. I'm a deli worker at a grocery store. I never finished college as it wasn't for me. So many people don't go to college who are successful so I don't think that matters.
We both have similar ideas for the future. We both want to get married in the future. I just don't want to take things too fast like I did with my last relationship. That can hurt a relationship. I will just see where this relationship will take me.
I do say I am more mature than him. But, statistically women mature faster than most men.
He's a good guy who goes to church and doesn't swear. He treats me well, unlike the last guy I dated.
We are both happy and that's all that matters.
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My 23 year old friend just moved in with her 33 year old boyfriend. She's never been with anyone so suited to her. If you're both looking for the same thing then age means nothing0
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You just started dating three days ago...it's a bit early to start picking out a china pattern. Just take it slowly and see how it goes. Ten years isn't a big deal when you are both consenting adults, especially if you are at similar stages in your life.0
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you're 23, have fun..date a 33 year old.0
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Age is nothing. Finding someone that you are compatible with is what counts. Glad you are both happy.0
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Frostbitten007 wrote: »Not necessarily...it depends on where you are emotionally and where he is...
Can't say definitively yes/no.
Emotionally I'm good. Starting to think about the future career wise and family wise, so is he. He works at the courthouse in a good job. I'm a deli worker at a grocery store. I never finished college as it wasn't for me. So many people don't go to college who are successful so I don't think that matters.
We both have similar ideas for the future. We both want to get married in the future. I just don't want to take things too fast like I did with my last relationship. That can hurt a relationship. I will just see where this relationship will take me.
I do say I am more mature than him. But, statistically women mature faster than most men.
He's a good guy who goes to church and doesn't swear. He treats me well, unlike the last guy I dated.
We are both happy and that's all that matters.
I want to date a man who is 10 years older than me. But preferably one who does not go to church and who curses like a sailor.
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arditarose wrote: »Frostbitten007 wrote: »Not necessarily...it depends on where you are emotionally and where he is...
Can't say definitively yes/no.
Emotionally I'm good. Starting to think about the future career wise and family wise, so is he. He works at the courthouse in a good job. I'm a deli worker at a grocery store. I never finished college as it wasn't for me. So many people don't go to college who are successful so I don't think that matters.
We both have similar ideas for the future. We both want to get married in the future. I just don't want to take things too fast like I did with my last relationship. That can hurt a relationship. I will just see where this relationship will take me.
I do say I am more mature than him. But, statistically women mature faster than most men.
He's a good guy who goes to church and doesn't swear. He treats me well, unlike the last guy I dated.
We are both happy and that's all that matters.
I want to date a man who is 10 years older than me. But preferably one who does not go to church and who curses like a sailor.
To each their own.0 -
Hmmm, you need to finish college. Women aren't more mature than men. Just because he is different than the ex, doesn't mean he is better. The fact that you are asking for advice means you are unsure.0
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Three days and you've talked about marriage and kids and the future? You need to slow down. I have no problem with the age difference, when I was 26 I dated a 40yo, and I've also dated a guy 8 years younger than me (rawr
). BUT seriously, they all SEEM nice when you first meet them, takes a long time to really find out who someone is. Not saying he's not nice, just that you don't know the man, and you won't until you live through some of life's stressors together. 0 -
In terms of falling in love, age has no bearing. The heart wants what it wants. It may present a challenge if you are together long term. But who cares?0
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(With apologies to Abbott and Costello...)
You're 40 years old. You're in love with a little girl, say, 10 years old. You're four times as old as that little girl. You couldn't marry her, so you wait 5 years. Now, you're 45, and the little girl is 15. You're only three times as old as that little girl. You wait 15 more years. Now the little girl is 30 and you're 60. You're only twice as old as that little girl. How long do you have to wait until you and the little girl are the same age?
If you're happy with the guy, go for it! Just take your time, and make sure you're good to each other. Sometimes these things do work out. Good luck!0 -
10 years is a nice difference. Hell, I'm 36 and even 20 years (eww, not younger) would be acceptable with the right person.0
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I don't see why it matters what other people think & why you need confirmation that it is ok? If he's nice and you're happy...That should be all that matters, right??0
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Meh, I've dated a guy 12 years younger than me. It all depends on the individuals, their maturity levels and compatibility.0
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My first boyfriend was 10 years older than me, when I was 18? 19? After that my best guy friend was 13 years older and eventually I married someone 6 years older me.
Age doesn't matter if you're getting the connection you want/need with the other person.
That being said, talking marriage/kids when you only started dating? Have you known this guy for a long time and you discussed this before entering the relationship? You have time, and while it's nice that he meets all your 'check boxes' - it's not the most important thing in a relationship. Take your time, get to know him, and ENJOY dating. Live it up.0 -
My wife is 10 years younger then me and we have been happily and i truly mean happily married for 12 years.... but at times i swear she is older then me both physically and mentally
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I've dated a man 19 years older than me and I've gone 15 years younger as well. The 19 years older was fine and our issues were unrelated to our ages... The 15 years younger was NOT a good idea and we never moved from "dating" to "relationship" because we were at WAY different stages of our lives. My husband is six years younger and age is a non-issue. I don't think AGE is so much an issue as "stage of life". If you both want the same thing out of the relationship then go for it.
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My boyfriend is younger than me but it doesn't affect our relationship at all. But I've seen relationships where the older party holds it against the younger party when making decisions. If you feel like your opinions are lesser because you're younger, or ever feel like the "kid" in the relationship- those are warning signs that the relationship is not doing well.0
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Rule of thumb I heard the other day was "Don't date any women younger than half your age + 7". Actually works as a nice sliding scale 0
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No I don't think it's too much of an age gap. Now if he was over half your age or old enough to be your dad, then I'd say that's too much. I'm 20 and I would definitely would consider dating a 33 year old. There's nothing wrong with liking older guys. 0
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My dad is 9 years older than my mom, it seems to be working for them so far.0
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my wife is 9 years younger than me0
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