Me vs The Scale
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spulsifer92
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So this morning I woke up and went to go weigh myself like i do every morning. And the scale was gone... My fiance took it and hid it. Why? Ill admit, I have a problem. I do weigh myself wayyy too much. At least 3 times everyday. Most days more. He thinks he is helping by taking it but it was been stressing me out sooo much and its only 9:00 Am.
I don't know if its helping or hurting my situation. Any thoughts?
I don't know if its helping or hurting my situation. Any thoughts?
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talk to your fiance about it?0
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Yes and he wont give it back. told him he was treating me like a kid and i was upset. Hes dead set on that hes helping.
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May be he is trying to help you. Using your scale three times a day is a little excessive0
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I know it is Its one part of my previous eating disorder still left...0
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Your weight fluctuates throughout the day, so you'll never get the same readings. That's why it's recommended to only step on it first thing in the morning, after using the bathroom and before eating. It sounds like he's trying to help you understand that you are obsessed with it and need to step back.0
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That would make me angry at first, but speak to him about it and I am sure his intentions are in your best interest. Speak about it and work on a more balanced approach together.0
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I know he means well. Its just really hard for me. I like to see my weight go down durring the day. Thats why I do it. But I weigh myself 1. when i get up 2. after i workout 3. after my shower 4. when i go home for lunch 5. when i get home after work 6. after my pm workout. 7. after supper 8. before bed..... Then I cry because i "gained" 2+ lbs0
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spulsifer92 wrote: »I know he means well. Its just really hard for me. I like to see my weight go down durring the day. Thats why I do it. But I weigh myself 1. when i get up 2. after i workout 3. after my shower 4. when i go home for lunch 5. when i get home after work 6. after my pm workout. 7. after supper 8. before bed..... Then I cry because i "gained" 2+ lbs
i would get back in touch with your treatment team to work on this.0 -
I don't have one....0
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Talk to the people you've been working on your ED with. That is not healthy at all.0
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spulsifer92 wrote: »I don't have one....
ok, then i would go to a doctor and tell them you are relapsing into your ED.0 -
My parents told me if I didn't stop how i was treating myself they were going to take me to the hospital. so i stopped. Everyone knows they just don't talk about it. I'm scared to tell my doctor. I don't want to have to go to treatment and talk about feeling and emotions.0
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spulsifer92 wrote: »My parents told me if I didn't stop how i was treating myself they were going to take me to the hospital. so i stopped. Everyone knows they just don't talk about it. I'm scared to tell my doctor. I don't want to have to go to treatment and talk about feeling and emotions.
This is just repressing the problem. This sort of action doesn't actually resolve the underlying issue. As someone who has struggled with mental health, I can tell you that if you don't resolve underlying issues, the problem will not go away and will continue to seep insidiously into your life no matter how much you try to repress it.
I know talking about things can seem like an insurmountable obstacle, but there's no other way to convey what's going on in your head to someone who has the training and experience to help you straighten things out.
ETA your fiancé is trying to help you. It's like the people who verbally bonk me over the head and tell me to eat even when I have zero desire and energy to do so. They do it because they care about me and because not eating regularly makes my mood tank dangerously0 -
spulsifer92 wrote: »My parents told me if I didn't stop how i was treating myself they were going to take me to the hospital. so i stopped. Everyone knows they just don't talk about it. I'm scared to tell my doctor. I don't want to have to go to treatment and talk about feeling and emotions.
unfortunately no one can help you if you dont want to help yourself.0 -
Yeah, I have my yearly doc appointment in November. I should tell her. ive been trying to. i want help its just hard for me to admit i need it.0
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spulsifer92 wrote: »My parents told me if I didn't stop how i was treating myself they were going to take me to the hospital. so i stopped. Everyone knows they just don't talk about it. I'm scared to tell my doctor. I don't want to have to go to treatment and talk about feeling and emotions.
What do you want/expect us to say? Are you looking for validation in these behaviors and feelings? Take us through your thought process in creating this thread. How did you feel as you typed it out, and how do the responses make you feel?
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spulsifer92 wrote: »My parents told me if I didn't stop how i was treating myself they were going to take me to the hospital. so i stopped. Everyone knows they just don't talk about it. I'm scared to tell my doctor. I don't want to have to go to treatment and talk about feeling and emotions.
It is very difficult for people with an eating disorder to work through their issues on their own, so I would definitely recommend finding a specialist who works with eating disorders. You may have upped your calories, but you are clearly still dealing with disordered behaviors (the repetitive weighing) and feelings.
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Well I kinda wanted people to tell me that I was right for being upset. But the more comments and the more I type in response I just feel horrible and pathetic. Just kinda validating that I have a problem i guess...0
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spulsifer92 wrote: »I know he means well. Its just really hard for me. I like to see my weight go down durring the day. Thats why I do it. But I weigh myself 1. when i get up 2. after i workout 3. after my shower 4. when i go home for lunch 5. when i get home after work 6. after my pm workout. 7. after supper 8. before bed..... Then I cry because i "gained" 2+ lbs
You sound a little bit like me except for the last part (and I'm more like 3x a day not 8). I get on the scale a lot but more just out of curiosity and to see the trend of how my weight fluctuates. It's helpful to me but I never let it upset me because I know there is NO way I "gained" a pound or two overnight. I eat at a large deficit so there is zero chance I consumed 3500-7500 calories surplus. I understand if you have an ED you probably know that but still get consumed by it anyway. I am an alcoholic so I can certainly relate to irrational/over the top behavior (which is what I attribute for the fact that I weigh myself so much) and I agree with what Leah said. You need to work on yourself on the inside and find the root causes behind your feelings and emotions. Do this for you because you are worth it!
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a nice compromise would be to have it out first thing in the morning and then put it away until the next day.0
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