Relationship Weight Gain

Don't make excuses, find solutions. If you know you are likely to eat out and consume a lot of calories together, fast beforehand so you have room in your calorie/macro goals.

You can also just exercise more to compensate for your increased intake or consume fewer calories one day to make up for another. You don't need to be at your TDEE every single day as long as your average consumption over time is in line.

"We eat out a lot and each others routines mean we end up getting take outs sometimes because, for example, he'd had to work late unexpectedly and we didn't do a "big shop" at the weekend so there's nothing in."

I'm confused, why can't you just prepare dinner when he works late? You get your healthy meal and he gets to eat when he gets home.

I had this problem starting when I moved to go live with my boyfriend again. I weighed 220 pounds in PA then I moved to FL to be with him again and thats when the weight started to pile on (I'm 269 now). Thankfully he noticed his weight gain about a year ago and got insanely fit and healthy using MFP. Sadly I at the time just couldnt get on board- it felt like another diet and I was depressed. (I sure wish now I saw MFP and this way of life like I do now!)

So with some tweaking and some relationship TLC we have both switched over this time around because he knows I need it for my health. Plus thankfully he wants to get back in shape too.

I bet you're thinking..Well how does this even help me? What's this crazy lady talking about? Sit him down and talk to him- be honest. Tell him your plan and maybe even get him to join MFP also! Why do this alone when you can have the person you love at your back at all times. Sometimes your loved one can be the best support you have

You don't have to eat everything on your plate when you eat out. Just eat less of whatever it is you're eating.

I would say just watch your snacking and if you do have to go out check out where you might be going online first so you can find a healthy option that will work for you. I find I work out in the wee hours of the morning and that works well for me before the kiddos get up, so just find a time that works for you. I hope this helps.

I think this is actually very common. I've seen it happen to myself, family and friends. My boyfriend lives quite far away so we get to see each other every other weekend so when we visit each other we like to go out to restaurants, but recently we've realised we need to tone that down a bit for the sake of our waistlines and wallets!

Cooking can be quick and easy and with some advance prep doesn't take long at all. It wouldn't be hard to prepare something healthy then cook it for both of you for when he gets in. Just watch the portion sizes because you might not need as much food as him. Cook the same healthy low calorie meals you did but for two, bulking up his plate with larger portions or extras if he wants. It's just a case of planning ahead with shopping etc.

In relation to snacking, just make sure you have some healthy things around the house like fruit, chopped veggies or little tubs or bags of ready measured out small nibbles (My fave atm is 10g dried cranberries with 15g almonds). I find a small serving of low fat natural yogurt to be really filling.

When you do go out, just choose wisely. Or ideally, eat out less so that it's a treat as opposed to an every day thing and choose you want when you actually get to.