Relationship Weight Gain
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laurenward1990 wrote: »
Oh yet another wanting advice but as long as they agree with it....
What else do you want then? Just get tough stop eating food. Otherwise, continue dithering about and remain in the same situation.-2 -
what i do for eating out is go on the restaurants website for calories before we go to plan better. sometimes u can only eat half a burger and get broccoli instead of fries or just eat a couple fries or like others say dont eat but i find when i dont eat then i end up binging bc i cant stop bc i waited too long. message me if u need to talk it is difficult trying to lose when someone else is around, it takes lots of strength.0
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On days that you're at home and waiting for him, could you cook meals for two in your place and then bring it over? And if you do go out to eat, if you don't have much willpower to not overeat, perhaps fill up on vegetables beforehand, or eat less during the day, if a calorie deficit is all you're concerned with.0
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laurenward1990 wrote: »I'm confused, why can't you just prepare dinner when he works late? You get your healthy meal and he gets to eat when he gets home.
We don't live together, so often im waiting around to find out when he is going to get home, I usually stay at his place, so i'll be at mine waiting for him (I currently don't have a key to his place).
You could tell me to eat and let him sort his own dinner out, but I don't like to do that when he has been at work for 12+ hours...
So make dinner at your place and bring it to his. You are making this way more complicated then it needs to be.
Better yet, why are you just waiting around for him to show up? Stick to your own routine and, when you can see each other, do it. If you are close enough to have to go grocery shopping together, why don't you have a key?0 -
ithrowconfetti wrote: »On days that you're at home and waiting for him, could you cook meals for two in your place and then bring it over?
I could do that yeah, I guess the only trouble is when I don't know if i'm for sure seeing him that night, but I suppose I could cook for the both of us and use the leftovers for the next night if he gets home too late or I don't end up going to his place.
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laurenward1990 wrote: »ithrowconfetti wrote: »On days that you're at home and waiting for him, could you cook meals for two in your place and then bring it over?
I could do that yeah, I guess the only trouble is when I don't know if i'm for sure seeing him that night, but I suppose I could cook for the both of us and use the leftovers for the next night if he gets home too late or I don't end up going to his place.
Ok, so I've been there, done that. It's not fair for him to force you to live in his world.
If it's dinner time and you don't know if you are going to be seeing him or not, then make your own plans. It's rude for him to not let you know - and don't tell me that he doesn't know when work will end. That's B.S.
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I eat out a lot and I am still losing weight. YOU have to decide that you want a healthier lifestyle and YOU have to make better choices. You can eat out but still eat healthy. The best advice I can give you is that if you really want to be healthy and lose weight, you will find a way not an excuse. It all starts with you. Good luck!0
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laurenward1990 wrote: »Everyone can relate i'm sure...
Being in a relationship is terrible for my weight, every time! I just cannot control myself when i'm with my boyfriend. We eat out a lot and each others routines mean we end up getting take outs sometimes because, for example, he'd had to work late unexpectedly and we didn't do a "big shop" at the weekend so there's nothing in.
When I was single (we broke up for a couple of months in summer) it was so easy to get into a food routine, get home from work and cook (a very low calorie, healthy meal) for one. But now, I have no routine, so I snack or we end up eating for convenience.
It's a nightmare! Any suggestions/help?
Sounds like you're not ready to be in a relationship until you fix yourself.
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laurenward1990 wrote: »ithrowconfetti wrote: »On days that you're at home and waiting for him, could you cook meals for two in your place and then bring it over?
I could do that yeah, I guess the only trouble is when I don't know if i'm for sure seeing him that night, but I suppose I could cook for the both of us and use the leftovers for the next night if he gets home too late or I don't end up going to his place.
Ok, so I've been there, done that. It's not fair for him to force you to live in his world.
If it's dinner time and you don't know if you are going to be seeing him or not, then make your own plans. It's rude for him to not let you know - and don't tell me that he doesn't know when work will end. That's B.S.
Yeah thats true! I guess I just always feel bad when he calls and I tell him i've already eaten. I'll have a chat with him and explain
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laurenward1990 wrote: »Sevendust912 wrote: »Sounds like OP is looking for a pity party.
No, I'm looking for informed and helpful advice, not some uninformed, rude, ignorant idiots telling me to "get fat" and to grow up.
You don't have to be a child to have issues with food.
It doesn't even sound like you have an issue with food. It sounds like you and your BF work different schedules. Just eat your own meals and let him do the same. Or don't and get the same result you are talking about now.0 -
I like what PollyPhoenix says!PollyPhoenix wrote: »I have had the exact same problem. Gained weight when we were together, lost it when we broke up last winter, gained it all again as soon as we were back together. My current strategy is:
(1) keeping bags of frozen veggies (which have barely any calories and loads of nutrients) in the freezer and microwaving them quickly to replace some of the takeaway meal to fill me up.
(2) Keeping low calorie ready meals and other easy frozen food in the freezer - obvs not a good everyday choice but good in a pinch
(3) Cooking massive meals when we have time so there's enough for two nights, but separating out the portions before eating to stop us from eating it all in one go!
I'm in a slightly better position though because I've managed to get him into logging on MFP too :P You could try that one!
I have to have veggies in the freezer because I will always know yummy, nutritious food is near.
I've told my bf my diet concerns. He tries not to trigger me so we're both happy, lol
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And what do I need to "fix"?SonicDeathMonkey80 wrote: »laurenward1990 wrote: »Everyone can relate i'm sure...
Being in a relationship is terrible for my weight, every time! I just cannot control myself when i'm with my boyfriend. We eat out a lot and each others routines mean we end up getting take outs sometimes because, for example, he'd had to work late unexpectedly and we didn't do a "big shop" at the weekend so there's nothing in.
When I was single (we broke up for a couple of months in summer) it was so easy to get into a food routine, get home from work and cook (a very low calorie, healthy meal) for one. But now, I have no routine, so I snack or we end up eating for convenience.
It's a nightmare! Any suggestions/help?
Sounds like you're not ready to be in a relationship until you fix yourself.
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I understand completely. I got fat and happy after I married my soulmate. We loved to eat fast food and go to restaraunts. After 5 years I have gained over a hundred pounds. Every time we tried to diet together, we failed. After getting a bad diagnosis from my Dr. last week, I decided that I would have to do this on my own. It can be done, but it's hard. Eating together was one of the things we really enjoyed. Now I am cooking healthy meals in the afternoon, so we can eat together and live longer! I hope this helps0
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joey200for2 wrote: »I understand completely. I got fat and happy after I married my soulmate. We loved to eat fast food and go to restaraunts. After 5 years I have gained over a hundred pounds. Every time we tried to diet together, we failed. After getting a bad diagnosis from my Dr. last week, I decided that I would have to do this on my own. It can be done, but it's hard. Eating together was one of the things we really enjoyed. Now I am cooking healthy meals in the afternoon, so we can eat together and live longer! I hope this helps
Thank you, I hope the diagnosis was nothing too bad. I'll try cooking healthy stuff whether i'm seeing him or not, and maybe see if I can get a key for nights when he'll be home late.0 -
laurenward1990 wrote: »laurenward1990 wrote: »ithrowconfetti wrote: »On days that you're at home and waiting for him, could you cook meals for two in your place and then bring it over?
I could do that yeah, I guess the only trouble is when I don't know if i'm for sure seeing him that night, but I suppose I could cook for the both of us and use the leftovers for the next night if he gets home too late or I don't end up going to his place.
Ok, so I've been there, done that. It's not fair for him to force you to live in his world.
If it's dinner time and you don't know if you are going to be seeing him or not, then make your own plans. It's rude for him to not let you know - and don't tell me that he doesn't know when work will end. That's B.S.
Yeah thats true! I guess I just always feel bad when he calls and I tell him i've already eaten. I'll have a chat with him and explain
1. If he's a grown up, he can handle it.
2. If it upsets him that much, then he will think to let you know his ETA for dinner.0 -
laurenward1990 wrote: »
And what do I need to "fix"?SonicDeathMonkey80 wrote: »laurenward1990 wrote: »Everyone can relate i'm sure...
Being in a relationship is terrible for my weight, every time! I just cannot control myself when i'm with my boyfriend. We eat out a lot and each others routines mean we end up getting take outs sometimes because, for example, he'd had to work late unexpectedly and we didn't do a "big shop" at the weekend so there's nothing in.
When I was single (we broke up for a couple of months in summer) it was so easy to get into a food routine, get home from work and cook (a very low calorie, healthy meal) for one. But now, I have no routine, so I snack or we end up eating for convenience.
It's a nightmare! Any suggestions/help?
Sounds like you're not ready to be in a relationship until you fix yourself.
Your relationship with food and weight. You sound like a case of codependency in waiting. That's not good for either of you.
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ASonicDeathMonkey80 wrote: »laurenward1990 wrote: »
And what do I need to "fix"?SonicDeathMonkey80 wrote: »laurenward1990 wrote: »Everyone can relate i'm sure...
Being in a relationship is terrible for my weight, every time! I just cannot control myself when i'm with my boyfriend. We eat out a lot and each others routines mean we end up getting take outs sometimes because, for example, he'd had to work late unexpectedly and we didn't do a "big shop" at the weekend so there's nothing in.
When I was single (we broke up for a couple of months in summer) it was so easy to get into a food routine, get home from work and cook (a very low calorie, healthy meal) for one. But now, I have no routine, so I snack or we end up eating for convenience.
It's a nightmare! Any suggestions/help?
Sounds like you're not ready to be in a relationship until you fix yourself.
Your relationship with food and weight. You sound like a case of codependency in waiting. That's not good for either of you.
A case of codependency for taking into account that my boyfriend might want something to eat when he gets home from work? Hahaha. Jesus the forum here is so utterly ridiculous.
Trolling doesn't suit you.
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laurenward1990 wrote: »ASonicDeathMonkey80 wrote: »laurenward1990 wrote: »
And what do I need to "fix"?SonicDeathMonkey80 wrote: »laurenward1990 wrote: »Everyone can relate i'm sure...
Being in a relationship is terrible for my weight, every time! I just cannot control myself when i'm with my boyfriend. We eat out a lot and each others routines mean we end up getting take outs sometimes because, for example, he'd had to work late unexpectedly and we didn't do a "big shop" at the weekend so there's nothing in.
When I was single (we broke up for a couple of months in summer) it was so easy to get into a food routine, get home from work and cook (a very low calorie, healthy meal) for one. But now, I have no routine, so I snack or we end up eating for convenience.
It's a nightmare! Any suggestions/help?
Sounds like you're not ready to be in a relationship until you fix yourself.
Your relationship with food and weight. You sound like a case of codependency in waiting. That's not good for either of you.
A case of codependency for taking into account that my boyfriend might want something to eat when he gets home from work? Hahaha. Jesus the forum here is so utterly ridiculous.
Trolling doesn't suit you.
Is your boyfriend not capable of feeding himself?
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Its called being considerate. You might want to give it a go some time.Sevendust912 wrote: »laurenward1990 wrote: »ASonicDeathMonkey80 wrote: »laurenward1990 wrote: »
And what do I need to "fix"?SonicDeathMonkey80 wrote: »laurenward1990 wrote: »Everyone can relate i'm sure...
Being in a relationship is terrible for my weight, every time! I just cannot control myself when i'm with my boyfriend. We eat out a lot and each others routines mean we end up getting take outs sometimes because, for example, he'd had to work late unexpectedly and we didn't do a "big shop" at the weekend so there's nothing in.
When I was single (we broke up for a couple of months in summer) it was so easy to get into a food routine, get home from work and cook (a very low calorie, healthy meal) for one. But now, I have no routine, so I snack or we end up eating for convenience.
It's a nightmare! Any suggestions/help?
Sounds like you're not ready to be in a relationship until you fix yourself.
Your relationship with food and weight. You sound like a case of codependency in waiting. That's not good for either of you.
A case of codependency for taking into account that my boyfriend might want something to eat when he gets home from work? Hahaha. Jesus the forum here is so utterly ridiculous.
Trolling doesn't suit you.
Is your boyfriend not capable of feeding himself?
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