He says, "Please don't lose anymore weight"!

You don't mention how tall you are. Is your goal weight of 155 in line for what the weight charts tell you that you should weigh for your height? Unless you are taller than 5'6 or 5'7 that doesn't seem like a super low weight goal. It's YOUR body. I am sure his own insecurities play a role in his feelings. I wouldn't talk about losing all the time with him, but go for another 10 lbs and see how you feel then. In the meantime, build up his confidence in your feelings for him. Good luck!

Think about it, are you healthy?
Are you going to have more energy, strenght, and stamina now or 20 pounds later?
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Plus, I'm sure you'll still be beautiful and he'll still think so if you went to your goal!

YOU need to be happy. If you stop to satisfy him, you risk your happiness. I've been in several bad relationships, and a lot of times guys are a lot of talk about stuff like that because they're afraid they won't be good enough once you reach your goal. Just try to find ways to assure him you won't leave like his ex. You're not the same as her. You just need to do what's good for you, what makes you happy, and most of all what will have you at your HEALTHIEST. Good luck with you situation, and I hope everything works out.

Definitely lose the rest of the weight only for yourself. Ultimately you want to be healthy. He should love you at whatever weight you are!!! Best wishes

Although I'm sure his opinion is important to you, it is YOUR body and YOUR health. If you don't feel healthy right now then simply say to him "I don't feel healthy at this weight". If he doesn't understand then it's time to end the relationship. My guess is that his insecurities are showing. Just reassure him that you love him and that you're doing this for you; so you can be happy and healthy...not so you can find a different man. Good luck!

I think alot of men have problems visualising weight...
When I said I had 50 pounds to lose my boyfriend was wondering why so much...but now he can see I am still me and the curves are still there....Just reassured him that you will still be curvy at your goal weight and show him pictures of other women at you height and weight so he can get a sense of what you will look like...that lil trick worked for me... this site was very helpful http://www.mybodygallery.com/

It is your body and to a point nobody should have to tell you what to do. However, there is a lot of good alternatives already said here. You are not even sure yet if you lose that 20lbs that it will be what your body needs. Consider staying at the weight you're at now for 2 weeks or a month. If you're not happy lose weight in 5lb increments (1lb a month) and hold it for 2 weeks to a month and see how each level feels, how it fits your life to maintain that weight and how your body is responding. I'm sure he wouldn't notice 5lbs over a month's time.

There is some history there that you both need to work through so keep communications open, let him tell you what he's thinking, feeling, afraid of etc. You can't read his mind and if you tried and guessed wrong, you'd only be fueling his fires of insecurity. My (now) ex accused me of having affairs when I was loosing weight back in 2006. I was doing it for me because I was not happy with me and therefore I could not be happy with us. We had a lot more problems than just my weight and his accusations, so we did split. I had tried for 15 years to keep that marriage together but I just couldn't do it anymore. You have to decide what YOU want and NEED, but also consider how it's affecting him as well.

Good luck to both of you in whatever you decide.

Do what makes YOU happy! If he loves you now he can love you at any weight.

I completely agree!! You are doing this for a healthier you and he should continue to love you no matter what and be understanding!!

It sounds like he feels insecure and needs some reassurance. Explain to him that you're not going *anywhere* and that you love him, and that losing the weight will make you happier and thus have a positive effect on your relationship! Also, losing weight might give you more curves - it certainly helped accentuate MY waistline!

Also, talk to your physician about your ideal weight for your overall health. Everyone should have a lipid profile, blood pressure check and blood sugar test done (your husband too!) to make sure all of that is OK, if if not that will help you decide whether or not you should lose more.

Ultimately this journey is about you and making YOURSELF a PRIORITY. You have to do what is right for YOU. I understand where his past might make him anxious, but if he really loves you, then he will support your decision to do what is right for you.