What changed, besides weight, after losing a lot of weight?

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  • LadyLots2Lose
    LadyLots2Lose Posts: 110 Member
    So much changed for me when the numbers on the scales started going down. I lost my 'invisibility cloak' with the weight and people seem to notice me now (particularly guys). I smile a lot more, I'm positive about life, confident, happier, healthier and braver than I was before. I try new things, love exercising and I'm not hanging out in the sidelines and watching life pass me by. There were so many things I'd shy away from because I was big. I wouldn't participate in sport or outdoor games and I hid whenever there was a camera around.
  • amf0324
    amf0324 Posts: 46 Member
    The shoe size thing is funny -- totally unexpected, but definitely a "side effect" of weight loss!
  • MKEgal
    MKEgal Posts: 3,250 Member
    MaroneLotz wrote:
    Would be interesting to know how you, your outlook on life, the things you now do, or even the people in your life changed after losing a lot of weight? ... besides the number on the scale, what else changed for you?
    I feel so much better - less achy (other than what I cause to myself at the gym), more energy, to some degree I sleep better & am less depressed.

    I'm more confident about what I can do physically, willing to try things I wouldn't have thought of before (just started jogging!), know my stamina has increased (so again, more confident about what I can do if I need to).

    Since I've proven to myself that I'm able to do a long-term project which requires everyday dedication, work, long slow change, etc. I'm more confident that I can put the same characteristics to use in other ways.

    And most amazing, I'm actually starting to be happy with how I look. :astonished::grinning::joy:
    I feel pretty lol. I had felt unattractive for so many years,
    I just assumed I'd still feel that way, only thin
    Yes! That, exactly.

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  • smantha32
    smantha32 Posts: 6,990 Member
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  • MargueriteMuguet
    MargueriteMuguet Posts: 230 Member
    Bump.
  • Winterlover123
    Winterlover123 Posts: 352 Member
    The confidence, plus I find my sleep to be a lot more restful
  • Im stronger both physically and emotionally.
  • I just feel better in general. I feel more positive about everything. People who have never been heavy just don't understand the constant toll you're under when you're obese. I sure didn't even while I was, all I know is that I'm not miserable anymore. People treat me nicer and I feel attractive for the first time in my adult life.
  • davert123
    davert123 Posts: 1,568 Member
    For me the question is most probably the wrong way around. Things changed which allowed me to keep losing , namely my whole attitude on health, fitness and who I am. Hanging around mfp , well more accurately, hanging around the right people on mfp, taught me that the biggest thing wrong wasn't the fat around my waste but the stuff between my ears. I used to look at sporty people and want to be them but I would try and do so by crash dieting and nothing else. The realization dawned on me that if I want to be sported I need to be sporty - it really is that simple. To me sporty means I engage in activity, I train and I learn about how my body works. Without this I would have just been a fat person wishing to be thin instead of a healthy fit person. I chose a sport - Triathlon, and I'm training now with a purpose. I am sure healthy people are not obsessed about losing weight but could be about their sport. For me now my sport goals are more important than my weight goals (although my weight goals are important to my sport goals :-). I am still a budding triathlete but I've entered a race and I'm now working towards this. I understand myself more as well. I like challenging myself because I realize I am not going to win anything so I've decided to enter a really hard one with the aim of winning by finishing :-) Without this transformation I would have behaved just like usual and I would still be over eating and getting even fatter than I was.
  • lemonsurprise
    lemonsurprise Posts: 255 Member
    So many things have improved. I love having self control, it's opened up other doors for me which I didn't think I'd achieve. I was never a horrible or nasty person but I was pretty negative. I feel that's going and as a result I'm closer to friends and family and I'm actually turning in to a mildly social person now! I love being complimented - who doesn't?! It's given me the confidence to change major parts of my life, again, something I never thought would happen.
    The list is endless but it's strange, to look at before and now photos (nearly 50lbs down), I honestly can't see much of a difference, but something big has definitely changed!
  • MaroneLotz
    MaroneLotz Posts: 43 Member
    It is simply wonderful to read all the positive changes. I have realised that when I am in a positive frame of mind, I actually get better results! What does saddens me, is how more than one person commented on how people now treat them differently/bettter than before. Society can be extremely judgemental. I have also found that people in general now notice me, where previously I was basically invisible. Quite ironice though, seeing that I was quite VISIBLE with the obese body. After many years of struggling with low selfesteem, I have finally fallen in love with myself! I see my weightloss journey as a holistic process which have had positive effects on most areas of my life (I can ditto on the shoe size and sex subject lol).

    I am very proud of each and everybody who have claimed an abundant life by making the decision to be healthy. Keep up the great work!
  • MaroneLotz
    MaroneLotz Posts: 43 Member
    spurlockj wrote: »
    I just feel better in general. I feel more positive about everything. People who have never been heavy just don't understand the constant toll you're under when you're obese. I sure didn't even while I was, all I know is that I'm not miserable anymore. People treat me nicer and I feel attractive for the first time in my adult life.

    Can totally identify with you. It's so sad, except for the part where you feel attractive now. Look at yourself in the mirror, point and say "You are one handsome dude!" ;)
  • MaroneLotz
    MaroneLotz Posts: 43 Member
    davert123 wrote: »
    For me the question is most probably the wrong way around. Things changed which allowed me to keep losing , namely my whole attitude on health, fitness and who I am. Hanging around mfp , well more accurately, hanging around the right people on mfp, taught me that the biggest thing wrong wasn't the fat around my waste but the stuff between my ears. I used to look at sporty people and want to be them but I would try and do so by crash dieting and nothing else. The realization dawned on me that if I want to be sported I need to be sporty - it really is that simple. To me sporty means I engage in activity, I train and I learn about how my body works. Without this I would have just been a fat person wishing to be thin instead of a healthy fit person. I chose a sport - Triathlon, and I'm training now with a purpose. I am sure healthy people are not obsessed about losing weight but could be about their sport. For me now my sport goals are more important than my weight goals (although my weight goals are important to my sport goals :-). I am still a budding triathlete but I've entered a race and I'm now working towards this. I understand myself more as well. I like challenging myself because I realize I am not going to win anything so I've decided to enter a really hard one with the aim of winning by finishing :-) Without this transformation I would have behaved just like usual and I would still be over eating and getting even fatter than I was.

    Just love the way you are looking at this! I see my progress as a holistic process.
  • Qskim
    Qskim Posts: 1,145 Member
    This is an awesome thread! Can relate to so many comments on here.
  • workout_ninja
    workout_ninja Posts: 524 Member
    I became very active on my journey to lose weight, i took up running and going to the gym to the point where i work out 5 days a week. It gave me all this new-found confidence that I joined an amateur theatre group and act on stage (first play in 5 days time EEEK!!) As well as working full time, and being a mum, and all the fitness PLUS my theatre group, Im so busy, but i sleep well at night because of all the exercise. The only drawback I found is that I now cant abide lazy people. I used to be a lazy girl but now I know there is so much more to life and it actually bugs me when friends are missing out cause they want to sleep all day and watch tv the rest of the time! So Ive lost some friends!!!!
  • summerhaze71
    summerhaze71 Posts: 1,204 Member
    edited November 2014
    amf0324 wrote: »
    The shoe size thing is funny -- totally unexpected, but definitely a "side effect" of weight loss!

    I have only lost 30 lbs so far but I went from wearing a 7.5 shoe in high school to nearly wearing a size 9 at my heaviest. I never once thought it was due to my weight increase. For some reason, I had convinced myself that your feet just kept growing as you got older.

    The other day I was trying on shoes and gravitated to size 8 or 9, and was surprised that they were all too big!! Back in 7.5!!! That was definitely a revelation of the changes that are starting to happen.
  • kmca1803
    kmca1803 Posts: 77 Member
    So many great results here! For myself, sweating and chafing less (gross I know, but true!), definitely the shoe size thing and I seem to be able to regulate my temperature better now my metabolism is fired up. I used to have cold fingers and toes all the time before, but now I don't seem to notice it so much.
  • ticktanker
    ticktanker Posts: 9 Member
    cannot believe it - apart from the usual e.g. clothes, shoes etc - i now find that my glasses actually fit perfectly, had been struggling for many years for a pair that fit nicely, i can now go on & just replace the lenses & keep the frames
  • LACnessMonster
    LACnessMonster Posts: 25 Member
    I've lost about 100 lbs. Confidence increased. The way I felt about my body changed. I can run a lot, fast and for long distances. I enjoy it. I gained self control (sort of) over food. I can lift. I have a killer set of legs. I joined roller derby. I've set my sights on bigger and badder things. I became less afraid of being alone and doing things by myself, not that it wasn't an issue, I just have shut down all the anxiety that goes along with it. I learned to be my own advocate. Really there's not a whole lot of bad things that have happened since I dropped weight.
  • justaboat
    justaboat Posts: 17 Member
    edited November 2014
    It seems that the more weight I lose, the more depressed I get :/ (is this just me or do others feel this way?)
  • summerhaze71
    summerhaze71 Posts: 1,204 Member
    justaboat wrote: »
    It seems that the more weight I lose, the more depressed I get :/ (is this just me or do others feel this way?)

    I wonder if some of that is due to hormone changes as our body attempts to regulate itself?

    Sometimes I look in the mirror and although I am 30 lbs down, I don't see a huge difference. I still see the problem areas and although they don't look to be getting any smaller, my clothes are too big, so I know they are shrinking. I just can't see it yet.
  • fat2strongbeth
    fat2strongbeth Posts: 735 Member
    My confidence is what has changed the most!! I also have a lot more energy.
  • Ninkyou
    Ninkyou Posts: 6,666 Member
    I have more confidence, I feel better about myself, I feel more attractive, I feel like I can pick out a piece of clothing and actually have a chance of looking good in it (and it's not plus-sized), and....

    I was able to get pregnant. When I was Obese, my period/ovulation was pretty much non-existent, and what I did get was completely untrackable.

    I got to my first major goal (155 lbs) and we started trying as soon as I reached it. Got pregnant first time trying. My weight has been holding back my family plans for far too long.

    Bonus is that I've gained a little more than half of what I did with my first child. At 32 weeks in my first pregnancy I was up 35 lbs (gained 45 total), at 32 weeks this time, I'm sitting at 16.6 lbs gained. The difference is staggering. I can't even imagine what pregnancy would be like for me if I still had all the weight on me.
  • d3gus
    d3gus Posts: 97 Member
    Ninkyou congratulations on your pregnancy and its wonderful that you are looking ahead to having a baby and being fitter and stronger to deal with everything.

    Me, I have lost 31lb so far, around another 70 to go! I do find that i have more energy now, but still have that mini me sitting on my shoulder telling me that i am still fat, look crap in clothes and are not worthy! I am waiting for the day that that will go away :)
  • jgnatca
    jgnatca Posts: 14,464 Member
    I got a big confidence boost, and I am a little energizer bunny now. I am out most nights doing an activity of some sort or another. Of his third habit Covey asks, "What one thing could you do (you aren’t doing now) that if you did on a regular basis, would make a tremendous positive difference on your personal life?" I've known for years it was losing weight. It is only now that I have experienced continued success.

    I have experienced the benefits I expected (increased stamina, greater mobility, higher esteem, no medications), and a few more besides (exercise is fun!). Yesterday out of the blue I got all social, chatting up everyone I met.

    Hubby hasn't changed much as I have gone through this transformation, though he happily tags along with the healthier eating, and our marriage is fine. He liked me big, he likes me now. The change has not modified the power dynamics of our relationship.
  • VeryKatie
    VeryKatie Posts: 5,961 Member
    edited November 2014
    lemon629 wrote: »
    bstoudt369 wrote: »
    Aleishia22 wrote: »
    Am I going to lose friends because I'm not the " funny fat one" anymore?

    If you do, they weren't really friends to start with and you are probably better off without them.

    I agree 100%.

    Plus, honestly, I think most of the time when people say hurtful things in a "joking" manner, they are not joking, they are telling the truth in a way they think they can get away with.

    I did not lose friends when I lost weight, but some of my friendships did have to adjust a bit.

    One of my friends lost over 100 pounds and lost quite a few friends in the process. No longer being the fat one can really alter the dynamics of superficial friendships.

    I think you should start looking for more friends who can be more supportive. And if you don't lose your old friends, wonderful, you just have more friends than you did before.

    I have a friend couple... the husband's friends all told him when he got married that they were going to dump him when he has a baby. And they did :(
  • 47Jacqueline
    47Jacqueline Posts: 6,993 Member
    I stopped thinking about what I eat all the time and started concentrating on the rest of my life.
  • Really great thread. Inspiring. I can relate to many of the comments. Since I've been both I feel bad for overweight people because I know first hand how painful it can be both physically and in other ways. I think I can see the pain on their bodies and faces. I wish it was easier to lose but congrats to so many people on this thread that are doing it. For all these reasons I'm very motivated to never go back to heavy.
  • obscuremusicreference
    obscuremusicreference Posts: 1,320 Member
    edited November 2014
    Aleishia22 wrote: »
    I'm in the process of losing weight and I already have friends telling me that they're not going to hang out with me anymore when I reach my goal because "I'll be too hot". They say it jokingly but I'm nervous that it may be true. Did anyone experience that? Am I going to lose friends because I'm not the " funny fat one" anymore?

    I've only lost 25 of the 70 pounds I'd like to lose, but I've experienced the loss of at least one friend. The advice that "they were superficial, you don't need them, you're better off" only works in the long run.

    I'm looking at it as the opportunity to practice self care. My closest friend in this city ignored my texts, unfriended me on facebook and apparently just rolls her eyes when my name is brought up. (Some background: we started losing weight together in August, she dropped out a few weeks later and is continuing to gain.) Rationally, I get why she did it. But it hurts more than you would expect.

    There was a time that I would have buried my sorrows in alcohol, potato chips, and ice cream. Now, I'm exercising more and watching more comedies. This is how I want to cope with my heartaches from now on.

    To the OP: I feel more energetic and healthier, plus I notice that there's muscle under this flab. I don't feel sexy, confident, pretty, any of that yet. I trust it will come. My depression was better until my friend "dumped" me, but now I feel back at square one. I cook more, but I've always loved cooking.
  • opalsqueak007
    opalsqueak007 Posts: 433 Member
    I no longer have 38FF boobs to carry about!
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