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Nimco4930
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Good morning everyone,
As you might imagine from the title I've had enough with myself, I need to get my act together I always feel like I have no control of what I consume these days. But all this has to stop together, I need to educate myself, I need to grow stronger, I need a stronger friends unit here, so people please add me & I will add you back I desperately need the motivation. Also I have to stop with the excuses that I live with my parents and eat what comes my way. Not to mention my sister always bakes, which I told myself last night that I wouldn't have a piece of that cake. I was good for a while till I went downstairs and before you know I cut myself a piece a small piece.
What am I to do if I can't even keep true to my own words.
Please help, advice me I want to lose the weight STARTING TODAY.
Thanks for reading.
As you might imagine from the title I've had enough with myself, I need to get my act together I always feel like I have no control of what I consume these days. But all this has to stop together, I need to educate myself, I need to grow stronger, I need a stronger friends unit here, so people please add me & I will add you back I desperately need the motivation. Also I have to stop with the excuses that I live with my parents and eat what comes my way. Not to mention my sister always bakes, which I told myself last night that I wouldn't have a piece of that cake. I was good for a while till I went downstairs and before you know I cut myself a piece a small piece.
What am I to do if I can't even keep true to my own words.
Please help, advice me I want to lose the weight STARTING TODAY.
Thanks for reading.
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one day at a time0
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Moderation can be a very difficult thing to learn when you have so many temptations around, and feel as though you have little control. But you do. You might not have much say in what is being served, but you absolutely have control over how much of it you put in your mouth. Congratulations on making the decision to do that!0
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Maybe the most important thing is not to be too hard on yourself. Yes, resolve what to do & not do, but we are all human. You said you had a small piece of the cake. That's better than going overboard & scarfing down half the cake. You may feel like you have no control because you give into these things, but you can show some restraint by only having a small amount, half a serving, etc. That is not a bad thing, because if you try to go too long without these things (especially if they're all around you because of family/friends), you might snap & go on a binge. That's happened to me. Give yourself the permission for small amounts of such things, & balance it out with more healthy things & some exercise. Like they say, moderation. It works!0
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PotentiallyCrazy makes a very not-so-crazy point. The most important thing is to develop a healthy relationship with food. That will help you not only take the weight off, but keep it off for life, without struggling or restricting or being miserable.
Food should never be a source of guilt or shame unless you stole it. There is no good/bad or black/white scenario with food. Everything you eat (or do, for that matter) is on a scale from not so healthy to very healthy. It's much more nuanced than good food or bad food. Remove those labels from your vocabulary. See also: cheat day/meal. You're a grown up. You can make a grown up decision to make an exception to your eating plan, and you're not cheating on anything because you are answerable only to yourself. Obviously, in order to lose the weight, you wouldn't want to make that exception every day, but eating over your calories is nothing to beat yourself up over, or get upset about. All you're doing is delaying the day you reach your goal, not ruining anything or undoing progress or committing any kind of sin.0 -
fearlessleader104 wrote: »one day at a time
Thanks I know, after reading everyone's reply and reading back the post I started, I can see that I was quite harsh on myself, I guess it comes from feeling a bit down that I have yet to drop what I intended to lose if that makes sense.
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SnuggleSmacks wrote: »Moderation can be a very difficult thing to learn when you have so many temptations around, and feel as though you have little control. But you do. You might not have much say in what is being served, but you absolutely have control over how much of it you put in your mouth. Congratulations on making the decision to do that!
Thanks Snuggle, I now understand, I guess I thought I could have some control but your right I need to understand that temptations are all around is it is how we handle them. Also from now on I will try and be less harsh on myself and learn.
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PotentiallyCrazy wrote: »Maybe the most important thing is not to be too hard on yourself. Yes, resolve what to do & not do, but we are all human. You said you had a small piece of the cake. That's better than going overboard & scarfing down half the cake. You may feel like you have no control because you give into these things, but you can show some restraint by only having a small amount, half a serving, etc. That is not a bad thing, because if you try to go too long without these things (especially if they're all around you because of family/friends), you might snap & go on a binge. That's happened to me. Give yourself the permission for small amounts of such things, & balance it out with more healthy things & some exercise. Like they say, moderation. It works!
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SnuggleSmacks wrote: »PotentiallyCrazy makes a very not-so-crazy point. The most important thing is to develop a healthy relationship with food. That will help you not only take the weight off, but keep it off for life, without struggling or restricting or being miserable.
Food should never be a source of guilt or shame unless you stole it. There is no good/bad or black/white scenario with food. Everything you eat (or do, for that matter) is on a scale from not so healthy to very healthy. It's much more nuanced than good food or bad food. Remove those labels from your vocabulary. See also: cheat day/meal. You're a grown up. You can make a grown up decision to make an exception to your eating plan, and you're not cheating on anything because you are answerable only to yourself. Obviously, in order to lose the weight, you wouldn't want to make that exception every day, but eating over your calories is nothing to beat yourself up over, or get upset about. All you're doing is delaying the day you reach your goal, not ruining anything or undoing progress or committing any kind of sin.
Thanks Snuggle, really great advice and at times I do feel like I make myself feel guilty especially mentally I regret it which is obviously not healthy. Life is hard!!0 -
Maybe it is a good idea to get a tiny plate and when they cook some good looking meal, you can get a little amount to that tiny plate so that you can feel the taste. I am on a strict diet but of course I miss foods I like so I only eat a little bit of them. Today I will eat half an isler cookie.0
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Maybe it is a good idea to get a tiny plate and when they cook some good looking meal, you can get a little amount to that tiny plate so that you can feel the taste. I am on a strict diet but of course I miss foods I like so I only eat a little bit of them. Today I will eat half an isler cookie.
thanks
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I have a few smaller plates and special bowls to present food in a beautiful way. I think it helps with satiety when you make your food special...use smaller servings, make them pretty, eat mindfully without trying to multitask. Try not eating in front of the TV or computer. A smaller but beautifully presented meal eaten slow enough to savor is often way more satisfying than a bigger meal eaten in a rush while distracted.0
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You hit the nail on the head when you said its about education. You need the knowledge to enable you to see exactly why you should be doing things and how to achieve it. Without that your inner mind can help persuade yourself to take the easy route.
the stickies on these forums are always a good start. Just two phrases you use:I've had enough with myself
Actually its not yourself you have had enough of but the situation. You need to be kind to yourself and supportive if you want to get from A to B. Blaming and recriminating is pointless, supporting, hinesty and self motivating will get you further.I have no control of what I consume these days
Yes you do. You make choices all the time. Just make the choices that point towards target and be determined about it.0 -
i am very proud of you. you cut yourself a small piece of cake, instead of the giant piece that you probably wanted. that shows a lot of willpower.0
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I baked a ridiculous cake this weekend...I ate a slice after lunch today. Not a big deal. It's all about moderation. You can completely eliminate all the foods you enjoy & be miserable (and then beat yourself up when you inevitably "slip up"), or you can find a way to make room in your daily calorie budget to fit in something you really want.0
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Quit beating yourself up over one small piece of cake. You're allowed to have cake. You're allowed to have anything you want as long as you don't go overboard. I never deny myself food but I've learned to eat in moderation. This isn't a jail sentence. This shouldn't be about denying yourself. You can lose weight and enjoy life at the same time. I promise.0
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You hit the nail on the head when you said its about education. You need the knowledge to enable you to see exactly why you should be doing things and how to achieve it. Without that your inner mind can help persuade yourself to take the easy route.
the stickies on these forums are always a good start. Just two phrases you use:I've had enough with myself
Actually its not yourself you have had enough of but the situation. You need to be kind to yourself and supportive if you want to get from A to B. Blaming and recriminating is pointless, supporting, hinesty and self motivating will get you further.I have no control of what I consume these days
Yes you do. You make choices all the time. Just make the choices that point towards target and be determined about it.
Thanks Tigger, I am now seeing this more clearer, and I went to the gym this morning need to log it, and it's a new day, so here I come
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Capt_Apollo wrote: »i am very proud of you. you cut yourself a small piece of cake, instead of the giant piece that you probably wanted. that shows a lot of willpower.
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I baked a ridiculous cake this weekend...I ate a slice after lunch today. Not a big deal. It's all about moderation. You can completely eliminate all the foods you enjoy & be miserable (and then beat yourself up when you inevitably "slip up"), or you can find a way to make room in your daily calorie budget to fit in something you really want.
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Quit beating yourself up over one small piece of cake. You're allowed to have cake. You're allowed to have anything you want as long as you don't go overboard. I never deny myself food but I've learned to eat in moderation. This isn't a jail sentence. This shouldn't be about denying yourself. You can lose weight and enjoy life at the same time. I promise.
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The idea of using little plates is a very good one! I try to do this. Or use a larger plate but try to fill at least half of it with veggies. I've learned that adding veggies is a good strategy. Granted, it's easier if you like veggies...
Something I used to do when packing a sandwich to take to work: instead of making a regular sandwich, I used just one slice of multigrain bread (something with fiber in it) cut in half, with a normal serving size of meat (usually turkey or chicken), & then piled on the veggies... lettuce, spinach, tomato, cucumber, sprouts.. Then I started having carrot sticks or apple slices on the side instead of chips. Much more filling, & involves a lot more chewing, so it gives your body a little more time to process the fact that it's getting filled up. It takes your body some time to figure out that it's not hungry anymore. Weight Watchers (I used to be in) advises their members to put their fork down between bites & chew longer, instead of mindlessly gulping the food.0
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