Married to a junk food junkie
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I have a feeling that this thread on the forums is just gonna keep going downhill because some people (men) must be bitter af.
Ladies thank you for the constructive answers and ideas. And some healthy venting. The healthy sirracha meatloaf was a hit that I got the idea from the turkey one posted on here was a great success and I will try some of the others too.0 -
I have a feeling that this thread on the forums is just gonna keep going downhill because some people (men) must be bitter af.
Ladies thank you for the constructive answers and ideas. And some healthy venting. The healthy sirracha meatloaf was a hit that I got the idea from the turkey one posted on here was a great success and I will try some of the others too.
Yep. The people who disagreed are all just bitter, woman-hating men who promote rape culture and patriarchy.
www.youtube.com/watch?v=exDL-DAdrvQ0 -
I have a feeling that this thread on the forums is just gonna keep going downhill because some people (men) must be bitter af.
Ladies thank you for the constructive answers and ideas. And some healthy venting. The healthy sirracha meatloaf was a hit that I got the idea from the turkey one posted on here was a great success and I will try some of the others too.
Yep. The people who disagreed are all just bitter, woman-hating men who promote rape culture and patriarchy.
www.youtube.com/watch?v=exDL-DAdrvQ
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blktngldhrt wrote: »Lourdesong wrote: »Make stuff he likes and you eat a smaller portion to make it healthy/less caloric. If you want to eat the same things, someone has got to budge - is he on a diet? If not, then you should budge, imo, or just eat different things at dinner time.
why should she be the one to budge? that sounds ridiculous. she is the one putting the effort in to make the meals. it doesnt sound like hes giving her any input to help her make something he would enjoy when she asks. if he doesn't like the food, he can make his own.
It sounds ridiculous because you ignored a major premise:
Desires husband to like what she makes for dinner. (i.e. not doctor her cooked meal with salt, turn it into a sandwich, etc.)
Presumably she doesn't want to prepare 2 meals. She wants her husband to like what she cooks.
She didn't ask for marital advice or for anyone's opinions on her husband and her marital roles.
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Man, way to just totally prove her point.
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It's like the knights who say ni.
Man, way to just totally prove her point.
"He said IT again!"
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Lady, I know you've not been around a bit, but check this out.I have a feeling that this thread on the forums is just gonna keep going downhill because some people (men) must be bitter af.
Ladies thank you for the constructive answers and ideas. And some healthy venting. The healthy sirracha meatloaf was a hit that I got the idea from the turkey one posted on here was a great success and I will try some of the others too.
Yep. The people who disagreed are all just bitter, woman-hating men who promote rape culture and patriarchy.
www.youtube.com/watch?v=exDL-DAdrvQ
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I have a vag, am not bitter, and I agree with everyone saying let him eat the sandwich.I have a feeling that this thread on the forums is just gonna keep going downhill because some people (men) must be bitter af.
Ladies thank you for the constructive answers and ideas. And some healthy venting. The healthy sirracha meatloaf was a hit that I got the idea from the turkey one posted on here was a great success and I will try some of the others too.
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He is a grownup, let him eat what he wants and stop caring about it.0
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I have a feeling that this thread on the forums is just gonna keep going downhill because some people (men) must be bitter af.
Ladies thank you for the constructive answers and ideas. And some healthy venting. The healthy sirracha meatloaf was a hit that I got the idea from the turkey one posted on here was a great success and I will try some of the others too.
I'm a woman and my answers have pretty much been on par with those given by men. You just seem to not want to listen to everyone's comments, namely the ones that are telling you to stop trying to force your husband into eating things that he either doesn't want to eat or that don't taste good.
To be honest I'd probably join your husband in that sandwich too if you are being so restrictive as to what is acceptably healthy. I'm making macaroni casserole right now actually for late lunch. I put 86g of cheddar cheese on that ish, and it's a 640 calorie single serving meal.0 -
I find the OP's username interesting. Is this a way we can bypass the cuss filter?0
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I have a feeling that this thread on the forums is just gonna keep going downhill because some people (men) must be bitter af.
Ladies thank you for the constructive answers and ideas. And some healthy venting. The healthy sirracha meatloaf was a hit that I got the idea from the turkey one posted on here was a great success and I will try some of the others too.
Jeez. This is ridiculous.
Plenty of people, women AND men, are bitter. Not one response here has been the result of said bitterness.
You need to lighten up, Francis.
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Yes.Lourdesong wrote: »blktngldhrt wrote: »Lourdesong wrote: »Make stuff he likes and you eat a smaller portion to make it healthy/less caloric. If you want to eat the same things, someone has got to budge - is he on a diet? If not, then you should budge, imo, or just eat different things at dinner time.
why should she be the one to budge? that sounds ridiculous. she is the one putting the effort in to make the meals. it doesnt sound like hes giving her any input to help her make something he would enjoy when she asks. if he doesn't like the food, he can make his own.
It sounds ridiculous because you ignored a major premise:
Desires husband to like what she makes for dinner. (i.e. not doctor her cooked meal with salt, turn it into a sandwich, etc.)
Presumably she doesn't want to prepare 2 meals. She wants her husband to like what she cooks.
She didn't ask for marital advice or for anyone's opinions on her husband and her marital roles.
And this. Ana you put up a recipe for a lasagna that looked good. He can eat whatever he wants but I would like to find healthy things he may also enjoy. This is adventagous because I also don't want to have a crazy grocery bill every month. I talk with him all the time about the dinner issues but get wishy washy gray area answers.
So I thought foolishly OK others on the site probably have good ideas for recipes for picky eaters so I asked and got responses everywhere from constructive to omg to divorce him, you're fat etc etc. I have a thyroid gland disorder and am trying to prevent that from happening. I just wanted food ideas to try because sometimes some recipes do just suck.
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Eating healthier foods will take some getting used to. Make sure to season your food properly, if you aren't already doing it, because healthy doesn't have to mean bland. It is much easier to adjust to healthy food when it has good flavors than when it's bland like the frozen dinners they sell at the store.
Your husband can make his own food if he doesn't like it. He's a grown man, not a toddler who needs his own separate meals made for him.
Also keep in mind that thin doesn't necessarily mean healthy. Eating too much of certain kinds of foods (fast food, pizza, lots of sugar, not eating fruits or veggies) will eventually catch up with someone. So it's always best to eat healthier when possible. The younger you start, the easier it will be to adjust and the lower your chances will be for serious health problems (heart attack, type 2 diabetes).0 -
Yes.Lourdesong wrote: »blktngldhrt wrote: »Lourdesong wrote: »Make stuff he likes and you eat a smaller portion to make it healthy/less caloric. If you want to eat the same things, someone has got to budge - is he on a diet? If not, then you should budge, imo, or just eat different things at dinner time.
why should she be the one to budge? that sounds ridiculous. she is the one putting the effort in to make the meals. it doesnt sound like hes giving her any input to help her make something he would enjoy when she asks. if he doesn't like the food, he can make his own.
It sounds ridiculous because you ignored a major premise:
Desires husband to like what she makes for dinner. (i.e. not doctor her cooked meal with salt, turn it into a sandwich, etc.)
Presumably she doesn't want to prepare 2 meals. She wants her husband to like what she cooks.
She didn't ask for marital advice or for anyone's opinions on her husband and her marital roles.
And this. Ana you put up a recipe for a lasagna that looked good. He can eat whatever he wants but I would like to find healthy things he may also enjoy. This is adventagous because I also don't want to have a crazy grocery bill every month. I talk with him all the time about the dinner issues but get wishy washy gray area answers.
So I thought foolishly OK others on the site probably have good ideas for recipes for picky eaters so I asked and got responses everywhere from constructive to omg to divorce him, you're fat etc etc. I have a thyroid gland disorder and am trying to prevent that from happening. I just wanted food ideas to try because sometimes some recipes do just suck.
It was actually macaroni casserole, but I do make lasagna similarly (just with actual meat sauce!), although that's not important.
Then ask him specifically what dinners he wants. Or making individual meals is fine and won't increase your grocery bill unless you make so much that it goes bad. In which case either freeze it or make less.
I'm guessing he isn't picky, he just doesn't enjoy eating things that are bland or that aren't foods he likes. I don't like papaya, so I wouldn't eat a fruit salad with papaya in it. Does that make me picky? No.
You are either maintaining your weight now or trying to lose. In either case it's all about proper caloric intake. You can eat "unhealthy" and still lose weight or maintain. So perhaps if you wanted to make that mac and cheese tonight, make it normally and just add some veggies and meat in there. You don't need to turn mac and cheese into broccoli and cheese. I'm pretty sure if someone said "hey I'm making spaghetti tonight!" and I basically saw tomato soup on the table, I'd go and make my own food too.0 -
I have a feeling that this thread on the forums is just gonna keep going downhill because some people (men) must be bitter af.
Ladies thank you for the constructive answers and ideas. And some healthy venting. The healthy sirracha meatloaf was a hit that I got the idea from the turkey one posted on here was a great success and I will try some of the others too.
Misandry at its finest. Strange, since your original post paints you as the woman with the useless husband, home all day, doing nothing...or, maybe not strange at all.0 -
Chunt - I'm married to a junk food junkie as well. Despite years of trying to get her to be my accountability partner, I had to go my own way. But, we make it work. We will typically make meals that have a lean meat (chicken, beef or pork -she does not like fish so, I get it when I eat out or when she travels). Then, we will have fresh vegetables and she may want some au-gratin potatoes or a pasta/rice side (I skip those). If we eat baked potatoes, she uses butter and cheese - I use bbq sauce or salsa. And, if I have to prepare more veggies or healthy meat options, I use them in my lunch daily. And, then once a week, I "cheat". I try to stay below my maintenance calorie level but I'll eat pizza or something more decadent that we can enjoy together. Good Luck!! (ignore the haters).0
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I have a feeling that this thread on the forums is just gonna keep going downhill because some people (men) must be bitter af.
Ladies thank you for the constructive answers and ideas. And some healthy venting. The healthy sirracha meatloaf was a hit that I got the idea from the turkey one posted on here was a great success and I will try some of the others too.
Misandry at its finest. Strange, since your original post paints you as the woman with the useless husband, home all day, doing nothing...or, maybe not strange at all.
lol, +2 on the misandry.
She's not very complimentary to the person she chose to hook her wagon up to.0 -
Sometimes it helps to just go with the flow. All the years Otter cooked all the dinners (I used to be a workaholic) she had a rule of 3. If there weren't 3 people that liked the dish, the recipe got tossed. That way no one person had a veto, but the recipe file got filled with good stuff.
Now, with a smaller family, that doesn't work, so we adjusted to 1/2 votes. A like is 2 votes and a "not so bad" is one.
Another technique is to not hot things up too much for the timid. There are other flavors beside pepper, and pepper can always be added at the table. Sriracha (make sure you buy the bottle with the rooster on it), Cholula, even Frank's can have a place on the table.0 -
Otter?0
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Everyone should take a healthy meal everyday, this is the only thing which leads to get good health. Junk foods are OK to save time or for taste but its not good for health if eaten all time again and again.0
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At the end of the day, you can only control what you do. You can't control anything anyone else does. So do what you do that is good for yourself, cook one meal only (as suggested above) and if he doesn't like it, well, that's just too bad.
Make good choices for your own mental and physical health. His issues are his if he doesn't like what you've prepared out of love for him to eat.0 -
As said previously its not worth you worrying over, if he likes sandwiches have bread. Im a vegetarian and have been for all 34 years of my marriage at first due to lack of time, energy, motivation, I let my diet slide and just ate the carbs and veggies of whatever I cooked for him without the meat and within a few years went up from 148lbs to 220lbs. I now only cook healthy stuff for me, if he doesn't come grocery shopping no junk gets bought, so I now have a weekly shopping buddy! Like yours he lives on junk food, covers everything with salt or sauces, but if he ever dared criticize he would be cooking his own dinner. Another option since he doesn't work take turns, you cook one day him the next, maybe when he realizes how much work it is, he wont be so picky? Good luck and really its not worth worrying over!0
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concordancia wrote: »That is what I was thinking, too. My husband needs more calories than I do and he gets them both through extra servings of what I make and several bowls of cereal at night. Turning what you make into a sandwich sounds like a great option.
^This...
OP, you are overweight and want/need to make a change. Your husband is thin and does not feel the want/need to change anything. Would it be better if he was more supportive? Yes... that said, he is not. If he wants a sandwich, let him have a sandwich. You are his wife, not his mother...I have a feeling that this thread on the forums is just gonna keep going downhill because some people (men) must be bitter af.
Ladies thank you for the constructive answers and ideas. And some healthy venting. The healthy sirracha meatloaf was a hit that I got the idea from the turkey one posted on here was a great success and I will try some of the others too.
And you're not bitter all right...
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yep here too, mine can eat a bag of chips, chocolate and jubes in bed,,, but he is fat and knows it.I prefere to be a hottie and let him be fat... you have to WANT to lose it,,,, it will happen one day.0
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=exDL-DAdrvQ
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