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  • brewingaz
    brewingaz Posts: 1,136 Member
    Met my wife online just over 8 years ago. AOL Arizona Chat HA HA HA Nothing like old school right? This was back when it was way not cool to meet people online. But we hit it off, and are happily married. We both hesitated for a while to tell people how we met because of the questioning we'd get. Now, it's so common for people to meet online.
  • mishelnkiki
    mishelnkiki Posts: 775 Member
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    DAMN im at work and i wanna see what u could have possibly come up with for this one!
  • mishelnkiki
    mishelnkiki Posts: 775 Member
    ive done it, hasnt worked out for me yet. but i will say im still good friends with a lot of them. i still use plenty of fish dot com from time to time. but thats about the only one i use to actually dating... although i will say... theres a lot of hotties here!!! jk. most are married. sigh. ha.
  • torshi
    torshi Posts: 107 Member
    I've actually thought about doing it, but I don't think I would ever have the guts to...
  • Marcus_E
    Marcus_E Posts: 124
    That's because you are a man.
    Any reasonably attractive woman with a well-written profile gets a minimum of DOZENS of responses per day. (I used to online date and went on a lot of dates, so I had a great profile!) At first, I tried to respond to everyone but it was just impossible.
    So here are some tips:

    This is a great response and some good advice as well.. I spent ages umming and arring about doing the whole online thing, but eventually did it and have done a few times since. Been on a few dates from it, one fairly serious, but didn't pan out.. It makes it a bit easier to break the ice and meet someone you wouldn't normally..

    I find pubs/clubs etc nowadays difficult to chat to anyone, even mates, soo bloody loud (could be my age..haha), so online dating is not a bad start..

    Good luck fella - she's out there for ya...
  • sarah44254
    sarah44254 Posts: 3,078 Member
    I tried it and didn't get very many replies. Maybe 3 in a couple months. Then I just ignored it and went on with my life. I play a lot of video games, and I started emailing a friend that played a game along with me. We started a relationship, I moved across country to live with him, and in October we'll have been dating for 4 years. :smile:

    So, if the online dating sites don't work, don't feel down. You can keep trying both online and offline. You might find a great gal in a most unlikely place.

    (now that I find out I cannot cancel my online dating profile, I keep getting messages once or twice a month - I wish I could delete it!)
  • jhardenbergh
    jhardenbergh Posts: 1,035 Member
    I met my wife on yahoo personals, best decision I have ever made. My buddy put me up to doing a profile and before I knew it, I met a bunch of girls, one that moved from New York to Florida, my wife, and then several others. I never had a problem going up to a woman at the bar as long as I had a few dozen drinks in me. Those never seemed to work out though. Take it slow, my wife and I first met online on 3/20, I finally got up the stones to go out with her on 4/08, we were engaged by 12/31 that year and married come October for 4 years.
  • jhardenbergh
    jhardenbergh Posts: 1,035 Member
    I met my wife on yahoo personals, best decision I have ever made. My buddy put me up to doing a profile and before I knew it, I met a bunch of girls, one that moved from New York to Florida, my wife, and then several others. I never had a problem going up to a woman at the bar as long as I had a few dozen drinks in me. Those never seemed to work out though. Take it slow, my wife and I first met online on 3/20, I finally got up the stones to go out with her on 4/08, we were engaged by 12/31 that year and married come October for 4 years.

    We were engaged for a while before actually marrying about 20 months.
  • pinkgigi
    pinkgigi Posts: 693 Member
    I met my husband (now sadly deceased) online, and have had a profile for a couple of years since, and no luck yet.

    So I have thought long and hard about what is different this time around. Firstly, you have to have an incredibly thick skin to do it, because as you have already found out, it is a numbers game and there are a lot of players. Basically, I think you have to be prepared to put in a lot of energy to kiss a lot of frogs. I believe most people use the shotgun method, sending out lots and lots of kisses to see what comes in. I just don't want to put that much energy in any more.

    Another thing that has put me off is to see people I know on there and how they misrepresent themselves. Also, I think men my age (49) want much younger women, or a man is saying they are the same age as me and look 10 years older.

    When I was doing the online thing before, the service I was using used to have great functions, with ice-breakers and I think I had more fun/luck with meeting people face-to-face there.

    So I don't buy into the whole 'women have it easy' thing because I have not had much in the way of contact, and when I have it hasn't led anywhere.

    Good luck, it can be really good, especially if it means you gain some confidence and social skills, meeting new people is always good. Very good advice already mentioned is not to invest too much into each contact, or too soon with anyone you meet, and always, always follow the 'rules' (i.e. not identifying yourself too much in the initial meeting etc.)

    GG
  • thedisappearringman
    thedisappearringman Posts: 10
    try Plenty of Fish.com.....it's free and very easy to use............as far as getting no responses it just means they weren't the right person for you....keep trying.....you may find THE ONE...........but don't limit yourself to on-line otherwise you will be inside all the time........get out take a class do some volunteer work...you never know where you will find the right one for you........
  • ALW65
    ALW65 Posts: 643 Member
    I met my husband on Match.com and we just had our 3rd anniversary. I dated online over a 2 year time period. I had 3 relatively serious relationships via Match and met a lot of really great guys. I only met one that was a total turn-off (told me all about his ex-wife's psych problems on the first date--for the WHOLE date). The rest were all nice enough even if we only went out once, but just sometimes you know right away you're not a good fit. I agree with the earlier post that suggested looking at the "online competition" to see what's on their profiles and adjust yours to avoid the things you see that are negative. Be yourself though, as there's nothing worse than going out with someone who writes a great story in their profile, but it's too much like a resume - all fluff that makes them sound like superman instead of 'real-man'. Finally, post a good pic of yourself. If someone is going to turn you down because of a picture, you didn't want to meet that person anyhow.

    Best of luck to you dating - your story is amazing and the right person is out there waiting for you! Try to just have fun meeting new people and enjoy yourself :tongue:
  • sculptcha
    sculptcha Posts: 163 Member
    I met my best friend two years ago on a music forum (not a dating site), and we would likely be together if we weren't on different continents + broke. So, BFFs it is. I was recently held by a friend at gunpoint until I made an okcupid profile, and I have had interest, but no one has really interested me. Mostly just because I'm stuck on this other guy and being close-minded and not giving anyone half a chance.

    Actually, I did give one guy a chance a couple weeks ago, he seemed cool. Cool enough at least to ease the pain of not being able to have who I really want. We chatted and texted for a few days and then set up a date. When the time rolled around for him to pick me up and he wasn't there, I texted him to find out if he was lost, but he texted back something like "oh, sorry I lost track of time, work called me in and i can't pass up double time, sorry i didn't let you know sooner." Not a big deal, I understand not wanting to turn down extra money, but I couldn't believe he waited until after he was supposed to be there to let me know (after I had dolled myself up, and I looked ADORABLE), and not until AFTER I texted him. So, I guess you could say it put me off dating in general, not just online dating. Ok, rant over, sorry about that. :D

    I guess my point is that meeting people online is great, and you can gain lifelong friendships, like I have, but you should also keep an open mind and give people a chance even if you aren't feeling it right away. Some of the people who've contacted me seemed like really nice people, I just didn't feel the click with any of them that I felt with the guy I met on the music forum (pretty much immediately), and still feel. Stupid Atlantic ocean.
  • anubis609
    anubis609 Posts: 3,966 Member
    The extent of my online dating experience goes about as far as seeing ads for adultfriendfinder.com and fling.com. I don't "date." It's a simple choice of exploiting douchebaggery on my part.
  • pbear22
    pbear22 Posts: 32
    I met my fiance online. By accident at that, it was a social network site at that.. Who would have thought that I would meet the guy I am going to spend the rest of my life with. Honestly there are a lot of people who claim to be one thing and are not, but that goes to the same as meeting someone not online. Just go with what you know, if it doesn't feel right, it doesn't feel right for a reason.


    I would have never met my hunny if it wasn't for the site, since he lived in another state. I can say that I am truly happy that I didn't get a weirdo, trust me been on a couple first dates with some of them.. Lol..

    It is an experience that I can look back on and laugh about.

    :) Go for it, and good luck.. :) there are plenty of sites out there its all about putting yourself out there to find the right one.. You have to go through a bunch of toads before you find your frog prince.

    Not everyone gets it right on the first try..
  • vicki9168
    vicki9168 Posts: 89 Member
    I havent done online dating but did meet my other half online, but it was through a yahoo chat room. Wasnt intended to happen but did and we have been together for 9+ years.
    My ex husband did the online dating thing and he was successful.
  • thommiesgirl
    thommiesgirl Posts: 8 Member
    I met my husband through Yahoo Personals. We will be celebrating our 10th anniversary in October! We have a wonderful marriage and I would never have crossed paths with him without online dating because we lived about 100 miles apart. We are both a bit shy and we were able to become comfortable with each other through emails, etc. before we met in person. Our life together is a blessing and we are very thankful for having found each other.
  • pammbroo
    pammbroo Posts: 550 Member
    Definitely worth a try if you are looking to date. My thoughts are to keep a sense of humor (you are going to need it) and you get what you pay for. Free sites have all kinds of people (can you say freaky?) and the the more you pay for a site, I think the more serious people are about actually dating & relationships (vs. hookups, etc.). Its all in what you are looking for. An interesting ride to say the least. lol
  • Mkleder
    Mkleder Posts: 289
    Everyone is online these days, so the folks you meet there aren't any different there than the ones at the grocery store.

    Just be careful to not drag out the web only/email contact and have a face to face meeting as quickly as possible. It's too easy to pretend to be something you're not, or miss red flags when you're oline. The Internet is a great place to meet people, but relationships still have to be built with personal contact.
  • MaggiePuccini
    MaggiePuccini Posts: 248 Member
    Keep at it mate.

    I wish I were a woman, it's so easy for woman to get guys. Woman are impossible to chat up these days in a pub/club. They are so self involved. Internet dating ftw!!

    It's easy for women to get LAID. That isn't the same thing. ;)

    Absolutely, it's easy for women to get what it is that men actually want, a no strings shag. So that doesn't make women lucky! It's very difficult to get a man who is good company to want to stick around. Any good humoured man who is reasonably good company and not a gargoyle could get a girlfriend clicking his fingers, so it's "men who are lucky"
  • Jorra
    Jorra Posts: 3,338 Member
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    Margo: The last post on this thread was in May of 2011. How did you even find it, and why did you respond?
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