"You can have just one!"
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'look how slim you are, you don't NEED to work out/watch what you eat!!!'
au contraire, i'm that way BECAUSE i do that stuff.0 -
Not a peeve per se, but an observation. My mother eats like a bird, and if she has something on her plate that she can't finish, she keeps offering it to the rest of us at the table. I know it is a result of growing up poor and not wanting to waste food. I do have to tell her that we will not go to the poor farm or go hungry if she tosses out those three bites of whatever it is she doesn't have room for.0
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opalsqueak007 wrote: »Very interesting thread - "just have one". Why do people do this? They also do it when you are teetotal or have packed up cigarettes. (I have done these two). Is it because they want you to be like them? What is wrong with them? "Don't get too skinny" - I got this one today. I am 5'7'' and 150lb and built like a barn door. I could never be skinny if I tried.
Yep, "misery loves company", right? Congrats on all your healthy changes!0 -
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Yes!! Do you eat. I hate that one! Of course I eat; just not the way I use to eat.0 -
"looks like someone fell off the diet train" when I split a cookie/donut/office treat with another coworker. no, see, if I fell off the train, I'd have claimed every last bite of the treats, and I'd bite you if you tried to take one for yourself.0
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The 'just have one' thing annoys me because I just can't stop at one!! That's how I gained so much weight in the first place!!
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I read these types of threads and just shake my head. I do not have one single person around me that is a food pusher. I will not tolerate it and I think I give off a vibe that says as much.
I'm low carb and my DH doesn't have a clue what that means. He thinks I miss bread and chips and will always say, "You can have just one.". Yes, I can. I'm fully capable of doing so, but clearly you do not understand how keto affects the body. I just smile and nod. It's never going to change.
Keto is my new love
We could probably start a whole new thread on the stupid stuff people say when they find out we're doing keto, eh?
Like the ever-classic "OMG, you're going to have a heart attack eating like that!" (though the jaw-through-the-floor look of disbelief when you respond with the fact that your cholesterol numbers improved drastically after starting almost makes up for it)0 -
Me too- if I give in to a treat (that wasn't planned) I still have that mentality of "I've blown it so I may as well have another cake now as well". My sensible self knows this is wrong but I just can't help it:(tracyannk28 wrote: »The 'just have one' thing annoys me because I just can't stop at one!! That's how I gained so much weight in the first place!!
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opalsqueak007 wrote: »Very interesting thread - "just have one". Why do people do this? They also do it when you are teetotal or have packed up cigarettes. (I have done these two). Is it because they want you to be like them? What is wrong with them? "Don't get too skinny" - I got this one today. I am 5'7'' and 150lb and built like a barn door. I could never be skinny if I tried.
Yep, "misery loves company", right? Congrats on all your healthy changes!
Thanks so much
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I've noticed that, too. I can easily switch a conversation from the topics of My Body and What I Did (am doing) to Diet Tips with most women.lemurcat12 wrote: »I don't really mind any of it much, but probably "How much did you lose" which seems overly personal (no, I'm not telling you how much I weighed--I typically just say "lots" but some people keep pressing for details). It used to bug me when people would ask "how did you lose the weight"--I'd typically say "the usual, exercise, eat less," but increasingly I'm realizing that the people who are pushiest about this question usually are interested in losing too, which has made me more tolerant and willing to talk about it in more detail.
The ones who want to swing back to What I Did are almost always obese. They really want to know. Then I'll go more into it. (Not that I think I'll be the tremendous help they seek, but they have their reasons for asking and it's no sweat off my brow, KWIM?)
People always ask how much you've lost and what you weighed. If you said, "Tell me what YOU weigh," they'd be put off...but asking us is hunky dory. I've come to decide that they're bad at math and don't realize what they're asking, lol. 0 -
I have some more that I have heard in the last week. Please allow me to get them off my chest:
"You can't keep your face and figure after 50 you know!" (Thanks for that one)
"Careful, you might get "gaunt" (really, when I have cheeks like a hamster?)
"You were never fat in the first place" (I was obese actually)
"You looked fine as you were" (I'm not doing it for vanity but for health)
I liked you better chubby and jolly. (eh?)
Where have your boobs gone? (How rude)
I like big curvy women like you were (well, you carry 194lb about at 5'7 then)
Careful, you'll put it back on like they all do (Well gee thanks)
When are you going to stop? (Why do you care...)
Ahh, that's better! 0 -
" you need to stop, you look sick" at 5'11" and 170lbs0
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I don't mind if someone asks me once, "are you sure?" or "Just one?" I'm Italian, I get it, we always want to make sure someone isnt hungry. But it gets annoying when I'm pushed beyond the normal because I can feel my willpower weakening and I have to stop and envision what I want for myself and try to understand where the other person is coming from. Luckily, I've been very good around here at work considering the holiday and retirement parties. I've "splurged" by trying a small portion of something once or twice (nothing off limits unless extremely processed). People are always amazed when I do that, or turn it down completely.0
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prattiger65 wrote: »" you need to stop, you look sick" at 5'11" and 170lbs
That is utterly ridiculous. You look great. The thing is, in some places, people are used to people being fat - the average size of a young woman walking around the shops near me is about 200lb. If everyone looks like that, they think it's normal.
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I have had the following
"How much have you lost?"
"You are fading away". Um no I am not! and lastly my favourite
" you have made a great start but still have a long way to go"0 -
I read these types of threads and just shake my head. I do not have one single person around me that is a food pusher. I will not tolerate it and I think I give off a vibe that says as much.
I'm low carb and my DH doesn't have a clue what that means. He thinks I miss bread and chips and will always say, "You can have just one.". Yes, I can. I'm fully capable of doing so, but clearly you do not understand how keto affects the body. I just smile and nod. It's never going to change.
Keto is my new love
We could probably start a whole new thread on the stupid stuff people say when they find out we're doing keto, eh?
Like the ever-classic "OMG, you're going to have a heart attack eating like that!" (though the jaw-through-the-floor look of disbelief when you respond with the fact that your cholesterol numbers improved drastically after starting almost makes up for it)
My absolute favourite that I could wet myself laughing over is "you're going to get fat eating like that" best thing is it's usually said after someone asks me about the 100+lbs I've lost.0 -
therealklane wrote: »"Damn, girl. How much did you weigh before?"
Kind of a slam to the ego when you can tell they're thinking 'you've lost 111 lbs and you're still big'
I had someone say "omigod, you've lost 300 pounds!" Well, no, I was still pretty far from 300 total at my heaviest, but nice to know I appeared even heavier! To be fair, this didn't actually bother me in that I know it just came out wrong and the person meant it in a positive way, but I thought it was pretty funny.0 -
Ugh. Food Pushers, the worst!0
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"How can you eat mcdonalds and be so skinny?!"
I eat mcdonalds maybe 4 times a year? even if it didn't fit my calories that's not often enough to do harm haha0 -
I've come to decide that they're bad at math and don't realize what they're asking, lol.
Heh, that's a good approach.
Back when I lost weight the one other time I did I was working with this older man on one project (working with in a kind of adversarial way, not at the same company), and he would not stop talking about how much better I looked and would announce to others stuff like "Ms. cat is in fighting trim!" It kind of creeped me out, so when he asked what I'd done I insisted it was all due to kickboxing.
My other favorite this time was our company's regular cleaning person who asked me what I'd done and I said my usual and she said "no, not a regular diet!" and then later asked me if I'd had surgery. The next time I saw her, though, she started talking about how she wants to lose weight and asking for more specifics.0 -
I don't give a flying fig what anyone says or thinks about what I'm doing. We all make our own choices. I know what I need to do and where I want to be. If someone thinks it's too thin or too muscular or whatever, that's his/her problem.
What people say/think has more to do with them than me. Some people aren't comfortable with someone losing weight because it makes them feel bad about themselves. Or they have a hard time dealing with the thought that someone is more active or dedicated. I told this one coworker that I wanted to have a body similar to a figure model (in the "offseason", lol; not depleted and in competition mode) and she said "oh please, do you know how hard they work to get those bodies"? Uh, no... I thought they just ate broccoli and woke up that way. Like she couldn't fathom that 1) I knew about what their nutrition and workouts entailed or 2) I could actually dedicate myself to something like that. I just shook off her comments or, better yet, used it as motivation for my fitness goals.
My 47 years on this earth have shown me that people open their mouths and say stuff and don't remember or realize the impact of their statements 5 mins later. But meanwhile, the target of their comments is obsessing or stressing out about it for days/years. No thanks.0 -
Someone I know is obsessed with what they eat. They misplace their guilt onto other people all the time. Eating around them is becoming an uncomfortable experience that I've started dreading.
If I've allowed for a small bag of baked corn crisps (less than 100 calories) I get comments like "oh that's healthy...NOT!" or "I thought you were on a diet? I guess that's over then"
As they proceed to guiltily and secretly eat 4 servings of cake.
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Oh, and my favourite "Where's that chocolate you bought? Eaten it all already, have you?"
Just because that's something you do, doesn't mean I do the same, damnit!0 -
I HATE it when people tease me about what I eat, especially if they know I was losing weight.
"Issa, watch out! That's got like a zillion calories!"
"Are you sure you're gonna eat that?"
"You're too skinny already, it's getting ugly."
"Can you eat more for once?"0 -
'Just one won't matter' this is what I got this morning when I was discussing about biscuits last night (I had already had two which were within my allowance). I was discussing weight loss with my dad but it falls on deaf ears. One biscuit for me could make me jack it all in, I'm very strict with myself and I've lost 70lbs and managed to keep it off for over 5 years now I'm just wanting to lose a bit more. I hate it! Some people just don't seem to understand!!!!0
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Fortunately I've been a picky eater all my life, so no one really notices that I've just cut down my portions and things like that. Though my mother drives me crazy. My step-father is overweight (talking at least a hundred pounds) and has been told by his doctor he needs to start losing some of it to take the stress off his already arthritic joints. Rather than helping, when I suggest smaller portions (because I know I can't get him to stop eating high-calorie things) she says things like "That's not nearly enough for him."
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I read these types of threads and just shake my head. I do not have one single person around me that is a food pusher. I will not tolerate it and I think I give off a vibe that says as much.
Yeah, I don't either. Not to that extent at least.
My pet peeve is more "you're getting too skinny". And here is what pisses me off the most-when a person who is the same height as me, but still 15-20 pounds lighter, says I'm getting too thin. One time I responded with "So, how tall are you? How much do you weigh? Okay...so I'm not allowed to be as thin as you?"
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"well that is fine I guess but I want to ENJOY my life."0
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