Am I doomed to be overwight forever? Why am I not normal
acceann
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I am going to try and make this rant as short as possible. I just feel really fed up with my failures. I tried everything. Moderation, no counting calories to counting calories. Restricting food to not restricting foods. Eat healthy foods. Cheat meals turn to cheat weeks. I really am at lost for what to try. I don't get it, is it me? Am I just meant to be fat forever? Has anyone ever been in the same boat as me?
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Counting calories works! You eat at a deficit, you lose. Do NOT restrict, do something sustainable. You can do it!0
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Kiera: NO...you are not doomed. If anything, the FOOD INDUSTRY has doomed us with all the fads and claims over the years. I highly recommend getting Dr. Hyman's book...The Sugar Solution or The Sugar Impact by JJ Virgin. THESE two authors have done more to REEducate me...FAT does not make you FAT. SUGAR makes you fat. Stop eating FAT FREE items because read the labels to see ALL THE SUGAR added for taste.-21
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Kiera: NO...you are not doomed. If anything, the FOOD INDUSTRY has doomed us with all the fads and claims over the years. I highly recommend getting Dr. Hyman's book...The Sugar Solution or The Sugar Impact by JJ Virgin. THESE two authors have done more to REEducate me...FAT does not make you FAT. SUGAR makes you fat. Stop eating FAT FREE items because read the labels to see ALL THE SUGAR added for taste.
No, eating more calories than you burn makes you fat.
OP, try counting calories again. Purchase a food scale to make sure you're really eating the amount you think you are and log everything that goes into your mouth. That's all there is to it.0 -
I used to think like you. Then I STUCK to a plan, and now I'm nearly at my goal weight.
Barring any medical conditions, then it's pretty simple. .. calories in V calories out.0 -
Kiera: NO...you are not doomed. If anything, the FOOD INDUSTRY has doomed us with all the fads and claims over the years. I highly recommend getting Dr. Hyman's book...The Sugar Solution or The Sugar Impact by JJ Virgin. THESE two authors have done more to REEducate me...FAT does not make you FAT. SUGAR makes you fat. Stop eating FAT FREE items because read the labels to see ALL THE SUGAR added for taste.
NO! again, caloric deficit and you'll lose.0 -
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Kiera: NO...you are not doomed. If anything, the FOOD INDUSTRY has doomed us with all the fads and claims over the years. I highly recommend getting Dr. Hyman's book...The Sugar Solution or The Sugar Impact by JJ Virgin. THESE two authors have done more to REEducate me...FAT does not make you FAT. SUGAR makes you fat. Stop eating FAT FREE items because read the labels to see ALL THE SUGAR added for taste.
No.
No.
No.
No.
Just no.
Take your advertising somewhere else, thanks.
Eating in a deficit works. You just have to decide to stick to it. Nobody can make that decision but you.
Here's a helpful link about TDEE, BMR and finding a healthy balance of eating the most calories you can and still lose weight. Hang in there OP! Good luck.
http://community.myfitnesspal.com/en/discussion/974889/in-place-of-a-road-map-short-n-sweet0 -
Here are THE FACTS about consistent and long lasting weight loss. EAT properly, eat in moderation, eat regularly (none of this restrict to severe diets...as you know...they do not last). Our bodies are still designed for the days of hunter/gatherers. Our bodies have thousands of years of survival...Modern day living has ruined our eating habits and exercise habits. WE rarely walk long distances. I look at pictures of my mom/sister who were raised during the Depression and WW II. THEY were all very thin...it was RARE, RARE, RARE to see an overweight person, much less OBESE people. They walked. They worked in gardens. They chopped wood. THEY ate regular meals made from whole foods not over processed by some huge food giant. BACK TO BASICS....-9
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I can SO relate!!
You are NOT alone. I am addicted to food. At just 8 years old I overate crab legs my dad brought home one day and made myself so sick I threw up!! I haven't eaten a crab leg since. It put that bad of a taste in my mouth. LOL. I have always been the type that can pass up the cake, cookies, pie, ice cream, etc. but show me chicken, pizza, steak, whatever kind of food and I will eat... and eat... and eat!! 
I have been fat since I was 11 or 12 years old. I just turned 38 in November. I have had my ups and downs as any yo-yo dieter can relate. I usually get halfway to goal and then hit a plateau and can't pull the engine back on the track if ya know what I mean!
I am really going to stick with it this time. Because even old dogs CAN learn new tricks!! 
Send me a friend request if you'd like.
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hey
Don't lose heart! We're human, and we fail. Sometimes, many times. Allow yourself that. Remember that this is a learning process, and know that you'll make mistakes. HOWEVER, learn from the mistakes. Identify and avoid the triggers. Focus on creating new good habits, a new lifestyle, new things that bring you joy - NOT just food. You'll get there!
PS - It's worth it to get checked out by a doctor for pre-existing medical conditions (thyroid/hormonal/otherwise) that could effect your body's metabolism. 0 -
It's just, I see these people who wake up every morning. Don't have to give an hour thought of what they are gonna eat or if it will make them fat.0
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This makes me so sad. If you don't really want - REALLY WANT - to do the hard work of losing weight, stop! Don't feel badly about yourself because you've failed to do something you don't really want to do, anyway! If you don't want to do all that hard work, just choose not to do it. Put it off and enjoy doing what you really want to do. Eat yummy food and ENJOY it!
When you really, really do want to do the hard work, nothing will stop you. You won't "cheat" because you won't want to cheat. You'll be all, "Oh, please, I'm not eating that. I intend to lose weight, thanks."
Make a choice and (whatever it is), be happy with it! Enjoy what you're doing. Life goes by fast! Have some fun. 0 -
I lost over 70lbs with MFP before gaining almost all of it back. This time, I think I've found something that works for me. And, if there's one thing I've learned, it's that where you are right now and how you feel and think and practice your attempts at fitness may not bear any semblance to how these things are a year from now. For me, right now, I have set my weight loss goal to 1lb per week. I always, always weigh my food. I do not eat 2 tablespoons of peanut butter, I eat 30g of peanut butter. This is key. This allows me to eat enough that I am not hungry enough that I need to binge. I eat very little for breakfast, a small lunch if any lunch at all, a couple of snacks during the day and then a big dinner. I always leave room for desert, feel free to browse my diary. So far, this has been working. Good luck, I hope you find what works for you soon. The important thing is just that you don't give up. I lost my way for like 2 years or something but I always planned to come back. And now I have. Again. Hopefully this time, it's for good.0
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Eating a food will not make you fat. Eating too much food and not creating enough energy to either maintain or lose weight with deficit makes you fat.
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It's just, I see these people who wake up every morning. Don't have to give an hour thought of what they are gonna eat or if it will make them fat.
Eat what you want, as long as you remain in your calorie deficit. I eat ice cream, chocolate, fast food, and pizza all the time, and I've lost 55 pounds in a year.0 -
There are fundamentally 3 things you need to be successful with weight loss, regardless of whatever plan you want to use to get there.
1. Honesty. You need to be honest about your current habits and what you're willing to put into this. This also means honesty about logging your food, which includes being precise about measuring your food and not overestimating the time or effort you spend exercising.
2. Consistency. You need to be consistently sticking to your plans every day/week/month with minimal "cheat" days.
3. Patience. You didn't gain weight overnight. It's not going to come off overnight. Stick with your plan. Be honest and consistent, and you will see progress. If you are very overweight, it will take many months or perhaps years to get your weight off. Be patient, and keep at it.0 -
You haven't lost weight because you haven't stuck to a plan for long enough to see results. You have to do it every day. (Or MOST days, anyway)
You didn't gain the weight in a month and you're not going to lose it in a month either. Buy a scale and weigh your food every day. Do it for six months and see what happens.0 -
Eat at a deficit and you'll lose weight
Weigh and measure all that you consume
Log those items properly
Calorie deficit = weight loss
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http://blog.myfitnesspal.com/win-or-learn/ Some great 2015 insight!0
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I feel the same way. I've been on and off Myfitnesspal for a while. I go through phases of healthy eating and exercise and then I give up somewhere along the way.
Four days ago ago I was lying down on my brother’s bed after stuffing rice and beans, pudding, a bowl of cereal, and a whole loaf of bread down my throat in 20 minutes after having a whole meal at a friend’s house. My stomach hurt. I was squinting my eyes and holding my hands against my aching chest. I felt so guilty and I hated myself a lot. I wanted to cry. I thought “I am never doing this to myself again.” Yet I know that that could be me again any second. I feel like I won't ever be able to give up on my bad habits....
Try to tell yourself that if you persist you will be guaranteed success. Calorie counting WILL work, if you're doing it right. When you make a mistake accept it and move on. I know that's kind of a dumb thing to say because when I overeat I want to give up because I feel like my progress has been erased. You have to be strong and occupy your mind with things other than food. You have to accept your current self.
I am 11 pounds lighter than I was at the beginning of this year. It happened without my attention. I've been dieting on and off all these months and thought I never made any real progress. I guess it’s because I feel the same way. I’m still fat, lonely, depressed, and anxious. But even this little triumph has showed me that I am capable of reaching my goal. It won’t happen in 2 weeks or 2 months. If I am diligent I’ll be there soon. I'll try my best to win against food. This is my recent realization.
Just sit down for a while and think about if you really want it. If you do, you'll get there one day. It won't happen magically. You have to work towards it. Accept that it won't be an easy road. Make peace with yourself.
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I've felt this way before! Hang in there! Cognitive Behavior Therapy (CBT) from the Beck diet really helped me. I listened to the book on tape over and over lol....things like when having a craving instead of thinking "this sucks, I want icecream" to thinking "This is hard and uncomfortable but the craving will pass. I'm getting closer to my goal"-1
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christinev297 wrote: »I used to think like you. Then I STUCK to a plan, and now I'm nearly at my goal weight.
Barring any medical conditions, then it's pretty simple. .. calories in V calories out.
Spot on. It is very easy, particularly in the world that we live in, to try multiple things and not get results. The hardest thing is finding something and sticking to it. I'm not talking about for a matter of weeks or months.
I'd suggest finding a reputable partner (eg a nutritionist, or a pt with nutrition experience), and committing to working with them for months. With my current coach I worked with her for three months, just to establish what my behaviours, lifestyle, body is like etc- before we even considered setting specific goals around weight loss etc. If you've been struggling for a long time I'd strongly recommend considering finding such a partner who can help you filter through the fads and volume of information we get exposed to, and help you stick to an approach for a considerable amount of time. While yes, I agree with what people are saying about calorific deficit- it's about learning how to do this in such a way that fits your own behaviours and life, in a way that will have long term commitment and long term goals.
good luck x
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It's just, I see these people who wake up every morning. Don't have to give an hour thought of what they are gonna eat or if it will make them fat.
Eat what you want, as long as you remain in your calorie deficit. I eat ice cream, chocolate, fast food, and pizza all the time, and I've lost 55 pounds in a year.
Oh heck no! What you eat does matter! Sure a person can lose weight on these foods but at the cost of good health. Even skinny people can have heart disease, diabetes, autoimmune responses and a myriad of other health problems related to poor diet.
I cringe every time someone in the FitnessPal community posts that all you need to do is take in fewer calories than you burn and you will lose weight. That may be true but the goal is good health and a lower weight is just one component of good health.-3 -
Drop the notion of "cheat days". When skinny people eat dessert they aren't "cheating", just eating dessert. Focus on eating healthy every day, one day at a time. When confronted with an unhealthy food it is okay to have a few bites...savor them...then log them into your food diary and keep eating healthy.-1
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Agreed.It's just, I see these people who wake up every morning. Don't have to give an hour thought of what they are gonna eat or if it will make them fat.
Eat what you want, as long as you remain in your calorie deficit. I eat ice cream, chocolate, fast food, and pizza all the time, and I've lost 55 pounds in a year.
Oh heck no! What you eat does matter! Sure a person can lose weight on these foods but at the cost of good health. Even skinny people can have heart disease, diabetes, autoimmune responses and a myriad of other health problems related to poor diet.
I cringe every time someone in the FitnessPal community posts that all you need to do is take in fewer calories than you burn and you will lose weight. That may be true but the goal is good health and a lower weight is just one component of good health.
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It's just, I see these people who wake up every morning. Don't have to give an hour thought of what they are gonna eat or if it will make them fat.
Eat what you want, as long as you remain in your calorie deficit. I eat ice cream, chocolate, fast food, and pizza all the time, and I've lost 55 pounds in a year.
Oh heck no! What you eat does matter! Sure a person can lose weight on these foods but at the cost of good health. Even skinny people can have heart disease, diabetes, autoimmune responses and a myriad of other health problems related to poor diet.
I cringe every time someone in the FitnessPal community posts that all you need to do is take in fewer calories than you burn and you will lose weight. That may be true but the goal is good health and a lower weight is just one component of good health.
and vegan's and vegetarians and paleo eating people can have those diseases as well.... so obviously your point is now gone...
People here want to lose weight - period. THAT is calories - period.0 -
I hate to be "that person" but it sounds like you're just not ready.
I thought the way you do for years. It was just too hard. Nothing would ever work and I should just give up.
One morning I woke up and thought "I can do this. I need to do this". I haven't looked back.
It needs to come from within yourself. No one can give you the motivation. I know its not the answer you're looking for, but it is what it is.0 -
What you need is a bit of confidence in yourself, a bit of success. Success breeds success. How about saying right now, I'm going to be successful at this for one week. Just one week. I'm going to weigh and measure everything, I'm going to have a calorie counted treat every day, and I'm going to eat really delicious fresh food and do an activity I find enjoyable - even if it's just dancing very privately round the living room to your favourite music. At the end of the week you will have lost weight, and even if it's just half a pound, you must give yourself huge congratulations -and then you have to repeat the process. You can plateau, you can slip, you can gain. What you can't do is stop altogether. This is a lifetime process and although it is very very tough I promise you it feels better than giving up on your weight. It's very similar to cleaning I think. It's never done, it's dull, it would be more fun not to - but what if you never cleaned yourself or your house? There are some things in life we are doomed to repeat over and over and over - weight watching is one of those.
I'd also really recommend a weekly group for the emotional support and then you will see that everyone is just like you. I'd say most of the ladies I know who've lost weight at the group I attend expected to have no success at all when they started. The joy of their success when they drop stones and stones and turn their lives round is an incredibly moving experience. You can be what you want to be. You aren't a fixed thing at all.0
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