The best advice you received.
ellisboyd1
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My first weight loss advice ever received was: "Get a hobby; Something that occupies your mind in the evenings that doesn't involve food"
On that cue, I'd always wanted to learn italian so I started. I could go for walks whilst listening to italian lessons, so it was win-win. After 3-4 months I started listening to real italian, not just beginner lessons. In english I wouldn't have listened to this particular italian podcast, seemingly designed as relationship advice for teenage girls, but it had an impact on my life:
Dating - "Be the person you want to date."
It was so simple, so true. You're looking for someone who displays certain qualities, but funnily enough so are they.
Sex - "It's not him vs her; You're on the same team."
To be blunt, I was hit and mainly miss in the bedroom until I got that advice. It just made me think differently, and sparked a trail of thought. Luckily, my fiancee only knows hot-in-the-sack me, and will never need to know about this hard learnt lesson.
So, what's the best advice you ever received? Any motivational quotes will be gratefully received!
On that cue, I'd always wanted to learn italian so I started. I could go for walks whilst listening to italian lessons, so it was win-win. After 3-4 months I started listening to real italian, not just beginner lessons. In english I wouldn't have listened to this particular italian podcast, seemingly designed as relationship advice for teenage girls, but it had an impact on my life:
Dating - "Be the person you want to date."
It was so simple, so true. You're looking for someone who displays certain qualities, but funnily enough so are they.
Sex - "It's not him vs her; You're on the same team."
To be blunt, I was hit and mainly miss in the bedroom until I got that advice. It just made me think differently, and sparked a trail of thought. Luckily, my fiancee only knows hot-in-the-sack me, and will never need to know about this hard learnt lesson.
So, what's the best advice you ever received? Any motivational quotes will be gratefully received!
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You don't need motivation to get started, you just need to get started and the motivation follows. Just go.0
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"Your child will never listen to a word you say. But he will watch everything you DO." -- My dad0
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"You are what you do, not what you say you'll do."
So applicable to literally every aspect of your life.0 -
"Be the person you want to date" - I really like that quote! Thanks honey.
Best advice... "Don't promise when you're happy; don't reply when you're angry; don't decide when you're sad."
Also... "If your goal will make you happy, JUST KEEP GOING."0 -
I don't remember the exact quote, but this thing from How I Met Your Mother struck me: after you've figured out what's the thing you most want to do in life, make your every decision in life with that goal in mind.0
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Just start.
I mean...I hated running about a year ago...the first half a mile was horrible. I was out of breath-reminded of what horrible shape I was in and felt pretty crappy. But I got to it every day. The hardest part was honestly just putting on my running shoes and going outside. Once I got started it became block by block...pretty soon mile by mile.
Getting started is often the most difficult part-just getting out the door, whether you are going to the gym, the trails or running/walking around your neighborhood...or starting to eat better. The first step is always the most difficult but also the most important.0 -
Best advice, dont get frustrated when you hit a plateau, it will start coming off again.0
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It's the process not the product that matters.0
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The most valuable advice is freely given.0
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Just start.
I mean...I hated running about a year ago...the first half a mile was horrible. I was out of breath-reminded of what horrible shape I was in and felt pretty crappy. But I got to it every day. The hardest part was honestly just putting on my running shoes and going outside. Once I got started it became block by block...pretty soon mile by mile.
Getting started is often the most difficult part-just getting out the door, whether you are going to the gym, the trails or running/walking around your neighborhood...or starting to eat better. The first step is always the most difficult but also the most important.
You're very right. I like running. I actually like the fresh air. but putting those trainers on...
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NoelFigart1 wrote: »"Your child will never listen to a word you say. But he will watch everything you DO." -- My dad
That one hit home. I'm going to remember that one.
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"Say what you mean and mean what you say" this applies to just about every part of my life.
When it came to weight loss it helped to keep this in mind so that I wouldn't make empty promises to myself. No, saying I won't have any sweets today, instead telling myself that I would limit my sweets to a certain amount and with exercise taking my time to learn how to do new things, never tell yourself you can't - cause you won't. Getting over my dislike of Bicycle Crunches, Jumping Jacks and Push Ups - Telling myself maybe one day, set a goal and work towards it.0 -
Get out of bed every day. No matter how you feel (mentally) get out of bed. Get out bed, and do your best, no matter how you feel. Realize that your best might be to make it to the sofa, and drink hot tea, and watch movies. Don't kick yourself for not doing better if it was your best. Do your best every day to eat well, if you find yourself stuffing your face with oreos, get up the next day and do better. Don't wallow in your "face stuffing oreo day". Get out of bed, and do your best the next day. Don't ever give up, don't ever give in, get out of bed, no matter how you feel. Make yourself get out of bed, and do your best. Even if you don't feel like it, make yourself get out of bed, every.single.day!
I'll add these 2 pieces of advice
Don't isolate yourself. Especially if you are struggling, or failing in eating the way you want. Log it in everyday. Even if it's 20,000 calories more than you are supposed to eat. Log in your notes for the day how your were feeling that day, what was going on. Log in your declaration that tomorrow will be better. Find, and add a motivational quote. Make sure you make notes for your good days as well. If you do that, you will be able to review your days to see what does, and does not work for you. Be it food choices, environment, or emotional triggers.
Lastly, I say run! If you are being tempted by food you do not want to eat, run! Think of it as an addict. An alcoholic may never be able to sit at a table while others are drinking. If you can't sit at the table while others are eating XYZ, then RUN! Get away from that food. If you can't make chocolate cake, without eating chocolate cake, don't make chocolate cake. RUN! Run away! Seriously! Sometimes the only way to deal with an addiction is to run. (I'm calling it addiction for lack of a better example) If you are someone who can't control the lion, you've got to run. Everyday, you've got to take that lion out of the cage, and walk it 3 times. If you don't learn when to run, you are going to have trouble with that lion.0 -
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kendalslimmer wrote: »"Be the person you want to date" - I really like that quote! Thanks honey.
Best advice... "Don't promise when you're happy; don't reply when you're angry; don't decide when you're sad."
Also... "If your goal will make you happy, JUST KEEP GOING."
That's a fantastic motto!0 -
"So what?"
Lesson learned at 12 years of age. Best lesson ever.0 -
Best weight loss advice.... BUY A FOOD SCALE! Best investment!0
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Most people trade what they want for what they want right now.
Made a huge difference in every aspect of my life.0 -
"It took time to put all the weight on, it will take time to take it all off". I have seen this on here once or twice. I constantly have to remember that I didn't put the weight on overnight, I can't expect to lose it overnight either.0
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'don't pee into the wind' helped me considerably and save much embarrassment
But in keeping with the thread 'Loving yourself is not vain, it is necessary'
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You don't need motivation to get started, you just need to get started and the motivation follows. Just go.
Yup. Along these lines, "emotion follows action". However you feel, it will change after you do the thing you need to do.
For working out specifically: do a minimum of half an hour of activity every day. Non-optional. It could be walking or stretching, doesn't matter. Those might not burn cals but they put you in touch with your body for that time, makes the whole enterprise important.0 -
I don't remember ever getting any advice other than that which I gave myself. And the last advice was, "that's enough." Which helped me stop yo yo dieting.
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You don't need motivation to get started, you just need to get started and the motivation follows. Just go.
Yup. Along these lines, "emotion follows action". However you feel, it will change after you do the thing you need to do.
For working out specifically: do a minimum of half an hour of activity every day. Non-optional. It could be walking or stretching, doesn't matter. Those might not burn cals but they put you in touch with your body for that time, makes the whole enterprise important.
true. even if its not 30 mins of awesome workout, it's something. And It helps develop the habit.0 -
"No matter what the issue, start by coming up with a plan."
Sounds strange and a bit simplistic, but this was the best advice ever. I always come back to these words in work, relationships, parenting, health and fitness, and staying calm in a crisis. It keeps the focus on the path. The plan is in no way set in stone and almost always changes, but it gets me started in what I need to do.0 -
Honestly the BEST weight loss related advice I have ever received is not really "advice" exactly, but a longtime online friend of mine lost over 100 lb on this site a few years ago, and she was one of the people I didn't picture doing that -- because she always seemed happy enough with her overweight figure (much like I was) and very unashamed and practical about things...so I was extremely intrigued due to that! I knew there had to be something to it. When she said that she'd done it using MFP I decided I should try it too. Honestly if it had been almost anyone else I "knew" I would not have listened to them about it at all! Up to that point everyone I'd known who lost a large amount of weight either started out much smaller than I was and worked out 7 days a week, or basically hated themselves "fat" and felt like they had to lose the weight or live a miserable life. That wasn't me. So anyway, for me this worked.
As for love life advice...the best I've received was from my dad, when I was about 22 and in a VERY volatile relationship with an ex-boyfriend. We fought all of the time and I would cry daily, but I thought I was madly in love...it was pretty wild & borderline abusive and my dad was NEVER the type to lecture me or try to interfere, but he just said, "Love is NOT supposed to be that hard" and it really stuck with me. Actually I think it stuck with me a bit too much, and a few years later I wound up marrying a guy I was not in love with just because it was so easy to be with him & we never fought. But I still think (now happily remarried to someone I very deeply love) that my dad's advice was very good, and very true!!
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Ataraxia81 wrote: »"It took time to put all the weight on, it will take time to take it all off". I have seen this on here once or twice. I constantly have to remember that I didn't put the weight on overnight, I can't expect to lose it overnight either.
Furthermore, I'd say the deal is actually a pretty good deal. it took only two years to lose all the weight and gain 20lbs of muscle. pretty good, given I trashed my body for probably 20 years or more0 -
NerdieMcChub wrote: »Best weight loss advice.... BUY A FOOD SCALE! Best investment!
agreed. especially for calorie-dense foods like cheese and butter, where 10 grams here or there makes a difference.0 -
Weightloss wise, a saying that has ALWAYS stuck with me is "Losing weight is hard. Being fat is hard. Choose your hard."0
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