Just had a binge, undone all my hard work and feeling deflated.
natijade
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So I've been eating better for a few weeks but I started logging on Monday. I made such a good start, eating clean, healthy cooking, gym Monday and Tuesday and even today I've done really well with just 3 small chocolates in a long, depressing meeting at work. But I've just came home and after my healthy casserole I sat down with my laptop and friends on the telly to do some work...and I just got a whole box of chocolates left over from Christmas and ate them. All of them. Undoing everything I've done so far. It was like I just couldn't stop myself, I had no control. I knew what I was doing, I knew I was ruining it but I couldn't stop. I feel awful now, like this is just going to keep happening. I just can't believe I ate them all, even half would have been bearable. I'm hoping to get a fresh start tomorrow, putting a healthy meal in the slow cooker and hitting the gym after work. I'm also starting slimming world tomorrow with a friend. But I just feel so useless right now, I'm only 3 days in and I've already messed up. I'm so cross with myself 
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Don't ever stop trying. You haven't failed. *hugs*0
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Eh it will happen. Plus 1000 calories of chocolate is just 2 days of 500 calorie deficit... You're probably still going to lose weight this week. Don't sweat it and get back on track!0
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Log every chocolate and move on.
You don't need to kill yourself at the gym everyday, in fact having a day off is better for your body so you can heal.
There is no such thing as 'clean eating' and you can eat everything you want to as long as it fits into your daily goal on MFP.
Don't be angry with yourself, we all mess up. EVERY SINGLE PERSON has not 100% stuck to their plan. You need to be flexible with yourself, shuffle food around if you need to and preparing ahead always helps
Slimmingworld may be your choice, kudos on getting a friend involved to help motivate you, can be a team, but MFP is pretty good gadget in itself and is free. Good luck!0 -
Eh it will happen. Plus 1000 calories of chocolate is just 2 days of 500 calorie deficit... You're probably still going to lose weight this week. Don't sweat it and get back on track!
True...and my deficit is already over that this week. I think I'm just worried this will happen again and again...like if I can't cope for 3 days how will I cope for months and years! At least the chocolate is gone now and I won't be buying any more, especially not in that quantity. Should have just given it away but I thought id be able to just have one or two. It wasn't even nice chocolate!
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robinrmcfal wrote: »Don't ever stop trying. You haven't failed. *hugs*
Yeah. I'm trying to think at least I've logged it and owned up to it instead of pretending it never happened. It's there and I can see it and how it's affected my weightless. Normally when I end up quitting I just pretend it never happened. I guess even posting this message is a huge step. Thank you, I needed that hug! 0 -
You haven't failed til you stop trying! It seems like a huge setback now, but it really isn't. I'm a former/recovering binger and one thing that helped me what to realise that every good decision I make over a bad one is a victory. So I had a binge in the evening? That sucks, but did I have a good, low cal breakfast and lunch? Yes? Well that's better than in the past, where the whole day was high calorie! It's a learning curve, and Rome wasn't built in a day.
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You haven't undone all your work. You said you've been eating better for a few weeks. You had some chocolate. It happens. It really does. Most of the people on here who have lost impressive amount of weight weren't perfect every day; they just had more good days than bad days. Sounds like today was a bad day. Compare that to 20 or so good days, and I'd say you are doing awesome.
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I did, I fessed up and logged them allFoodiethinking wrote: »Log every chocolate and move on.
You don't need to kill yourself at the gym everyday, in fact having a day off is better for your body so you can heal.
There is no such thing as 'clean eating' and you can eat everything you want to as long as it fits into your daily goal on MFP.
Don't be angry with yourself, we all mess up. EVERY SINGLE PERSON has not 100% stuck to their plan. You need to be flexible with yourself, shuffle food around if you need to and preparing ahead always helps
Slimmingworld may be your choice, kudos on getting a friend involved to help motivate you, can be a team, but MFP is pretty good gadget in itself and is free. Good luck! I know but I was trying to eat healthily this week to give myself a boost start. Maybe I have been a bit harsh though, I probably need to plan in some treats.
Yeah I definitely needed a rest tonight after the last 2 days. I am enjoying the gym and exercise part more than the dieting part though so that's good I guess!
I have been preparing which is why I'm so angry with myself I think. I made a plan, stuck to it and messed it up at the last minute.
Yeah I'm only going to Slimming world as I feel I need a weekly communal weigh in. I've lost weight before with mfp but only when I had a communal weigh in with people at work once a week. I've tried mfp without but I end up quitting. My friend has lost 30lb and is very committed, I know she won't let me give up. I'm planning to stick to here mostly though, just use slimming world for support, weigh in and inspiration 0 -
It happens. YOU HAVE NOT fAILED! You realized the problem, logged it, and know how it effects you. You're doing great!0
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Eh it will happen. Plus 1000 calories of chocolate is just 2 days of 500 calorie deficit... You're probably still going to lose weight this week. Don't sweat it and get back on track!
True...and my deficit is already over that this week. I think I'm just worried this will happen again and again...like if I can't cope for 3 days how will I cope for months and years! At least the chocolate is gone now and I won't be buying any more, especially not in that quantity. Should have just given it away but I thought id be able to just have one or two. It wasn't even nice chocolate!
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I can't speak for everyone, but I know very few people that could resist a box of chocolates. I'd eat it in one sitting, easily. Like you said, just don't keep large quantities in the house. When I want a treat, I go to the store and buy one serving. No matter what size I buy it's one serving
so I try to go for a reasonable serving size. Don't feel like you need to have superhuman strength. 0 -
Alatariel75 wrote: »You haven't failed til you stop trying! It seems like a huge setback now, but it really isn't. I'm a former/recovering binger and one thing that helped me what to realise that every good decision I make over a bad one is a victory. So I had a binge in the evening? That sucks, but did I have a good, low cal breakfast and lunch? Yes? Well that's better than in the past, where the whole day was high calorie! It's a learning curve, and Rome wasn't built in a day.
Thank you, that's really helpful. I did have very good, healthy meals today... I just massively overdid it on the snack side. I've still got my 5 a day at least! Which is better than not long ago when I was lucky if I got 1 in a week! Thank you, that's really helpful
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MakePeasNotWar wrote: »You haven't undone all your work. You said you've been eating better for a few weeks. You had some chocolate. It happens. It really does. Most of the people on here who have lost impressive amount of weight weren't perfect every day; they just had more good days than bad days. Sounds like today was a bad day. Compare that to 20 or so good days, and I'd say you are doing awesome.
Yeah better but not amazingly. well if I manage another... 18 good days then I'm alright. I'm sure it'll be better when I get into the swing maybe and see some results! I'm in it for the marathon not the sprint after all. Thank you for your reply, talking about the problem instead of ignoring it like I usually would is really helping 0 -
I still can't resist a box of chocolate... I've lost 80 pounds. I just don't keep the stuff I'm likely to binge on in the house. Once in a while, I'll indulge, and I go all out at Holidays and stuff my face, but it hasn't derailed me one bit!0
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MakePeasNotWar wrote: »Eh it will happen. Plus 1000 calories of chocolate is just 2 days of 500 calorie deficit... You're probably still going to lose weight this week. Don't sweat it and get back on track!
True...and my deficit is already over that this week. I think I'm just worried this will happen again and again...like if I can't cope for 3 days how will I cope for months and years! At least the chocolate is gone now and I won't be buying any more, especially not in that quantity. Should have just given it away but I thought id be able to just have one or two. It wasn't even nice chocolate!
Thanks
I can't speak for everyone, but I know very few people that could resist a box of chocolates. I'd eat it in one sitting, easily. Like you said, just don't keep large quantities in the house. When I want a treat, I go to the store and buy one serving. No matter what size I buy it's one serving so I try to go for a reasonable serving size. Don't feel like you need to have superhuman strength.
Oh thank god it's not just me! Yeah there's nothing in the house now except my daughters Christmas chocolate which I definitely wouldn't touch and one small bag of popcorn. I'm too poor to buy too much at the moment so hopefully that will help put me off any mad food splurges! Thanks so much for your reply it's so helpful to talk about it. I feel loads better just from sharing! 0 -
secondnature81 wrote: »It happens. YOU HAVE NOT fAILED! You realized the problem, logged it, and know how it effects you. You're doing great!
Thanks so much, I really appreciate this support! Onwards and upwards. Looking forward to my gym session tomorrow! 0 -
There with you....my boss has been pissing me off for two days now...so on top of avocadoes and other low card protein rich foods I had chicken and chips...kinda better than wine? Doesn't hurt your liver, right?........ Need to recover some of those calories at the gym tomorrow. But clearly its not easy to keep up healthy eating when theres stress to be dealt with...0
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There with you....my boss has been pissing me off for two days now...so on top of avocadoes and other low card protein rich foods I had chicken and chips...kinda better than wine? Doesn't hurt your liver, right?........ Need to recover some of those calories at the gym tomorrow. But clearly its not easy to keep up healthy eating when theres stress to be dealt with...
No, that's been my problem the last few years since I started my teacher training really. It's just been more and more stress and I've out on more and more and had so many failed attempts at getting healthy again. It's just finding time to exercise and avoiding stress eating, which I've ALWAYS been awful for. I can't sit on the laptop without a big bag of SOMETHING next to me. Gonna have to make sure it's a bag of carrot sticks or something! But now my best friend at work who is also a teacher has lost loads of weight and I'm like, if she can do it, so can I! Decided it's time to put my health first! 0 -
So I've been eating better for a few weeks but I started logging on Monday. I made such a good start, eating clean, healthy cooking, gym Monday and Tuesday and even today I've done really well with just 3 small chocolates in a long, depressing meeting at work. But I've just came home and after my healthy casserole I sat down with my laptop and friends on the telly to do some work...and I just got a whole box of chocolates left over from Christmas and ate them. All of them. Undoing everything I've done so far. It was like I just couldn't stop myself, I had no control. I knew what I was doing, I knew I was ruining it but I couldn't stop. I feel awful now, like this is just going to keep happening. I just can't believe I ate them all, even half would have been bearable. I'm hoping to get a fresh start tomorrow, putting a healthy meal in the slow cooker and hitting the gym after work. I'm also starting slimming world tomorrow with a friend. But I just feel so useless right now, I'm only 3 days in and I've already messed up. I'm so cross with myself
Let me tell you something that is even worse then the chocolate you ate, that is being so hard on yourself. You are human, you will not be perfect. I say this because I have been there too many times to count. I have learned that I am allowed to eat chocolates and not feel bad, I just have to do everything moderation. You can do this, but first forgive yourself, chalk it up to a glorious chocolate binge and move on. It will be OK!!
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stress does it, emotions do it, boredom does it, availability of treats does it, wanting a reward does it, WE ALL DO IT.
It's what we do next that matters.
Just keep it in today, and go on. You wrecked nothing. You are practicing a new behavior - coming back from a binge instead of giving up!! SO CONGRATULATIONS!!0 -
Thats not messing up thats a blip:
Hello, I have been on mfp for about 15 months, lost 34lbs but still have a long way to go.
Anyone is welcome to friend me but the following are MUSTS for me.
1. You log onto mfp regularly
2. You comment on post and not just use the like button.
3. The support is two way and you give support to me in return for the support I give to you.
I do delete those that do not support and comment as I want to be a supportive friend on this journey.
Good Luck to you all.
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log every calorie from the chocolate. If you want to do an at home workout since you already went to the gym today, and if you haven't eaten dinner yet. Have a huge salad. I have found that this helps me feel better after a binge and helps me not get in the mindset of oops o well what's one day.0
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Yeah I think the important thing for me is going to be to make sure I keep logging and fess up to it! 80lbs, wow that's amazing! Well doneI still can't resist a box of chocolate... I've lost 80 pounds. I just don't keep the stuff I'm likely to binge on in the house. Once in a while, I'll indulge, and I go all out at Holidays and stuff my face, but it hasn't derailed me one bit!
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Ugh. Been there, done that. One of my tricks for this kind of mindless (and then downslide) snacking is to catch myself before I start and imagine that I've already done it. Really imagine how awful it felt last time. Get those feelings you have into that moment. Then open your eyes and realize that you DIDN'T make the same mistake again. You DON'T have to log all of those extra calories! Hooray! And try to give yourself the second chance you deserve for getting past the moment. 0
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I have done it, just log it and move on.0
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I know you probably don't want to hear this but you know what even a whole box of chocolates probably didn't undo 3 days of sensible eating. Really.0
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You never fail.....until you stop trying. What matters is that you pick yourself up...EVERY TIME....AND KEEP ON GOING. Log it and move on. Tomorrow is another day...without chocolate. 0
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I'm same way, nothing I would binge on in the house for a long time. Now when my wife brings it home, I don't even touch it. It takes a long time to get to that point but is worth it when you get there but I won't pretend it is easy
Also if you have a trigger you have to figure out what it is and try to deal with it. whatever it is I hope you find the support here and from your friends and family. Maybe Next time you feel like eating the box, pick up your child, look into his/her eyes and think about it and what it would mean to your bay to have a healthy mom.0 -
Yeah, you haven't undone everything. I vote for blip.
http://www.myfitnesspal.com/blog/jgnatca/view/halting-a-binge-session-7151310 -
Chocolate is my favorite so there was a day I would do totally the same. I also get the snack attack in the evening so I plan for it.
You just got started! You'll figure it out! It's a learning process. For me, seeing those out-of-control moments, or less than great choices, in numbers in my diary was really helpful. If I can, I try to look up the calories before I eat it. If you're already in front of your computer, keep MFP open, and log it before you eat it. Makes me think twice!0 -
Take note of how you're feeling right now physically. A gross feeling in your teeth? A heavy blob of chocolate in your stomach? If there's any negative feeling in your body, take note of it. The next time something like a chocolate box comes to your mind, remember how you felt today. Then go in the kitchen, measure out a serving that fits in your calories and doesn't make you feel bad physically or emotionally, hide the rest somewhere good and inconvenient (outdoor shed, top shelf you can't reach without a chair etc.), and enjoy your portion.
You did not gain the weight in one day, you will not lose it in one day, and you will not screw this up in one day.0
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