"You have a really pretty face....."

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  • jacksonpt
    jacksonpt Posts: 10,413 Member
    "you have a pretty face" or "you're pretty" is a compliment... don't twist it based on your own insecurities.

    "you have a pretty face, but"... um, probably not so much.
  • jamieporter22
    jamieporter22 Posts: 18
    Exactly!!!!
  • SweetMegz04
    SweetMegz04 Posts: 459 Member
    edited January 2015
    Ugh I had this comment said to me by my Father's GF- indirectly (whom I dislike) she has commented on my & my sisters weight to him before and apparently always says "I have such a pretty face"
  • ucbycindy
    ucbycindy Posts: 23 Member
    edited January 2015
    I know...recently someone at work told a coworker...I didn't realize she had such a pretty face!?!? Really, could see me just the fat?!?!?! LOL OMG.

    PS jacksonpt...there are those who mean it and those who have double edged to the comment :)...the bottom line is they are right ;)...the inside is even better :)
  • nannersp61
    nannersp61 Posts: 2,315 Member
    Atarahh wrote: »
    My whole being is pretty, and more than pretty, I am gorgeous, sexy, sassy, free, confident, blessed, beautiful, and bountiful. I am worthy and I am enough! Don't discount me! I'm with you honey. Don't allow anyone to hold up their measuring stick to you.

    I shut down MF's who come at me with that "pretty face" stuff.

    Ooooh, I love "bountiful"-that really resonates with me.
  • aplcr0331
    aplcr0331 Posts: 186 Member
    edited January 2015
    So you don't have a pretty face? Or you do and don't want the compliment about it? Was it from a guy? Was he ugly or cute?

    Why do you want to lose weight? Is it bad to be overweight? Is it good to be overweight? Why don't you love your pretty and overweight entire self? If someone likes your face but thinks you need to lose some weight (which by the way you obviosluy think you do otherwise you would not be here) and you feel the same as them. How is that a bad thing?

    I'm not following.
  • nannersp61
    nannersp61 Posts: 2,315 Member
    And, you can add me too. I like my smile, my eyes and my hair, on good days. You gotta start somewhere. Wouldn't be here if I wasn't working on the rest of me.
  • RoxieDawn
    RoxieDawn Posts: 15,488 Member
    busseybl wrote: »
    Wow! That almost sounds rude to me!

    I never never never meant that to sound rude. It is actually the complete opposite - 360 degrees opposite.

    I add this comment after reading what others have now posted... People do not generally have any motives, have ill will towards another or are trying to be mean by giving someone the comment "You have a pretty face" and it's our own judgment of how we take/accept or even dismiss a compliment - or in this case a statement one says to another one.

    I used to be anorexic and people would say how thin I was! Never complimented on my face. How do you think I took that?

    It was up to me to "judge" if they were trying to be mean or have a motive in trying to make me feel bad about myself. There are really mean people out there... but in general I think there are good spirited people that mean well.. It's how we internalize it based on how we feel about our selves...

    I hope this one comes across to others as being positive unlike the poster after me thought I was being rude.



  • savila311
    savila311 Posts: 9 Member
    Add me! :)
  • Angie1212mfp
    Angie1212mfp Posts: 30
    edited January 2015
    My mother used to say me, honey you are such a pretty girl, but of you could just lose a little weight, you'd be pretty all over. ;) Gee, thanks mom... I think .. :/
    Add me.... :)
  • sheepotato
    sheepotato Posts: 600 Member
    For those of you that don't think there is a rude underpinning, you are missing the tone when it happens. It's usually said with a tinge of disappointment or pity in their voice.

    When someone (usually an older woman) tells me "Aww but you have such a pretty face" they totally mean it in that 'What a shame you are wasting your good looks by being fat" way.

    I got peculiar 'compliments' from strangers before I was a normal weight but they had a totally different tone to them. People would comment on something really specific like on my eyes, hair or complexion. No one ever said I had a 'pretty face' they said I had pretty eyes.
  • Heartisalonelyhunter
    Heartisalonelyhunter Posts: 786 Member
    aplcr0331 wrote: »
    So you don't have a pretty face? Or you do and don't want the compliment about it? Was it from a guy? Was he ugly or cute?

    Why do you want to lose weight? Is it bad to be overweight? Is it good to be overweight? Why don't you love your pretty and overweight entire self? If someone likes your face but thinks you need to lose some weight (which by the way you obviosluy think you do otherwise you would not be here) and you feel the same as them. How is that a bad thing?

    I'm not following.

    This.
    You need to relax. Now being called pretty is an insult? 'Pretty' only applies to faces really. If someone told me I had a pretty body or pretty knees I would consider it odd. Plus have you ever heard of the term 'butter face'? I have a very fit girlfriend who has been called that several times by rude a*holes. I would take 'pretty face' over that any day.
  • bigislandgrrl
    bigislandgrrl Posts: 196 Member
    The difference is this; My skinny cousin Tess is constantly told that "she is pretty", yet I'm told "you have a pretty face" - Like I said before, why comment at all? I'm sure the lady in the Safeway grocery line a couple weeks back was being sincere when she right out asked me when I "WAS DUE"!!! Completely inappropriate, even if I were pregnant. Again, WHY SAY ANYTHING AT ALL? I'm not soliciting comments or compliments about how I look, and I sure don't dish them out to others unless I'm commenting on what they may be wearing, their hairstyle or maybe their choice in jewelry, etc... Just keep your darn comments to yourselves! And no, these comments do not come from men, I am happily engaged to the man of my dreams, these come from nasty, snide women who feel the need to voice their pity. Of course I know how to take a compliment, if they don't have the tone, so no hunny, I'm not "projecting" anything, I'm calling it like it is.
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