I need help :(
loonylovegood0715
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I was doing really well, on a two month streak, lost 5 lbs! And then I started bingeing again. I've got a SERIOUS problem with bingeing.
Gained the 5 back, list the little muscle is gotten. Back to feeling sick and disliking myself every day. I'm trying to get back on track, but I don't get my support from my family.
Gained the 5 back, list the little muscle is gotten. Back to feeling sick and disliking myself every day. I'm trying to get back on track, but I don't get my support from my family.
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If you're having those feelings, maybe its time to talk to a professional.0
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I just need support. I need to talk to people who are doing what I'm doing.0
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Sweetie, the part of disliking yourself, is not healthy. Getting upset over 5 pounds is not healthy.0
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It's not just the 5 pounds, it's the fact that I've told those close to me and none if them seem to understand. That's all. Trust me I'm not the self harm type or anything
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i think talking it out sounds like a great idea. there are some support groups for people with eating issues (not full-blown eating disorders) get some help before you end up having a huge problem. take care of yourself. you're so young - you have years to
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I have done the same thing any number of times. I don't have an answer for you except to start over as soon as you can. it doesn't do any good to beat yourself up over it. I know it's hard. I do it every day. some days are easier than others. hang in there.0
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Also have a binge eating problem so I totally understand where you are coming from. Tomorrow is a new day where you can put the binge behind you and start pressing forward again(:0
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For the diet that you were on, were there foods allowed that you really enjoyed?
I'm on the Keto diet, and I can eat many foods I like (Butter, cheese, meats, nuts, salmon). The important thing is to make it your lifestyle and not a diet that is constantly stressing you out. I try to follow a plan I made from this Keto Calculator site http://keto-calculator.ankerl.com/
You have to be strong and tell yourself what to do and why you are doing it. Let's all keep progressing towards our fitness goals!0 -
I'm going to second the recommendation for professional counseling, not becuase I think there's anything wrong with you, or because I think you need it, but because I found it really helpful for myself when I was in a bad place and didn't feel like I had the support system I needed. Best of luck to you.0
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I totally understand. I recently went back to my old ways and rode the binge bandwagon for awhile. I stopped beating myself up and analyzed the situation from my head, not my heart. I knew that I tended to binge on days I did not exercise, so I exercised early in the day. I also realized that I needed a better daily routine. Once I began a better routine, things took care of themselvee. As for the support of others, it's nice to have, but ultimately you have to rely on yourself to find inner strength. We can't change others, but we can change ourselves. We have the power....no one else does.0
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Just pick yourself up and get back to logging. Learn from it. What went wrong? Can you up your daily calories goal a little to feel less deprived? Not too many of us here are lucky to have a supportive family, but you'll always find support on MFP.0
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Hi, I can imagine how you feel, I loose 14 pounds in 3 months then gain back in 1 month
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Now I give chance to protein shakes 25 grams at breakfast and midday (after 5pm I can't hold my self I have very strong craving for sweet really sweet ant that's the best time to take your 2nd shake ) snack only 120cal+ fruit of your choice 80cal (add finer some times) and you feel so full for at least 4-5 hours .0
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Try to keep in touch with your community friends
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You will achieve your goal
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GET PROFESSIONAL HELP!-3
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Enough with the talking to a professional stuff already. I think she gets the point. She just wants and needs some encouragement people.
I know what it can be like trying to be consistent and it's hard to stay on track without support. You should be able to hop on MFP and get that support. Hang in there and keep trying!
I was overweight for years and then one day something just clicked. Once that happened I figured it out and I just kept losing weight because of how I handled things. But it didn't happen until I was ready for it. Everyone does it in their own time.
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Enough with the talking to a professional stuff already. I think she gets the point. She just wants and needs some encouragement people.
I know what it can be like trying to be consistent and it's hard to stay on track without support. You should be able to hop on MFP and get that support. Hang in there and keep trying!
I was overweight for years and then one day something just clicked. Once that happened I figured it out and I just kept losing weight because of how I handled things. But it didn't happen until I was ready for it. Everyone does it in their own time.
She's a teenager showing indicators of disordered thinking and actions. A message board is not the right venue for help.
Saying "enough with the talking to a professional" when that is the one truly logical and potentially helpful course of action is at best enabling unhealthy actions ... at worst encouraging them to the detriment of the OP.
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I know what you're going through. I'm having similar issues. I know working out and eating right is the only way, but lately I've been really fighting depression and eating is how I deal with it. I have issues with how I view myself as well. Everyone will say 'you have to love yourself first, but I honestly don't' know how to do that.
Please just know that you are not alone, and that you will get through this. One a good note, I know working out at least 30 mins is ideal, but I've been doing at least 15 so I'm not sedentary. That's not doing much for weight loss, but at least I'm still pressing along.
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She's a teenager showing indicators of disordered thinking and actions. A message board is not the right venue for help.
Saying "enough with the talking to a professional" when that is the one truly logical and potentially helpful course of action is at best enabling unhealthy actions ... at worst encouraging them to the detriment of the OP.
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But she came here first for support, and all most people had to say was 'get professional help.' She said that she doesn't get support from her family, so getting professional help may be a challenge. People could have at least encouraged her in some way rather than just say 'get professional help.'
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If you are at school, go talk to the school counsellor (either high school or university) - it's free and they will listen (and hopefully help).
Binging comes from both emotional and physiological issues - we can't help with the emotional issues (that's for the therapist). In terms of physiological issues, people who restrict their diet too much tend to binge to make up for it - most people can't help it as it's a biological drive. So, the best thing for you to do is to have a smaller deficit - don't set MFP up for a 2 lb a week loss, set it up for 1/2 lb for now. Eat back at least 1/2 your exercise calories. Let it be a slow loss as that will be more sustainable and won't lead to binging.
If you can't get to see a therapist due to not being in school or being able to talk to your parents about needing one, then I would suggest checking out the self-help CBT here:
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loonylovegood0715 wrote: »I was doing really well, on a two month streak, lost 5 lbs! And then I started bingeing again. I've got a SERIOUS problem with bingeing.
Gained the 5 back, list the little muscle is gotten. Back to feeling sick and disliking myself every day. I'm trying to get back on track, but I don't get my support from my family.
I feel for you, I know how it feels, I just started posting on these boards tonight and have been met with nothing but opinions, ridicule, and everyone has an answer and know what's wrong. Professionals don't always help, parents sometimes just don't understand, and a lot of people on here don't either, what about a friend, someone that's striving for the same goal? Lives near you maybe?0 -
If your family doesn't support you, then lead by example. I know it's hard not to reach for those cravings, try to stay focused and no matter what try not to hate yourself.0
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You could try focusing on another goal...like mastering push-ups or running 5K or achieving a 30 minute high intensity interval training set
Sometimes when we switch our focus away from the scales to a fitness goal we reap unexpected benefits: yes it can be inch loss / overall body composition but also improvements in mood, stamina, confidence and the ability to strut
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Just keep going back to counting calories. One day you will decide you don't need to binge, you would rather lose weight and get healthy.
It takes commitment to stay on track and count consistently.
People on MFP can help you to a certain extent, but it is up to you to commit to taking better care of yourself, and loving yourself no matter what.
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She's a teenager showing indicators of disordered thinking and actions. A message board is not the right venue for help.
Saying "enough with the talking to a professional" when that is the one truly logical and potentially helpful course of action is at best enabling unhealthy actions ... at worst encouraging them to the detriment of the OP.
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But she came here first for support, and all most people had to say was 'get professional help.' She said that she doesn't get support from her family, so getting professional help may be a challenge. People could have at least encouraged her in some way rather than just say 'get professional help.'
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When it comes to eating disorders, all we can do is encourage the person to seek guidance out. It can be harmful to help someone when you aren't familiar with the situation like this. A counselor can look into the reasons why she's doing it.0 -
But she came here first for support, and all most people had to say was 'get professional help.' She said that she doesn't get support from her family, so getting professional help may be a challenge. People could have at least encouraged her in some way rather than just say 'get professional help.'
If you're getting robbed, do you go to a message board for support? How about when your house is on fire? Mid heart attack or stroke? No to all of those .... same goes for an ED. "You go, girl, it's going to be ok" is not a substitute for the professional treatment required. It can be counterproductive, especially when people online become supportive of the behaviors themselves ... reinforcing an unhealthy lifestyle and creating mental and physical harm. There is a reason why EDs require specially trained personnel to treat them.
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A couple of thoughts. If you are truly talking about binging, I agree that professional help along with community support would be best. I sometimes talk about binging, but I know my behavior is not actually binging. ..I will go of track and eat two desserts in a restaurant or at a party after a big meal. Once in awhile I will have a chocolate bar while I walk the dog. Those are my binges, not to make light of people with true binging disorders.
Love yourself and know that you can change. I recently read The Shift by Tory someone from Good Morningo America. I was amazed at how similar her experience was to mine.
In Dec 2011, my wt reached 216. I am 5th 30th tall and was 49 years old. I just decided it was enough. I was to big for a size 20. I had never seriously dieter although I had always felt fat.
I lost 70 pound by July 2012 started exercising and at 52 feel great. I do sometimes go of track. ..summer road trips and Christmas and now have 10 pounds to get off. So a couple of lessons.
I weigh 144 now and feel great. When I was in my 20 this wt felt fat. The difference was how I felt. That feeling made me behave and eat like a fast person. Now I belive I am fit and I behave and eat line a thin person.
This is a daily choice. After decades of making fast choices it can be hard, but it gets a little easier. Look for triggers. When you make one bad choice, it is okay. ..it is your choice, just make a different one.
The big thing for me. .I chose to avoid ALL refined carbs and sugar. These make me cravr more. If I have ketchup I want a big gooey cake. If I choose mustard I am fine. I no longer think about sweets.
If you can control your environment.
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Thank you everyone (: Perhaps I could go to a therapist but between going to a small school without one and my the fact that my parents would never ever pay for a therapist excludes therapy, at least until I can pay for one myself. And yeah, the bingeing is a real problem not just snacking, but I wish that were so! And does anyone have some suggestions for a fitness goal instead of a scale goal like rabbitjb said? And it's nice to know there's such a big place full of supporting people!0
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