Anyone over 30 with no kids and not married

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  • LumberJacck
    LumberJacck Posts: 559 Member
    I'm 50, no children (vasectomised) and never married. I pretty much have given up on the idea of getting married, which is kind of sad, but realistic. From now on it's serial monogamy.
  • matt_evans
    matt_evans Posts: 22 Member
    Married the wrong one which didn't last, got no kids and still looking for the one who I can spend the rest of my life with. Maybe now I love myself a bit more I can find the one who I can love the same.
  • terar21
    terar21 Posts: 523 Member
    Definitely me. The only annoying thing about it is at work everyone has kids and is married and it's all they ever talk about. I literally have nothing to add to their conversations and they have nothing to add to mine.

    I might be a little bitter because as "the one with no kids," I'm always required to stay late or come in early if someone's kids has a baseball game or doctor's appointment. I have one coworker I know is just making crap up.

    No one ever looks at me weird though about not having kids or even being close to having them. They just kinda expect me to listen to random stories about their kids 24/7.
  • Rhea_L
    Rhea_L Posts: 25 Member
    35 soon to be 36. Not married and no kids. No desire for kids (thank god for siblings who've got this covered for my parents). Would like to eventually be in a committed relationship but I'll survive if it's not meant to be :wink:
  • Frequently_Fabulous
    Frequently_Fabulous Posts: 131 Member
    edited January 2015
    27, never married, no kids, happy putting myself #1 and focusing on Me Me Me.

    But married people don't like to hear that, so I just say, "not yet!" when they people ask if I'm married or have kids. Which is often, lol. I'm a grad student and I switch to different departments every few weeks. That is always one of the first things people ask about when you try for small talk.

    I've found out the hard way that honesty is a conversation killer, so I just turn it around and ask them when did they meet their husband or what are their kids up to.

    I used to be offended when people offered me tips and tricks to "catch" a husband, but I realize they're usually well meaning and just trying to make conversation. I found it works well to say I just got out of a serious long-term relationship (which is a bit of a stretch, but they don't know that) and suddenly they turn into cheerleaders for my independence. "Oh, good for you. Enjoy being single. In fact, before I met my husband..." :)

    Clearly I have found my people in this thread. Bless. :D:D:D
  • needernt
    needernt Posts: 675 Member
    edited January 2015
    30 and not married and no girlfriend. I am not unhappy. :)
    It is odd that people before relationship daydream about a love but soon after they get into one they take pity for single days.
  • melaniefave41
    melaniefave41 Posts: 222 Member
    32 and more than happy living life with just my beagle. I'm not opposed to being in a relationship, but I'm also not looking.
  • dln1975
    dln1975 Posts: 62 Member
    Just turned the big 4-0 (today actually), not married, no kids, currently single. I've never felt pressured to have kids and honestly I think my biological clock must be broken because I've never had a desire to have kids. The last long-term relationship I was in was great - neither of us wanted kids and we just had lots of fun, traveling, etc. Obviously, it didn't last and that's okay. I wouldn't have changed a thing! I have a mixture of friends, some are married, some are single, some have kids, some have no kids. I get my dose of kids from nieces, nephews, godchildren, etc., which is perfect as I can give them back to their parents at the end of the day or the end of the weekend! Ha ha! I have thought at times that there must be something wrong with me, that I'm odd or like the OP mentioned "socially awkward" or that I just hadn't met the right guy or what have you, but I am honestly happy with my life at this point in time! I highly doubt kids are in the cards for me and that's okay. As for a relationship, I am not actively looking as I'm trying to work on bettering myself right now (which is why I joined MFP), but if it did happen that's okay too! I really do love being independent, though, being able to take a trip at the drop of a hat, go to the store at 2 a.m. if I wanted to, etc. I have run across people (mostly older relatives of mine) who seem to think our only purpose in life is to "reproduce," but depending on my mood they either get an earful or they just flat-out get ignored!!
  • needernt
    needernt Posts: 675 Member
    I found the urge to marriage in women higher than men generally.
  • gogojodee
    gogojodee Posts: 1,243 Member
    I fit those criteria.
  • the_alexorcist
    the_alexorcist Posts: 71 Member
    34 in July, no kids, not married. Was engaged but not anymore....
    Not really bothered about kids, there's too many of us on the planet as it is :p
  • Blind_Pilot
    Blind_Pilot Posts: 64 Member
    i've just turned 30, been with my boyfriend for over 8 yrs, he has two kids of his own, who i consider my step children. and i have no intention of marrying him or having kids of my own, i'm perfectly happy with the way things are.. but all i get off some friends is demands on when i'm going to have my own baby, and odd looks when i say i'm fine with my situation... kind of annoying after awhile!!
  • Delilahhhhhh
    Delilahhhhhh Posts: 477 Member
    The two greatest decisions of my life, not wanting to have children and not wanting to get married. There has been no significant other in my life for well over 20 yrs and my life is blissfully happy, don't get me wrong I adore the companionship of men and my many interactions with them have been fun, exciting, exhilarating and hot and that is just how it should be,for me anyway.
  • needernt
    needernt Posts: 675 Member
    Some people just detest the opposite sex or they pretend so.
  • 47Jacqueline
    47Jacqueline Posts: 6,993 Member
    67 - never had or wanted kids. Had and having a fantastic life. Been married, had long term relationships, changed careers, didn't stay in a job I hated, traveled...

    Became a personal trainer and Zumba instructor last year and made a ton of new friends. Have a cute great niece who's two, whom I'm hoping to be a bad influence on. B)
  • iceey
    iceey Posts: 354 Member
    Good topic. I'm 42, not married, no kids. I don't get pressured to have kids anymore from my mom (she's given up).

    I do find it hard to relate to others with kids and I have lost many friends over a lack of common interests. I am not a huge kid fan, so I tend to try to avoid them if possible. But there are days when I regret that I didn't have kids, but most of the time, I'm glad I didn't. Have a lot more freedom, but there are times I feel very alone and realize I might die alone without family. A bit scary.
  • MommysLittleMeatball
    MommysLittleMeatball Posts: 2,064 Member
    28. No kids. No desire (now/near future). Married (6 years in April). We never had a ceremony/reception, so, most people view it like a 6 year engagement. Court house was good enough for us. I constantly get asked 1.) When I'm having my wedding/why didn't I have one yet. 2.) When am I having kids. The kids question. All. The. Time. I can't roll my eyes any harder at this question.

    Married/not married. Kids/no kids. There's no set time. Live your life. Things will happened when they're supposed to.
  • lisalips30
    lisalips30 Posts: 1,520 Member
    no kids, no marriage, but trust me i get told a lot about having kids ,at least just 1 and blah blah blah,, not yet sorry
  • tabata_king
    tabata_king Posts: 423
    Me
  • cristina4970
    cristina4970 Posts: 384 Member
    35. not married and no kids. For some reason there are people who can't seem to accept that not everyone wants what they have. I do get asked often about when I'm getting married and having kids. Don't think that's happening.
  • Sinistrous
    Sinistrous Posts: 5,589 Member
    I might need artificial insemination to be able to have kids. #Sads
    But hey, at least the technology exists.
  • needernt
    needernt Posts: 675 Member
    cristina4970 wrote: »
    35. not married and no kids. For some reason there are people who can't seem to accept that not everyone wants what they have. I do get asked often about when I'm getting married and having kids. Don't think that's happening.

    What about boyfriend?
  • ilfaith
    ilfaith Posts: 16,769 Member
    I think how awkward it feels can depend on geography. Until my early 30s, I lived in NYC where none of my friends got married or had kids until their 30s...if they chose to wed and start a family at all. I loved spending my 20s single and free in Manhattan. Then at 32, and recently married, I moved to Jacksonville, FL and discovered everyone I met around my age had children. Of course we'd get the "when are you going to start a family" question...which was actually rather painful, as we were struggling with infertility issues (reason #1 why you should never ask when a person is going to start squeezing out babies). I did manage to have my first child a month before my 35th birthday (and two more kids were surprisingly easy to conceive in the next few years).

  • KiiAttitude
    KiiAttitude Posts: 207 Member
    30 In 4 days ... No kids but I'm happy :)
  • SarassicPark
    SarassicPark Posts: 117 Member
    I'm going to be 27 in 2 months. Been in a relationship for 3 years, not engaged, no kids, never married. I tell people we've been together 3 years and they go "WHERE'S THE RING? You gotta talk to that man of yours..." Uh nope! We know we're gonna get married, but we're in no rush. Same goes for kids. We definitely want them, but we are in NO position to be parents right now.
  • Voncole
    Voncole Posts: 1 Member
    It's really nice to see other people out there like myself. I'll be 30 next month, and all my girlfriends are married and a few are starting to have children. I used to want to whole marriage/kids thing, but like other people said there is no point in rushing something. What's meant to be will be. I don't think it's awkward at all to be without these things
  • portlandsundevil
    portlandsundevil Posts: 213 Member
    I'm 38; no kids, never married, and perfectly happy. I've been on a few really terrible dates and a couple more mediocre ones in the last year or so and I just refuse to settle. I'd much rather be single and happy than miserable in a relationship. I'd like to lose at least another 50 lbs, so if you're reading this and we have similar goals, feel free to add me!!
  • zaxx1953
    zaxx1953 Posts: 389 Member
    Yes, but if I was to be totally honest, I would like to have a family at some point in the next 5 yrs. It isn't just women who have a biological clock; I don't want to be in my 60s at H.S./college graduations.....ok maybe 60/62 at my last kids college graduation would be ok, but even for me there is something preferable about having kids while you are in your 30s. 20s seems wayyyy too young for me given my background.

    A lot of it is simply predicated on where you live. I recently lived in central Illinois for several yrs and middle class, college educated folks have kids REGULARLY in their mid 20s, and like 2 to 4 of them!!

    Up here in Chicago, virtually no one I know had kids by 30, and many people don't have kids till their late 30s/40s.....
  • undergloom
    undergloom Posts: 531 Member
    Already had a relationship that lasted longer than many marriages, except I got to keep all my stuff at the end. I'm new to bachelor life and damn, I've been missing out.
    There are many people who should never, ever have children. I'm one of the few who can admit it; I mean the fact that my houseplants are still alive is a certifiable miracle.
  • apanda4
    apanda4 Posts: 513 Member
    I am 33. I am not married (divorced last year) although I have a partner and I do not have kids.

    I want kids and tried during my marriage, but for whatever reason, it just didn't work out that way. I would love the opportunity to have kids and be a mum. But I know that if it is meant to be then it will happen eventually when the time is right.

    No one has ever pressured me about anything to do with having kids. I got the feeling my ex wasn't too keen on the idea though, but he said he was. I don't regret not having kids with him though - no way would I want ties to him.

    Hopefully it will happen in my future.

    I am friends with a couple who don't have kids and neither of them want kids. They are quite happy spending money on themselves and taking trips overseas whenever they want and can get the time off work. They have 2 dogs and 3 cats that they just adore.
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